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I’m a farmer’s wife AMA.

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user1488481370 · 08/06/2020 21:20

I’m a farmer’s wife, wife of a farmer, step mother and mother. AMA

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pandafunfactory · 08/06/2020 21:22

Is it true you never get family holidays?

pandafunfactory · 08/06/2020 21:22

Do you worry your other half ex are working too hard and prematurely aged?

WhoWouldHaveThoughtThat · 08/06/2020 21:22

What does your farm produce?

pandafunfactory · 08/06/2020 21:23

Sorry no ex supposed to be there!

But whilst I'm about it - does the farm interfere with your sex life?

draughtycatflap · 08/06/2020 21:25

Did your husband tempt you with his combine harvester and do you now hold the key?

JamieLeeCurtains · 08/06/2020 21:27

Hello! What do you think about the US - UK trade deal being negotiated, especially given the lower food and welfare standards in the US, probably leading to British farmers seeing cheap imports affecting their livelihoods?

tenredthings · 08/06/2020 21:32

Are you worried about the increasingly high chance ( only three weeks left and no sign of progress) of a no deal Brexit ? How would it impact your livelihood ?

Bertucci · 08/06/2020 21:33

Are you a farmer yourself or do you identify just as 'a wife'?

Not being goady, it just seems anachronistic to identify as 'someone's wife'.

Maryann1975 · 08/06/2020 21:42

Are you very traditional in your set up? My friend is a farmers wife and although she helps on the farm, her role is very much preparing food, preparing home baking, keeping the house clean and warm (Laying fires etc) and general house wife stuff.
In your experience of farming families you know is this Typical or are modern farmers more domesticated nowadays?

user1488481370 · 08/06/2020 21:43

@pandafunfactory unfortunately that’s true for us. DSD is 10 and we’ve not yet been on a family holiday - it has to change!
Yes, I do, he’s 41 and is already struggling with his joints and looking his age.
I don’t think the farm interferes with our sex life as much as the children do! However, undoubtedly it will interfere at busy times of year. I think we do pretty well on that score all things considered!

@WhoWouldHaveThoughtThat we produce lamb, mutton and beef.

@draughtycatflap if he had a combine harvester - he certainly wouldn’t be leaving me with the key!

@JamieLeeCurtains - it’s a worry. I feel strongly that our welfare standards and quality shouldn’t be undermined. I hope that the public will vote with their wallets although I understand many will be left with no choice. There’s only one winner when it comes to a US - UK trade deal, it poses a grave threat to British agricultural standards. Johnson is effectively selling us out.

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user1488481370 · 08/06/2020 21:56

@tenredthings yes, that and the US - UK trade deal. We are in unchartered territory.

@Bertucci, I would identify as a farmer too, I grew up on a farm, however have now had the experience of running a business from someone else’s holding, very differently and with in-laws living close by which adds a ‘different’ perspective on the whole thing. I thought the phrase ‘farmer’s wife’ lends itself to questions of a different variety than had I put ‘farmer’.

@Maryann1975 my DH is no domesticated in anyway shape or form. We have three children between us ranging from 10-1 with a baby on the way. If the house isn’t immaculate, I couldn’t care less, if meals aren’t prepared or on time, I couldn’t give a hoot. There are 4 of them and 1 of me.

DH’s father died before he was born, his mother taught him that women took responsibility for bringing up/looking after children, laundry, cooking, housework, lighting fires, being at their husband’s beck and call etc. She was the female equivalent of a chauvinistic pig. I’ve refused to bow to any of the above. DH will do most things without being asked/nagged now. I thought he was a lost cause when we first met though!

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AskingforaBaskin · 08/06/2020 22:34

How can we best support farmers at present and in the event of the trade deal?
Do we purchase the products from the farmers directly? Is it still good to buy from the shops?

mamamilkmachine · 08/06/2020 22:38

When mice chase you do you cut off their tail with a carving knife 😂 sorry couldn't resist

MrsMoastyToasty · 08/06/2020 23:08

Do you have a job outside farming?

MargotMoon · 08/06/2020 23:16

Did you have suspicions that Johnson would stitch farmers up in a US trade deal? Did that influence your EU ref vote? (If you voted)

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