Living the other side of the world

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Hi everyone,

I’m really in need of some impartial advice, I can’t really talk to family about it because they have such strong opinions.

I moved to the other side of the world to follow my husbands career in the military, it’s been difficult because I’m close to my family and he is very often away from home with work. When we first moved he said it would only be for a few years so he could fulfill his career aspirations but 5 years on we are still here.

We’ve since had a daughter and another one on the way. I’m really struggling being so far from my family and friends bringing up my daughter alone most of the time. I’ve tried talking to my husband but he doesn’t want to move and still has goals in the military.

Should I just suck it up and wait for him to be ready to leave? I don’t want to leave him. But I’m really struggling without my family around me and feel so sad knowing they’re missing out on my children. And that my children are missing out on so much of their family.

Thanks.

I think you might need to post this in a different subject to get a response. Try getting this moved to chat or the relationships board.

Has your husband put in for a move or does he just want to stay where you are? I think he needs to try and get you moved back home, saying he has career goals isn't good enough if it's at the expense of your happiness.
You've compromised with him by moving there for 5 years and he needs to know it's time to come back now.

Is he UK forces? There is a Facebook group for the wives, in which you can post anonymously. You may get some support and advice from other wives that have been in your position.

Thank you for the advice! How do I get the message moved? Sorry I’m new to this.

He is New Zealand military but I’m British. He hasn’t put in for a move, he doesn’t want to join the UK military so it would be a career change if we moved back there.

I wouldn't move from NZ to the UK, it's a much better way of life in NZ.

I know what you mean, but I really liked my life in the UK. And I don’t think living without family is a better way of life.