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My son passed away from suicide aged 21 AMA trigger warning
mumtoanangel · 26/08/2018 23:11
I thought this might help me to talk about it and it might help others
2littleguineas · 26/08/2018 23:15
I don't have the adequate words to express how sorry I am for what happened to your son
BrokenFlipflop · 26/08/2018 23:17
Gosh I really am so sorry. Can you tell us all a little bit about him, his character, likes and dislikes.
toothtruth · 26/08/2018 23:19
that is unimaginably sad
how long ago did this happen? Was it a sudden thing or had he been suffering from some type of long term mental health issues?
mumtoanangel · 26/08/2018 23:23
Thankyou.he passed away in Jan 2015.he was my first child and we were very very close.he suffered from aspergers syndrome and struggled to manage his behaviour.we begged mental health services for help from the age of 16 when he started suicide attempts but they just kept fobbing us off until in the end I think he had enough of trying .he was a very funny loud boy.always my baby
Fanjango · 26/08/2018 23:44
Omg. I'm so sorry this happened to your family. I know asd has a significantly higher rate of suicide than NT population. My sons asd, daughter has provisional dx of asd also. Can I ask when the issues started? My sons been diagnosed as gad and medicated, in Sen school and doing better. Daughter having art therapy and often very down on herself. Both of them started to have greater issues from the end of primary. Can you pinpoint when you knew something was wrong? I hate to ask but want a heads up from someone who really knows. Thank you for taking the time to do this, I hope you gain some comfort in helping others, I can't imagine how these years have been xx
mumtoanangel · 26/08/2018 23:54
My son was diagnosed with aspergers when he was 10 .he never really seemed to fit in anywhere ( in his eyes) and his behaviour could be very impulsive.he was prone to very violent outbursts but he could also be very loving.he always felt awful after an outburst and I felt awful because I shouted but it was all so hard managing the behaviours .I wonder why if this is why he took his own life as he didn't like being the way he was but I will never know as he never left a note.i feel incredibly guilty as I used to get very stressed
Fanjango · 27/08/2018 00:06
Thank you for taking the time. Never feel guilty. You asked for help, help I am so far lucky enough to have accessed and have a support through fb groups with similar issues. But there are no members I'm aware of where a child has done this. Puberty seems to set off anxiety and stress which asd children are so prone to. I hope you find peace xx
mumtoanangel · 27/08/2018 00:14
Thankyou.im glad you have found support.in the 3 and half years since my son passed I have learnt how to cope.its been hell if I'm honest but I now run a bereavement coffee morning in my town once a month which I have made some lovely friends.im so proud of myself for setting it up.my friends and family support is fantastic and I do enjoy holidays and days out now which I thought I never would again .I take one day at a time and this is what has got me through
Sammysees · 29/08/2018 11:47
I'm so sorry for your loss. My ds (18) also has ASD and has attempted suicide twice. First at aged 15 and recently (9 weeks ago). He has never ever been violent and has been a recluse since aged 12. Bullied all through secondary school. He is currently in prison as he broke the law to get what he needed to try and take his own life (does that make sense without spelling it out?) I have spent the last 3 years waiting for him to try again and I will probably spend the rest of my life waiting for the phone call to tell me he has done it. I lost his twin sister when she was 1 year old and he is now my only child. I can imagine the agony you are going through and although I have no questions I just wanted you to know that you are a very brave and strong lady
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