I’m a vicar's wife, AMA

[RainbowWings84]

I won’t get too much into matters of faith and theology, but otherwise go right ahead!

[GeneticTest]

Rainbowwings, I am married to an MP, and I know of several MPs & wives who are good friends with vicars & their wives/husbands.

Everyone is a parishioner/constituent... you can be public property all the time.

[RainbowWings84]

@RosaWaiting my DH would, I would. I have been in the situation of supporting people who were in need of emotional support and I tend to talk in broader spiritual terms, and if I refer to God/Jesus I will refer to those as my beliefs, not as ones I expect a visitor to share.

I can’t say the same for every church, or every person in every church, but usually I think Christians (in this country!) are aware that ours is not the only viewpoint, and that people who come into churches aren’t necessarily Christian, and are willing and glad to offer support to anyone who needs it.

[RainbowWings84]

I’m off to bed now but will carry on replying tomorrow!

God bless

[ShadyLady53]

Goodnight and God Bless @RainbowWings84 😇

[smallbean]

Another vicar's wife here! Hello!

[isittheholidaysyet]

And I'm another clergy wife. There seem to be a few of us on here.

[RainbowWings84]

Good morning to all the clergy wives!

@GeneticTest I can see how that can happen. Our local MP's wife is a former colleague of mine - we both tend to keep out of the limelight, though we did enjoy being "invited dignitaries" in the Town Hall on Remembrance Sunday one year (where DH preached a belter of a sermon on inequality, increased tensions and strident politics making a mockery of the sacrifice of previous generations!)

@RaymondReddington I definitely get frustrated with the CoE on a national, local and parochial level. I try to acknowledge the hard work of others as much as possible, and the fact that I don’t fully understand all the systems, but there are a lot of things that grate on me badly.
If asked my opinion, I am quite honest and say yes, the church has flaws. One of the biggest is the child abuse scandal which is still not being handled right! But there are a whole host of other issues. But I accept that we are all human, all flawed, and that where hearts are in the right place a little patience might be required. And then I go to the pub and rant to my friends 

@ShadyLady53 that is sad, and I’m sorry, but yes, I think for some of us sharing views is very important, and a happy relationship is dependent on that.
I’m reminded of the thread here recently about a woman who couldn’t talk to her husband about Brexit, and how outraged some people were that it mattered so much to her. But I totally understood - If DH and I had opposing views on that, or any other aspect of politics (since it is so important to us), I don’t think we would work as a couple. That’s not to say I don’t enjoy informed debate, but I think I need my home to be my echo chamber/bubble/safe space, so I can go out and seek debate rather than have it constantly with DH!

[Sexnotgender]

Are you all CoE? I said vicar yesterday but technically I’m a minister’s wife as CoS.

[mogloveseggs]

@RainbowWings84 thanks. I've come to terms with it now but wonder what if every now and then.

[KittiesInsane]

Did you get married in a multi-vicar ceremony? We once went to a wedding attended by a good 10 or so vicars, and officiated by two of them at once!

Do you swear in public? And do people look aghast if you do?

[isittheholidaysyet]

sexnotgender

He's CoE but I'm RC

[Sexnotgender]

Did you get married in a multi-vicar ceremony? We once went to a wedding attended by a good 10 or so vicars, and officiated by two of them at once!

Our tiny wedding nearly had more ministers than guests hazard of the job!

[DreamingofSunshine]

What does high anglocatholic mean, and low evangelical?

[applesandpears33]

Do you ever feel the need to change how you behave or restrict what you say because of your DH's calling? Do you feel you can be completely yourself?

[rosiepony]

Thanks so much for the response

[smallbean]

I'm CofE.

[Okurrrrrrrr]

I'm so sorry if this is completely ignorant of me, I really don't know the first thing about CofE BUT -
Is he celibate??