I'm non-monogamous, AMA

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Just as it says. I'm non-monogamous, or polyamorous - I've seen a lot of posts on here being incredulous and/or disparaging of open relationships, and feeling a little grim about that, so, opening myself up to whatever questions people might have.

Also to the possibility that no one GAF.

I'll stick my neck out a bit and say I think I understand what you mean. (Based on my understanding) you would prefer to be in a non-monogamous relationship with your husband but you'd prefer to be with him monogamously than not be with him at all?

-If so, do you get temptations to "slip back" (pardon the terminology) to non-monogamy?
-Does the concept of being with one person forever scare you?

• Do you ever get any desire to leave the relationship due to this?

-What part do you miss most / what part do you miss least of non-monogamy?

• If you're non-monogamous and bisexual by nature, does not being able to date your other preferred gender(s) bother you, or does gender not play a big part in non-monogamy?

-What's your husband's perspective on your relationship with non-monogamy?

Your OP was a bit confusing, but AMA is usually also a breeding ground for negative responses.

@Minster2012 I pee on everything. AMA 🤣

Ah, OP, you should have shacked up with my DP, he's also keen to bonk other people despite being with me.

@SunshineOutdoors

How fucking weird and clunky does the word monogamous sound after reading this thread?

That was exactly my thought!

[quote Joanna1009]@Minster2012 I pee on everything. AMA 🤣[/quote]
You are the first person to call in a jellyfish attack @Joanna1009, and did you know jellyfish are actually Asexual.
FACT

Quick google because that's a very funky fact, @Minster2012.
It says;

"Jellyfish reproduce both sexually and asexually. One generation (the medusa) reproduces sexually and the next generation (the polyp) reproduces asexually" which to me, is even crazier if true

This thread has done me in can't stop laughing!!

Being non-mon can't have been all that great if you were willing to give it up for DH. It all sounds very exhausting tbh.

What a weird thread.

@berrygirlie so it's the jelly fish that have the last laugh?! 😂🤣& @RednaxelasLunch maybe we are all wrong & it's cos OP's DH is soooooo amazing in bed mono is THE only way to satisfy him! Love it. @Joanna1009 brings out the truth

I read the thread title....
Thought hmmm interesting

Read it and laughed until I cried
😂😂

Didn't really work this thread did it OP? Bless you, but thanks for starting it 😀

Interesting, OP - do you see non-monogamy as a state of mind (i.e. you are emotionally/sexually fulfilled by multiple relationships or the potential of them) that you have to consciously suppress with your DH? As in, do you feel that there's something lacking that you're willing to sacrifice for him?

I have (a very small amount of) experience with non-monogamy and I think with the right partners it can be really fulfilling, but it's not something I 'need' nor consider intrinsic to who I am, so I'm interested in the idea of it being fundamental to who you are!

And for anyone on Tiktok interested in NM, @tobejaniefrank is in a polyamorous relationship and does loads of videos about it. So interesting :)

What a load of attention seeking nonsense.

This is the best thing I've seen on mn for a while. I too used to be a bit wild till I settled down. Never thought to tell everyone I'm poly bc I used to spread it around a bit

I googled solo polyamory after another recent thread and thought yup that’s me. Always thought I was just a bit selfish and free with my favours, but now I have an answer to ‘how do you identify?’

Perhaps this should have been titled 'I used to be in open/ poly relationships'

How would you feel if your husband wanted to be non monogamous too?Would you be happier? Any jealousy from you?

Also isn't this a lot of people?

Came for the thread title, stayed for the posts.

Adds my favourite non-existent

@tappingintherain here you are🍿 you're welcome 😉

Brilliant.

As others have said, monogamy is a behaviour not an identity or orientation. If you are fulfilling a commitment to monogamous behaviour that is the definition of monogamous. All of us have the potential to fancy and sleep with others, and sometimes behave non monogamously. We don't imprint on one dude like a baby duck, or mate for life inevitably like Canada Geese.

[quote notyetamumbuttrying]@tappingintherain here you are🍿 you're welcome 😉 [/quote]
Ooh thanks @notyetamumbuttrying

Being non-monogamous is part of me too. So it’s good to hear from someone else in the same position. You don’t stop being non-monogamous if it’s part of you. You stop the activity and make a choice to respect your partner. I’d prefer to be practicing, but my new DP isn’t sure about it. I really miss having connections with other men.

Ehhhhh...

@audreyseybrows such care taken with the spelling....but isn't the work polyamourous? Ah I jist looked it up....with a g involves multiple weddings....with a y is just lots of people having g sex with each other.....

What was the reality TV show about 15 years ago which has a polyamourous contestant? Was it BB?

I used to be polyamourous now I'm just old fat and married and no one comes onto me anymore....ama. (of course that's a joke....I choose to be with my husband!!).