My mum encouraged me to sell my body - AMA

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My mum, whom I haven't seen now for a fair few months, encouraged me to sell my body when I was 19.

It's a very sore subject and I've changed my name for this

Why did she do that? Had she done it herself?

Wow. How did that happen?

That's shocking. Was she ok when you were growing up?

Wow. No questions just you destved a better Mum than the one you got

I have no words OP. Sending you a huge hug

Did you agree? Why?

@WellVersedInEtiquette I rented my own flat at 19 and I got made redundant from my job so I had no money to pay the rent. Instead of advising me to get a normal job she said that I could make a lot of money by selling my body and that's when she told me that she does that for a living.

Did you do it?

@LinusSula I always thought growing up that she was jealous of me, she always talked negative (and still does) behind my back. Never paints me in a good light. She's very vindictive, I didn't realise this when I was younger as you just don't think your mum is against you.

It must be a hell of a shock to realise that your mum is against you. She sounds really horrible - I'm so glad you don't have anything to do with her now.

Were you aware of her having sex for money before that? Did she work from home?

Have you been to/do you plan to go to counselling? Helped me massively with a narcissist mother.

@HollowTalk no, it never crossed my mind that she does that for money. She doesn't work from home, I didn't live with her anyway. I lived with her until I went to high school, I then lived with other family members until I left home at 19.

@WellVersedInEtiquette I will look into counselling, I block it out a lot these days

I think counselling would be massively beneficial.

Do you have a family of your own now? Do you find it easy to trust people, after your mum treated you like that?

@Namechangedforthis8 I think it could really help. I had some huge issues that hung over me for many years. My first session with the counselling service altered my whole outlook.
This says so much about your 'mother' and nothing about you. I cannot imagine a world in which I would encourage my daughters to do that. Plus if it was so lucrative why couldn't she just support you until you found something new? X