I am a nanny, AMA (childcare)

[morningsun78]

And also been a nursery worker!

Maddest parent request?

What's harder work - a nanny or nursery worker?

How much do nursery staff judge parents and is there lots of gossiping going on with so many women working together.

@SummerInSun strictly no painting or drawing with the children!

@GLTM definitely the nursery, too many children compared to staff

@Yamaya unfortunately quite a lot, nursery's are a very b**chy environment

Were you a live in or live out nanny ?

How much did you get paid for nannying ?

In east of England, and I get £15 per hour

What’s your real view on childcare and attachment ?
What are the least harmful options? Obviously every situation will be unique and you can’t predict certain things, like a nanny or childminder who leaves after a year will be worse than a consistent nursery. Or an excellent nursery with consistent key worker better than a flaky nanny.
But all things being equal, if you had a baby and were returning to work, what would you opt for?

And do you think parents who work long hours are less bonded to their children?

Can I have your view on the scenario: our nanny looks after our son plus two other children at the same time - the children are all moderately disabled with autism and other conditions. All three families employ the nanny. We currently pay minimum wage (gross) at the moment although our nanny has put her prices up and is now asking for £11 per hour from each of us. She will be making £33 per hour gross. My question is, is this kind of wage normal for a nanny share? I can't help feeling shocked at the prices we must pay.

@Agreeeeed I would strongly recommend a part time nanny and part time nursery. If it was for my own child I would only want to nanny however.

I suggest part time nanny and nursery because it gives your child a chance to have 1-1 attention and social interactions. However after my experience working in a nursery, most children are left to cry all day and are not treated the way they should be. If you don't believe me, work in a nursery for even a week and you'll never put your child in one.

@jclm that is unheard of for a nanny. In my opinion she is clearly trying her luck! If you are in the UK the best wage for a nanny is London. Even then it wouldn't even be more than £17-£25 for three children.

I’ve always minimised the time Mine spent in nursery before three.
Thanks for replying honestly.

I work in an amazing preschool, we do not judge and are a non bitchy environment, 12 members of staff, couldnt imagine working for anyone else.
Hate bitchy people

jclm, wow thats alot, is she qualified and sen qualified? Can she provide the care for all 3 SEN children?

@jclm 3 families at the same time? That would not be legal in England.
Same amount charges for each family, that sound unusual. In a nannyshare (two families whose children are cared for at the same time) I would say that typically the family whose home is being used pays a bit less, as they have the heating/lighting/wear&tear costs.

You would strongly recommend part time nursery to another mother even though you state children don't get treated right and get left to cry all day long.

Wow! Remind me not to take u up on any recommendations lol.