OHs family are Jehovah witness

[justrollingwithit]

We're not married and have 1 child..

Is your OH in contact with his family?

Does your OH grow up as one? If so what made him leave?

If your child needed a transfusion do you know how would they react?

Jaffacakes - yes he is, although contact is quite minimal

Reggiekray - yes he did. From what he tells me, he was never fully into it, questioned a lot of things etc. Never really believed.

Henrietta - yes this was something we spoke about before conceiving LO. As the answer would have been a dealbreaker re us having children or not!! He would have no objections with LO receiving a blood transfusion, although is not sure he could ever have one himself.

Is having sex outside of marriage frowned upon by JW?

Have you been to see apostasy at the cinema?

Seth - yes very much so!!

Fly by - no but I want too! Have you seen it, would you recommend?

Was your partner brought up a JW or did his parents become involved in the religion at some point during his childhood years?

just so their son ran off with a worldly woman !

My step mothers family were JW and I wasn’t allowed at her sisters wedding as I was heavily pregnant at 16. I remember her sister being dragged in to a meeting because she played Maddona in a school show and was made to feel shameful about it. I know lots of girls that left and their families kept them at arms length.

The JW are not the cute little women that knock on your doors that most people think ... one of the most prejudice people I have ever met tbh.

Luckycat - yes he was brought up one from birth

Songbird - hahaha yes, I don't think I'm spoke about nicely in they're household!

I completely agree, I didn't know much about them prior to meeting my oh, just the knocking doors and transfusion bits. However the more I hear, the more it makes me shudder! His parents are very calculating and manipulative.

Yes just my stepmothers were. Her dad was just odd! They even took me to clean the Kingdom Hall once but I wasn’t good enough to go to there bloody wedding.

Do they see your dc much ?

@justrollingwithit , yes I have. I have a friend whose family were JW. It was very enlightening and very true of her journey.

Does your oh celebrate Christmas with you? I know several adults who have been brought up jw and left. All but one absolutely LOVE Christmas and all it brings!

My husbands mum is a Jw
And so is his bro and sil
He and his other bro were raised as them
He has been profoundly affected by it
But it is not forced on us

Songbird - the bloody cheek of them taking you to clean!

Maybe every 6/8 weeks or so. They see their other grandchildren weekly though as the parents are married 🙄

Flyby - I've read that it can be quite upsetting for an ex JW to watch, not sure if my OH would want to watch it to be honest.

Bullying - yes he bloody loves it! He gets so excited, definitely making up for lost time. He also loves birthdays, can give or take any other holidays though.

just that’s a shame but tbh it’s probably for the best. It’s really weird as you hear so little about JW but they can be quite segregated. But I suppose you have that in all corners of religion.

Did it put you off your oh when you met him? Did he leave for you?

Mightbe - yes I would say my OH is hugely affected by it too. That's really good that your husbands family do not push it onto you. It's very much pushed onto us, my OH's father likes to use emotional blackmail. It's heartbreaking to watch to be honest, I'd love to tell them to fuck off and leave my OH alone!

It is a shame but the way I see it is, they're the ones missing out, not my LO. Also the mind games and total control my OH dealt with as a child is the last thing I want for my LO!

It didn't at the beginning but when I started to look into it I did make me think twice.
He did officially leave when he met me but he hadn't been not following the 'JW rules' for a long long time before I was in the picture. Think I just gave him the balls to actually do it!