I was a doorstep baby

[doorstep234]

I was left on a doorstep at 3 days old AMA

I think your sympathetic attitude towards your birth mother is wonderful. Have you always felt this way about her, or have you felt anger towards her at any point?

When did you tell your children?

Have you read Kate Adie’s book on this ? Did you find it helpful ?

I’m an adoptee in my 50s and only met my biological mother recently.

Don't really have a question but I really admire your compassion for your birth mother and I'm glad you've found some measure of peace. I hope one day you are able to fill in some of the blanks of your genetic heritage.

Oh wow.

I read a story about a baby found out on moorland. Incredible.

Have you done the DNA ancestry thing ? It’s a way to find connected reiatives.

Can I just point out that the OPs situation is very different from that of a person who was left on moorland as a newborn.

The OP was left on a doorstep where she was meant to be found immediately . She was properly dressed in a babygro and wrapped in a blanket.

Not just any doorstep, but one of a community member who was kind and would know what to do. Someone who would make sure the baby was safe.

Those are the actions of a woman ( very probably a young teenager ) who loves her child but doesn't feel she can keep her or even let anyone know she has given birth. It was almost certainly a concealed pregnancy and she probably gave birth alone. Can you imagine how terrifying that must have been ?

Yet Even in her physical and mental pain, she made sure her baby was safe. That’s the actions of a very troubled and frightened young woman - but a kind and loving one.

She didn’t leave her baby out to die. She left her baby where she knew she would have a good life.

Ok - I get that they're not the same.

It's a story that hopefully we've heard the last of in the UK anyway.

OP do you know what happened between being found and then adopted? Were you taken to hospital/fostered?

Do you know whether the authorities tried hard to find your mother?