I'm a hypnotist (remedial, not stage) AMA

[Eyesopenwideawake]

As per the title! I love my work and happy to answer any questions 😊

@Eyesopenwideawake she didn't give me a reason. I had two sessions.

@Fcukth1s - it depends on what the problem is.

@TearsForFears89 - have DM'd the practitioner list. You could also ask around for local recommendations.

Thank you for starting this @Eyesopenwideawake .

i wanted to ask if hypnotherapy could help me find me again? Basically, from early teens, I realised there is just something about me that people don’t like. I’m never sought out, always an afterthought or done out of duty. As a result, I know I have anxiety about how I’m perceived and what people are actually thinking or saying about me and as such, because I’m trying to be liked, I’ve lost myself because I don’t know what I like or enjoy myself - I don’t know how to be authentic.

sorry for the really long post, and hope I’ve explained enough for you to answer. Thank you

Do you do Past Life Regressions?

Can you please recommend someone near to Stockport please?

@Wheelyweddingwipedout Oh, I feel the sadness in your words 😥 Our personalities are largely formed in our early years but they are not, as previously believed, then fixed for the rest of our lives.

Let me explain (you might want to sit down, it's long). When we are born we are 100% selfish, 100% ruled by our subconscious. Hunger? Tiredness? Need changing? No problem in expressing our needs and bugger what anyone else wants!

As we become aware of the people around us we try to make sense of who they are, whether they can be trusted, who WE are, how we fit into the small world of parents, siblings, grandparents and then the larger world of neighbours, teachers, school friends, strangers, etc. Children are little mean making sponges - absorbing information more rapidly than at any other time in their lives and trying to make sense of it; often with limited knowledge or incorrect or misunderstood assumptions.

At this stage there is no conscious, rational, logical mind to weigh up facts and arrive at a nuanced, objective conclusion. Proof? Ask a 5 year old to believe Father Christmas can visit every house in the world in one night in a sleigh pulled by wingless reindeer and he/she will accept it absolutely. In the same way if grandma screams when she sees a spider then that is obviously the correct response to spiders as grandma can't be wrong.

So, if we believe that drawing attention to our needs is impolite, or that we should be passive to be seen as 'nice', then that becomes part of who we are. These personality traits we learn from the significant people around us are inherited from their own upbringings or early year experiences and can go back for generations. Sometimes we rebel and go in completely the other direction (for good or bad) and sometimes we seek help to understand and change the way we perceive ourselves and others.

I don't want to get into counselling you or offering therapy in a public post but, if you are interested, please contact me. I can help you.

@Hoplesscynic - nope, don't believe in it.

@Finewine76 - will send you the practitioners list.

Children are little mean making sponges - absorbing information

Spot the typo - meaning-making sponges! They are looking for meanings, they do not make mean sponges 😬

Thank you so much @Eyesopenwideawake I had a little cry reading your post because you’re right, I am full of sadness and want to be not sad. I will pm you

Would hypnosis help with an eating disorder? or disordered eating?

This is so interesting, could you pm me with a list too please, I need help with binge eating and emotional eating.

@intwrferingma - Absolutely. I recently helped a young woman who'd been through the system (Cams?) as she couldn't eat solid food. Within 2 sessions she was eating chips and gravy. It's never about the food.

I get that @Eyesopenwideawake
But how would hypnotherapy be different from talking therapy? And how much would you need to know beforehand about a client's particular issues? They can be v complex and ingrained. I'm wondering how hypnotherapy can get to the root of the problem so much faster than many months of counselling? In essence - what's the difference?

Can hypnotism confirm/bring back repressed or partial memories from childhood?

Sorry not read the whole thread so this may have been asked but... I've seen 2 hypnotherapists, neither successful and I'm sure I wasn't hypnotised either time. Am I unable to be hypnotised?

Chronic boneidleness 😁

When I have an interest in learning something new, I find I have this great focus on it and can pick things up really quickly in a short space of time. I have had instructors ask me if I have played a musical instrument before or done a particularly sport before because I pick it up so quickly and that I am a sponge during lessons. But I find my ability quickly stagnates despite giving my instructors high hopes and I always wondered if it was some kind of mental block that stops me from continuing to learn? I have always wondered if hypnotism would help with this, as I have given up so many things from losing confidence after seemingly doing so well.

Could hypnotism help with chronic untidiness? I am hopelessly blind/indifferent to mess.

Sorry to hijack, but I've done hypnosis for chronic pain if anyone is interested in that?
I mean I've been the patient not the hypnotist.

@intwrferingma - In a nutshell the difference is the I'm talking directly to the client's subconscious - their "inner child" if you like (ugh, I'm so non-woo even typing that feels wrong!).

Psychotherapy, talking therapy, psychiatry, CBT, etc all involves communicating with the client's conscious mind which may not be aware of, or want to face, the underlying issues. The subconscious always knows what the problem is. I'll give you an example (details changed to protect identity). I had a client who was a talented musician but who suffered major stage fright and hated anyone looking at him or taking photos.

It took several attempts but we eventually uncovered a situation from his early childhood when he'd been punished for "showing off" by someone he absolutely idolised. His subconscious therefore blocked his enjoyment of performing even though he knew objectively that he was talented. Once we were able to talk to the part of his mind that had been chastised, thank it for doing (as it saw it) a great job but that it could stop now, the stage fright disappeared overnight.

I actually don't need masses of details when I talk to someone; they generally know what the issue is and if they get stuck I simply ask the SC to tell the conscious mind what's going on.

@Glitterspy - Yes.

@YouLookinSusBro - Don't know, maybe they weren't good at it or you weren't in the right frame of mind. I don't use trance so it becomes clear in the initial consultation whether your subconscious is prepared to communicate.

@Fcukth1s - it might be cheaper to hire a cleaner 😉

@Purplepeg - willing to bet my house that that issue started in childhood. Were your parents the same or did they encourage you to try lots of different things but not to persist?

@FetchezLaVache Question is, does it matter to you? If not then you'll struggle to change it.

@doadeer - That's brilliant, would love to hear more about your experiences.

Hi, I tried hypnosis to get over my fear of dental work. It failed after a lot of money and time. She said the problem is with people going near my face, which is very true and that it's "too deep" and worried that I couldn't take it. I was fed up so didn't question further. Now I'm wondering what did she mean?

@CatRatSplat Sadly the only person who can answer your question is that hypnotist. What I can tell you is that the mind will (quite rightly) try to avoid things that are unpleasant or painful. The way I would approach this is to let the subconscious know that the procedure is necessary for your health and that it's going to happen, one way or another. If it wants to help (it always does, the SC is only concerned about your happiness and your safety) then removing the fear will make it quicker and less traumatic.

I recently dealt with a needle phobia for someone who'd been diagnosed with an illness which would involve multiple blood tests and surgery. One less thing to worry about...

Great AMA, thanks for starting the thread.

I’d like to know whether/how much overlap there is with EMDR. I’ve done a bit of that (via video call) and there seems to be some similarities with using the tapping on one’s own shoulders/chest to access the foundational trauma causing particular behaviours. I suppose another way of asking the question is, is the shoulder/chest tapping in EMDR a form of hypnosis?