I've had a shit year and I don't want to do xmas

[fairyofallthings]

Ask away if you wish.

I don’t want to either.

What happened in your year to make it shit?

Me too

What are your plans for Xmas day?

Present opening in hand morning
See relative who should be in sheltered housing but can't get in, have lunch.

Then off to see another elderly relative who won't know who we are.
The place I worked closed down unexpectedly so I decided to retrain but I hate what I chose but have to stick with it because we need the money.

I'm with you.

Just going through the motions really in a strange detached way with year....

Are things likely to get better after Christmas @fairyofallthings? Is there something to look forward to?

I’m sorry you’ve had a bad time of it OP. Can I ask, if 2019 is the complete opposite and you have the best year ever, what would Christmas 2019 look like?

Your relative who won’t know who you are will still know that you’re there.

My mum died 3 months ago. She used to visit her mum, who had altzeimers, most days. She always believed that she could’ve been anyone, but she wanted Grandma to have visitors.

Grandma asked for ‘my girl’ after mum had died and wasn’t visiting anymore. Two weeks ago, Grandma died. I think she missed my mum.

Don’t underestimate the power of just being there for someone with dementia. They might not be able to articulate it, but it makes a difference.

I used to sing Grandma’s favourite ditties, then leave out a word- she would sing (or rather, growl) it. Music is a wonderful tool for communicating with lots of dementia sufferers.

I hope you manage to enjoy the day.

Thank you Shockers and I'm sorry for your loss.
2019 will see some deaths, unemployment,no money and GCSEs.

Xmas 2019 would involve an enjoyable job, money, a relaxing time and no dementia.