I've been married/divorced 3 times - AMA

[ItsNotLoveActually]

1. Married at 19
2. Married at 24
3. Married at 37 Am now approaching mid 50's. As much as I say, never again, I know I probably would. I used to find it a bit embarrassing to admit but then I looked at it in a different light - yeah, I'm a 50+ yr old female that's had 3 long term relationships, it's not actually that bad.

I've been married and divorced twice. The first one was physically and emotionally abusive, while the second was emotionally cold. I felt railroaded into the first one, as the wedding became this enormous thing I couldn't back out of without hurting others. The second time I was deeply, deeply in love and I'm sad how it turned out.

I spent over a year in therapy and am now in a relationship with a lovely man. We don't have any plans to live together or marry and it's marvellous.

All the best to you and your DC OP.

@Wrongsideofhistorymyarse - Thank you! Pleased to hear you are in a happy relationship now. How did the therapy help you?

After my second marriage finished I started dating someone - an alcoholic like both of my husbands. After two years when our relationship was in tatters he died suddenly of a heart attack. I went into psychodynamic therapy shortly after his death and dealt with so much - my childhood, the way I felt about myself, my relationship history. I'd put up with crap relationships because I didn't value myself at all.