I'm Bisexual AMA

[bmalad]

@feministfemme

How old are you? You sound quite young, if I'm honest. Glad you've never experienced any negativity though, that's a step in the right direction.

Haha, what makes me sound young

@bmalad Sounds about right, I was going to say early twenties. Not sure, just the way you phrase things I guess.

Are your family accepting of your sexuality? Do you have kids / why do you enjoy being on Mumsnet? What is your response to people suggesting it's a "phase" (if they do)?

I'm impressed that you didn't get backlash from the queer community, especially if you "pass as straight"

As a pansexual woman in a relationship with a man, I am often excluded from the LGBT+ community and seen as a straight person lying to seem different.
Do you ever find the same?

@Biancadelrioisback

As a pansexual woman in a relationship with a man, I am often excluded from the LGBT+ community and seen as a straight person lying to seem different. Do you ever find the same?

Yupyupyupyupyup same

Why have you picked a name here that might be seen as male?

@Ohalrightthen phew! It's not just me!
Whenever I go to LGBTQ+ bars (which I prefer anyways) I am looked at and treated as a straight girl looking for a "gay best friend". I am a woman who often in dresses and heels when I'm out and if/when I am questioned I feel like I have to prove my not-straightness.

It's like the automatic assumtion is bi/pansexual man = gay in denial
Bi/pansexual female = trying to fit in

[quote Biancadelrioisback]@Ohalrightthen phew! It's not just me!
Whenever I go to LGBTQ+ bars (which I prefer anyways) I am looked at and treated as a straight girl looking for a "gay best friend". I am a woman who often in dresses and heels when I'm out and if/when I am questioned I feel like I have to prove my not-straightness.

It's like the automatic assumtion is bi/pansexual man = gay in denial
Bi/pansexual female = trying to fit in[/quote]
It fucking sucks. I got it even from my girlfriend, she told me when we broke up that i was just too much of a coward to accept that I'm a lesbian, and that one day I'd wake up next to a man and realise I'd wasted my whole life. It comes from all directions, all the time.

Yeah I've noticed partners of the same sex seem more uncomfortable with my sexuality than partners of the opposite sex.

My first male partner, after we'd moved in together (I was 18 and escaping my abusive family), made me throw away all evidence of former girlfriends, and made me promise I wouldn't leave him for a woman.
Before that, he'd just seen it as titillating/ that he had "turned" me.

[quote Biancadelrioisback]@Ohalrightthen phew! It's not just me!
Whenever I go to LGBTQ+ bars (which I prefer anyways) I am looked at and treated as a straight girl looking for a "gay best friend". I am a woman who often in dresses and heels when I'm out and if/when I am questioned I feel like I have to prove my not-straightness.

It's like the automatic assumtion is bi/pansexual man = gay in denial
Bi/pansexual female = trying to fit in[/quote]
Yes, when people find out my sexuality or if I say I'm with a girl they are shocked or they just don't believe me as if I'd lie about my sexuality

@Ohalrightthen

I'm impressed that you didn't get backlash from the queer community, especially if you "pass as straight"

I get questioned a lot and I feel people don't believe me straight away but I wouldn't say backlash.

@Frdd

Why have you picked a name here that might be seen as male?

Unintentional, I read it b,mala,d

@Biancadelrioisback

As a pansexual woman in a relationship with a man, I am often excluded from the LGBT+ community and seen as a straight person lying to seem different. Do you ever find the same?

I've had a few comments when with a man suggesting that I may have 'made my mind up'. Pan/bi people are always deemed confused.