I used to weigh 31 stone (196kg)

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I now weigh half that thanks to weight loss surgery.

Ask me anything, about being fat, the surgery or whatever else..

Has your relationship with your husband improved?

What do you actually weigh now? Do you have a goal weight?

I hope you don't mind me jumping in op and answering questions as well but if you went private I thought an nhs response might add info! I will butt out if I am annoying you!

I actually ended up in a private hospital as my hospital was booked up. I still went to the support group there and pre op and stuff. I was in hospital two nights at the weekend and had to leave by 12 so they could get the room ready for the private patients on the Monday! I had to wear these boots to stop blood clots overnight but was walking around the next day farting as they put gas in as part of the op. Oh I had the sleeve done as well.

There is no post op support unless your hospital has a group which mine does once a month. I went for a couple of months then decided I needed to take charge. I have been eating rubbish over the holiday but have taken control again and lost three pounds.

Oh and I have done two half marathons (very slowly!) since my op. I would never have been able to do that before. I now exercise for health.

You say your husband did not find you attractive when big. But what is his honest opinion of you naked these days with the loose skin etc?
He wouldn't say but I can't imagine he thinks my body is attractive.

Some fruits and vegetables can be prepared to have the same texture as pasta and chips

Lies. I don't know how many times in my life people have made such claims to me. I can't tell the difference.

I honestly think you have to look to some self help. Because you are still risking your health, you are at high risk of metabolic disease, cancers, heart disease etc. As you probably know.
I have and continue to do so. I'm well aware of my health risks, but it doesn't change my ability to wider my diet.

Excellent diet/weight loss/sensible eating and weight gain explanation piece in the Sunday Telegraph

Can I ask you more about your issues with food as I too have issues with texture smell and even sight of food so have a very very restricted diet. I'm just about to go and get counselling about in fact
Feel free.

Sakura7 I've tried foods prepared in many different ways.

I went private, it was around 12k. I also paid for a few physio sessions to help my knees.
I was in hospital 3 nights. I could walk when the morphine wore off, well shuffle really. It took around 3 weeks to me walking normally.

Has your relationship with your husband improved?
Immensely.

What do you actually weigh now? Do you have a goal weight?
95kg. My goal is just to get to a healthy weight.

Thank you for your honesty 💐. I absolutely do not think that surgery is an easy option. I admire your achievement, well done x

Food now: two slices of toast with butter, 4 cookies, small portion of chips with cheese and one slice of bread, one packet crisps, a cheese scone with butter.
On days off I drink about 8 cups of tea, when working I drink 2 cans of flat cola (HC role, 12/13 shifts and the cola keeps me going).

Did you hear any of the advice given by the dietition?

Hi op. It's very interesting to hear that you have texture issues with food as well as other sensory issues. It is very likely they are related, have you looked into sensory processing disorders? I totally get that you are unable to eat certain foods and that it isn't something that you can just get over. I don't think the people criticising your diet get that you physically cannot eat the foods. Do you take any multi vitamins or supplements?

I'm massively overweight and also regularly eat until it hurts, I just don't seem to have an off switch. Do you think you now have an 'off switch' when it comes to eating? Or does it just hurt sooner because your stomach is smaller so therefore you eat less?

Did you hear any of the advice given by the

How rude. Read the thread, it's not she doesn't know how to eat healthy but for physcological issues can't eat meat, fruit or veg.

Op can you not eat fish either?

I was also going to suggest sensory processing issues and ask if you take vitamins?

I have sensory processing difficulties and I have a restricted diet but luckily I do eat a range of fruit and veg, I take a multivitamin as well to make sure I'm not missing out on anything. My main problem with food is I never feel full so could and would eat huge amounts. I'm trying to be very strict with my portion control and train myself to remember most people wouldn't eat as much as I'd like to and ignore the hunger.

My dd has ASD and she has a limited diet too but I make sure she has a multivitamin and we have tried food in every way it comes - blended, pureed, mashed, chunky, cooked, raw, with and without sauces, frozen, shredded/finely cut, dried fruits and fruit chips etc

It hurts and also you have to throw up if you eat too much. Sorry if this is disgusting but you get the foamies which means you have to throw up foam and the last bits you ate. It's not pleasant and you have no choice in it. You learn when to stop.

do you mind me asking why you can’t travel on the Caledonian sleeper? My husband and I have tickets booked, and now I’m panicking as he’s 24 stone... is there a weight limit or something? I never saw it mentioned anywhere...

Sorry I didn't see this, or mean to worry anyone.

The sleeper things is rather personal, I used to use it a lot but tend to travel by day now because I don't like it at my current size. The rooms are tiny; I struggle to move about in them never mind get changed and I feel like I fill the bed. As far as I am aware there is no limit but I feel totally cramped. More so when the upper bunk is in its active Position.

That said there are new trains on now so depending what you have booked you may not even be in that room type.

I take a multivitamin.

Do you think you now have an 'off switch' when it comes to eating? Or does it just hurt sooner because your stomach is smaller so therefore you eat less?

I certainly have an off switch now. I eat those small danish bread slices and two is a perfect amount for me, I feel satisfied but not full. The best part about the surgery is that I do now have the ability to control my portions, which is helped by having to drink a while before a meal, chew each bite of food for 30 seconds and then wait 30mins before I can drink. It really helps to have that structure and pacing, allows you room to recognise when you're no longer hungry.

On the odd occasion when I have taken one bit too many then I pay for it. Not only do I get "the foam" as stayingaliveisawayoflife says but I start to sneeze uncontrollably. It's very unpleasant.

Op can you not eat fish either?

Fish and tomatoes are the foods I absolutely detest, I don't like the taste at all.

I have considered some type of sensory processing issue before, I've not really looked in to it much and I probably should.

Sneeze!? That's the last thing I was expecting you to say!

Yup, proper snotty sneezing.

I have no idea about the mechanics behind it, it's very odd.

OP, I'm glad you take multivitamins - that's a bit of a safety net for your immune system.

You've done amazingly well and although your diet lacks some things it seems to work for you, so maybe it's worth sticking with until/unless you find some way to get over your sensory issues. You might find that the weight loss slows as you shed more weight, as your body requires less calories to function, so you might need to tweak portions down a bit, but you are an inspiration so be proud of what you've achieved. The fact that you needed surgery to assist you doesn't detract from your achievement.

Oh it's something to do with having a full stomach. My nose runs like mad even when I don't have a cold when I have eaten enough. It's a weird signal but it works and I try not to ignore it because the foam is not nice. It doesn't happen often but it is a reminder of the surgery and not to push it!