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I'm Asexual AMA

16 replies

CrockyBetter · 30/07/2020 12:50

Just that really! I'm in my 30s, female, single.

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2Ace2Quit · 30/07/2020 17:17

Hello fellow Ace. This is nice. Looking forward to it.

Do you have a romantic/sensual, etc orientation as well? When did you realise you were or have you always known?

mosquitofeast · 30/07/2020 17:21

Hello fellow Aces. Do you agree we are the lucky ones? Any disadvantages that you have come across? For me, the only real disadvantage is financial, I will always be a single income household. I was very confused when I was younger, because I couldn't work out what I was before I knew asexuality existed. Other than that, I think we get the best of everything really. Independence, free time, not unmet needs. I love it. If it had been a choice, this is what I would have chosen

CuppaZa · 30/07/2020 17:25

Have you always known you were Asexual?

2Ace2Quit · 30/07/2020 17:27

I will always be a single income household

Is this your choice? Lots of Aces have relationships and get married as well. Just wondering if it's something you think you have to do as an Ace or what you've chosen Smile

I agree with the unmet sexual needs. There's happily none.

chunkyrun · 30/07/2020 17:31

Have you ever been in love

CrockyBetter · 30/07/2020 17:36

Hi!

I never knew what asexuality was until maybe 3 years ago. I'd never had a boyfriend/had sex/even been kissed until I was 24. I met someone online but was never sexually attracted to him. We had sex, it didn't gross me out but I also couldn't really see the point in it! I was in love but I didn't fancy him. Does that make sense? I was attracted to his personality not his body. I'm 33 now and I've finally accepted who I am.

The only downside for me is I want to have children. I'm happy to go down the donor root but I rarely get periods due to PCOS. If I wasnt asexual and had a partner it would be easier.

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2Ace2Quit · 30/07/2020 17:38

I was in love but I didn't fancy him. Does that make sense? I was attracted to his personality not his body.

Yep.

Kittykat93 · 30/07/2020 17:39

Do you ever feel sad you don't get to enjoy sex or doesn't it bother you?

monkeyonthetable · 30/07/2020 17:46

Do you ever witness other people's grand passions and lusts with either pity or envy? Or do they just not interest you?

If you had the ability to add strong physical desire to your life, would you do it?

mosquitofeast · 30/07/2020 17:52

@2Ace2Quit

I will always be a single income household

Is this your choice? Lots of Aces have relationships and get married as well. Just wondering if it's something you think you have to do as an Ace or what you've chosen Smile

I agree with the unmet sexual needs. There's happily none.

My choice. I know some Aces have relationships, but I have never wanted to. I tried, when I was young, because I thought I should. It was not for me.
2Ace2Quit · 30/07/2020 17:59

Ah I see now what you mean. Yes I agree re: freedom and independence.

mosquitofeast · 30/07/2020 21:46

I know it isn't my thread, but I hope it is ok for me to answer some of these questions. I am answering from my point of view though. CrockyBetter might give different answers.

Have you ever been in love

no

Do you ever feel sad you don't get to enjoy sex or doesn't it bother you?

no, doesn't bother me in the slightest. Why should it? I'm sure there are lots of things I enjoy which you don't. I could ask (if you are not a marathon runner) Do you ever feel sad you don't get to enjoy marathon running?

Do you ever witness other people's grand passions and lusts with either pity or envy? Or do they just not interest you?

occasional pity, if its all going wrong. No envy, some boredom. I am interested in if my friends are happy or not, I'm interested in how everything is going for them, including relationships. But I have no interest in relationships as such. The subject is quite boring in abstract, even if the welfare of a friend is interesting

If you had the ability to add strong physical desire to your life, would you do it? Definitely not. Sounds like being shackled. I have no interest at all

That's my answers! If CrockyBetter comes back, they might answer differently

chunkyrun · 30/07/2020 22:09

Asexual is that where you have no sexual attraction to other people? Do you still have or experience sexual excitement? Without the aforementioned

CrockyBetter · 31/07/2020 07:00

My answers are the same as @mosquitofeast except yes I have been in love.

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CrockyBetter · 31/07/2020 07:04

@chunkyrun Very occasionally. Usually after reading a sex scene in a book or watching one on tv. It's not that I'm attracted to the person, more the thought of what they are doing, if that makes sense? It's hard to describe.

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monkeyonthetable · 01/08/2020 09:06

This is really interesting. Thank you for your answers.

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