AMA
I was adopted at age 15- Ask me anything
zipip · 18/03/2019 16:36
It's quite unusual for a teenager to be adopted, I was placed into care at 10 and then adopted at 15
zipip · 18/03/2019 16:54
Yes I was 14 when i was first adopted and then the adoption took about a year to be finalised
RoomForMore · 18/03/2019 16:57
Did they always intend to adopt you? Or did they foster you and then realise they wanted you to be in their family permanently?
ApolloandDaphne · 18/03/2019 16:57
That's lovely. You must have really gelled with your foster carers.
Do you have any ongoing contact with members of your birth family? Do you have siblings?
Reggety · 18/03/2019 17:01
I don't know if it's polite to ask or not so sorry if it isn't, but were you first taken into care at 10? Was it hard if you had had 10 years at home to suddenly be moved into the care system?
zipip · 18/03/2019 17:12
Did they always intend to adopt you? Or did they foster you and then realise they wanted you to be in their family permanently?
At first they were only fostering me, i thought i was only going to be there for maybe a few months, possibly a year or two like I had been in previous foster placements. However within a few months I had really become part of the family and we started talking about adoption
Do you have any ongoing contact with members of your birth family? Do you have siblings?
I don't have many living biological family members, I've had some contact with some cousins and an aunt but we don't speak much anymore. I have a younger sister who was only 4 when we went into care, we were separated almost immediately but I'm in contact with her now. My adoptive parents have biological daughters who i see as my sisters
zipip · 18/03/2019 17:19
I don't know if it's polite to ask or not so sorry if it isn't, but were you first taken into care at 10? Was it hard if you had had 10 years at home to suddenly be moved into the care system
It's okay to ask, after all this is ask me anything. I was taken into care at 10, I had fairly normal home life before then so it was really hard to adjust, I was very quiet at first which is unlike me
PotteringAlong · 18/03/2019 17:21
I had fairly normal home life before then
If your home life was normal, why were you permanently removed at 10?
PotteringAlong · 18/03/2019 17:38
I’m so so sorry, that must have been incredibly hard for you and your sister 
Luaa · 18/03/2019 17:40
Do you resent being separated from your sister? I know if we died and my children had to go into care, they would hate to be separated. Seems so unfair to make things harder than they already must have been.
ApolloandDaphne · 18/03/2019 17:43
Were you angry that you were split up from your sister?
zipip · 18/03/2019 18:03
Being separated from my sister was horrible, I was very angry about it. she was adopted quickly and at first I still saw her but that stopped after a while
tobee · 18/03/2019 20:35
Can I ask how old you are now?
I'm so sorry about the sudden total disruption of your previous family life.
drspouse · 27/03/2019 15:32
I'm an adoptive parent so I know how unusual this is - I've heard there is some resistance e.g. from SWs sometimes to the idea of a child being adopted at this age in the UK as it's not the usual practice. Was this true for you?
Also, do you get the impression your sister was placed separately because they thought she'd be "easy to place"?
And finally, were there other family members who might have taken you in? I know of a child at my DCs' school whose mother also died unexpectedly and her stepfather said he would take her in but he wasn't approved and - six months later - he still wasn't so she was still in FC and he now seems unlikely to do anything about it now.
Zoewowey · 02/04/2019 11:28
How have you come to terms (if you feel you have) with what happened and the adoption etc? Lastly, you said it's unusual for a teenager to be adopted, why is that & have you seen your records?
Mrsong · 03/04/2019 20:33
Omg that's so incredibly sad. So you had a normal life up till 10, then your mum died suddenly and you were put into care and separated from your sister ! Was there no family to take you in? That is the stuff of nightmares
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