What would you do? Neigbours yelling at baby

[vodkaicepops]

My neigbours yell at their baby every day. She's just over 1 by the looks of it.

When I say yell I mean like an angry person would yell at a dog that's shat all over their new cream carpets for the 9th time. It's aggressive. Both mum and dad/mums bf do the yelling.

Sometimes they repeeeatedly yell, then she eventually cries then they do this display of ott "OMG YOU OK SWEETIE!!"

They live the house next door. I've kept a record and been in contact witj the council about it who informed me they've been made aware and are investigating it. Apparently someone else has called in and I'm assuming it's the neigbours on the other side.

Social services went round - the guy from the council told me - and apparently unless they accept help there's nothing that can be done atm.

I can't hear any physical abuse but I just want to take that poor kid and from it's "parents" and give it a day of not being yelled at/told she's stupid/told she's a bully/not taken out all day. :(

What would you do? Have I don't enough connecting Council twice and recording the shouting to send to them? I feel like I should be doing more but social services and police have been over so....?

You sadly will have to keep reporting reporting reporting

@Ezira why do you do that though? You post like it’s a normal way to behave towards a toddler

@vodkaicepops definitely report direct to social services if you haven’t yet.

That’s sick, that poor baby and poor you having to sit and listen to it day in day out!

This is abuse though, why are SS doing nothing? If this were one adult shouting daily abuse to another adult, police would be involved. Can you get your data over to police and SS directly?
The parents need psychological advice and input desperately!

I really would also have bitten off my tongue by now OP - I'd be telling them both what sick fucks they both are!

This is awful. Imagine if they lived next to people who ignored it. The child is lucky you're there OP 😔

Tbh I'd probably yell in 'Are you OK in there?' ! To get a reaction,make them realise they can be heard and it's not normal.

@Ezira
You sound as though you may need some support yourself.
You should not be constantly shouting at a toddler, but talking and explaining in simple terms.
A toddler should definitely not be in an unsafe garden unsupervised.
What if your bellowing causes them to wobble/ jolt in shock and loose their balance and fall on to the concrete?
Are you able to access any help from HV, family, online support groups?

Please contact social services if you have not done this yourself already. They need to hear from you.

Bloody hell. Not sure which is worse, the people in the OP or @Ezira shouting at her toddler till he cries because she has an unsafe garden. You don't even train a dog like that.

@SallyWD That absolutely breaks my heart

NSPCC

I was also going to suggest NSPCC.

Nspcc again, they are excellent at fighting social services for you and I would be very surprised if they didn’t help get more results. I work in this area and currently social services are not acting in children’s best interests (I know, my opinion only before anyone jumps down my neck). Well done for continuing to care, I hope the poor child is helped very soon.

Oh god this is awful. I think I would shout something like ‘are you ok in there?’ too.

It would make me feel physically angry. Not on at all. I bet her little brain has been damaged already

@Ezira get up off your arse, go into the garden, crouch down low and talk to your toddler FFS - constant shouting "every ten minutes" is teaching your child how to communicate, i.e. your son will shout at you, his friends, his peers and it'll be your fault.
A telling off is one thing, shouting every little thing is absolutely abhorent.

Are you lot ok? @Ezira don't listen to the stupid things being said to you, it's not abuse at all. However the OPs situation is completely different and it sounds like the childs parents are going out of their way to be nasty and abusive towards the innocent child.

Completely speculative but often that transition from a parent being angry to a parent being kind is triggered by violence. It’s the release and often the peak of the anger.