I’m asexual AMA

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What does that mean?

Asexuals do not feel sexual attraction towards other people.

Have you?, Do you?, Even if not attracted to anyone sexually, can you still be aroused,eg.masturbation

Asexuals can and do have libido.
Not having libido doesn’t equal to asexuality.

Yes, i have always been like this.
Never have felt sexually attracted to anyone.

Yes i can be physically aroused and i do masturbate.

Do you feel it's something you're born with, or can it follow a traumatic event?

It’s something some people are born with,
Just like some people are gay, bi, straight....
So are asexuals.

Have you ever had sexual contact with someone else?

No, i have not.

Do you feel happy with how you are? Do your family know?

Have you been in a relationship and had romantic feelings towards someone? If so, how did they deal with the lack of a sex life?

What gets you going during masturbation If your not aroused by thinking about/ watching other people?

Have you ever been emotionally attracted to someone?

”Do you feel happy with how you are? Do your family know?”

I don’t know about happy per se, it’s just the way i am.
I do have moments where i wish i was ”like everybody else”.
It can be very lonely.

No, my family doesn’t know.
They are very close minded people.

”Have you been in a relationship and had romantic feelings towards someone? If so, how did they deal with the lack of a sex life?”

I haven’t been.
I do have romantic fantasies pretty often, and would like to perhaps be in a relationship one day.

If you are asexual what arouses you make you want to masturbate. I cant understand that part.

” gets you going during masturbation If your not aroused by thinking about/ watching other people?”

Mostly it’s just following the physical sensation, going where it feels good.
Mind does it’s own thing, i could be thinking about daily task....
Sometimes i do think sexual things, but they’re more like entities, rather than picturing people having sex.
I don’t know how to explain it better

”If you are asexual what arouses you make you want to masturbate. I cant understand that part.”

It’s just the libido.
That ”itch” that just shows up, and bugs me, so i take care of it.

I’ve read somewhere someone explaining asexuality as if you felt peckish and you went to the fridge. There are food there, but just don’t feel like eating anything after all.

Does that answer your question at all?

”Have you ever been emotionally attracted to someone?”

I have, but i didn’t know about asexuality back then.
Those were confusing times.

Kind of but then using your example you would eventually eat something as the hunger pang would show up. Which means you are hungry. Is asexual just having no attraction to another person then. I thought it meant you didnt feel any sexual urgings at all.

Nope, it’s the lack of sexual attraction that defines asexuality.

But after that it varies from person to person.

No libido, lower, higher, very high.
Sex repulsed, neutral or favorable.
Some have had sex, still have sex, some never want to.

On the other side, i have wondered what it means and feels like to be sexually attracted to someone!

Do you feel non-sexual attraction to people? Like, do you meet someone and get chatting and feel a spark of connection and want to be their friend, and get that sort of friendship crush when you don't want to have sex with them, but you want to talk to them and spend time with them and think about them a lot? And if you are close to someone, do you want to touch them in a snuggly, loving, but non-sexual way? Like, I feel sexual attraction for my partner, but I also want to cuddle up with him in a way that I also do with my parents and my children and my closest friends.

YES! Yes, i do!

Although i’m not the most touchy-feely person, i would love to be close enough with a person who understands and have a little cuddle.