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I'm a step mother and I'll be completely honest. AMA

11 replies

JumpingThroughHoopsO · 01/06/2020 17:01

Ask me anything.

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Sparklingbrook · 01/06/2020 17:04

Do you have your hard hat on? Grin

SassenachWitch · 01/06/2020 17:04

Knowing what you know now, would you make the same decision to become a step parent?

7yo7yo · 01/06/2020 17:05

Do you like your step kids?

GoFiguire · 01/06/2020 17:05

Did you let her go to the ball?

SnuggyBuggy · 01/06/2020 17:08

Do you have your own children with your partner? It strikes me as very difficult starting a family with someone who already has kids, is it as bad as it sounds?

Smallsteps88 · 01/06/2020 17:09

Are you a glutton for punishment? Grin

JumpingThroughHoopsO · 01/06/2020 17:19

Do you have your hard hat on?

Oh yes!

Knowing what you know now, would you make the same decision to become a step parent?

Truthfully, this can vary. There have been times I'd have said no to that question. But the majority of the time, yes I would because I love my husband and want to be with him.

Do you like your step kids?

Yes I do. There have been times in the past when they've been difficult and I struggled to 'like' them. On occasion I've realised this was more to do with the parents than the children and shook myself out of it. We are quite far down the road now and I do have a good relationship with them and like them very much.

Did you let her go to the ball?

I have step sons but hey if they want to go to a ball, that's fine with me Grin

Do you have your own children with your partner? It strikes me as very difficult starting a family with someone who already has kids, is it as bad as it sounds?

No I don't have my own children. We are TTC but have experienced fertility issues. This has been hard. I have thought before I'd find it much easier to be with a man who didn't already have children whilst going through these issues. I can't say yet what it would be like if/when we are successful. But I can see it will come with challenges that perhaps other people may not experience when there are no DSC involved.

Are you a glutton for punishment?

Perhaps Grin

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MarkBrendanawicz · 01/06/2020 17:24

Do you think you'll ever love your step children like they were your own or consider them like your own children? Have you ever wished your husband didn't have them?

JumpingThroughHoopsO · 01/06/2020 17:27

Do you think you'll ever love your step children like they were your own or consider them like your own children?

No, I don't feel like I love them, certainly not as much as I imagine I'd love a child of my own. I don't consider them my children either.

Have you ever wished your husband didn't have them?

Yes. But it's not a constant thought. When I've been going through a particularly difficult patch, yes I've considered and wished for how much simpler it would be.

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feebeedeebeedoo · 01/06/2020 17:33

Sorry to jump on your post but I am also a step mother (although I've now split from her Dad). I can honestly say I love my almost 16 year old step daughter and she was accepted in to my family as if she was my own. We have an amazing relationship and ((before lockdown) she would come to stay with me regularly. My ex and I struggled to have a child together but have DD who is now 4.5. The girls get along brilliantly. Being a step parent can be amazing.

JumpingThroughHoopsO · 01/06/2020 18:04

Thanks feebeedeebeedoo.

I found lots of parts have been great, whilst others have been hard.

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