AMA DC are going to have 14 siblings by Halloween

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NC as outing, obviously.

Just told a friend about the situation and she found it interesting so I thought I'd see if anyone else did. Probably not so apologies if so.

ExH is going to become a father for the 10th and 11th time. He also has a step son and a granddaughter.

I have 6 children including the 3 we have together and a step daughter.

In about 3 months time my eldest children will have 14 siblings and even I can't quite believe it. We've not always known about them. AMA.

Wonder what he is going to call the latest two, he must be running out of names.

OP why did you choose to enter such a car crash?

Is he really hot / charismatic?

Is he really rich and/or handsome?

Speakout she's already said he hadn't told her about eldest three children so she didn't know it was a car crash she was entering.

What is mum 6 thinking?
I don't know. He really does seem more settled and responsible with her than he ever did with me. They were on/off from practically as soon as I left him and it was when they got married that she encouraged him to remake contact with his other children. He has seemingly been more honest with her... but who knows. If I was in her situation I'd have run for the hills, but I never was. She absolutely knows about how many women and children he's abandoned. She is a good woman and I really like her (obviously didn't at first!) but I do worry for her.

She also is mum to the 13 year old from a previous relationship. Forgot to add that in the last post.

How much do your children understand?
They know that their dad wasn't around for a couple of years and that they don't get to see him much. They aren't aware of the cheating/lying/etc and they won't until they're older. They don't have much of a relationship with him - since we split they've seen him 11 times total, but they do Skype (we live in the UK whereas he doesn't) - they do love him and see him as a father, but they also have my now DH as a father figure who loves them very much and is very present. We've (the children and I, plus DH and his daughter) been having family counselling and will probably continue to do so for a few years to come.

How have you coped?
At first I was understandably angry all the time, but I moved in with my sister back in the UK and just got on with stuff (he made absolutely no effort to contact us so as my children were still very small I just got on with everything and tried to forget he existed). I was remarried when he got back in contact and had very much moved on, so I just put on a face for the kids. Dh and EXH actually get on fairly well given the circumstances and we obviously all want the best for the kids so we just deal with it.

Iwantaunicorn - she does know how everything, when I kind out about her I made sure she knew (and he had already told her). And I guess it's easy to be a father of 14 when you only parent the ones you live with.

Is he hot/rich/charismatic/handsome?

He's always been very attractive, fit, charismatic and handsome - and also a really good talker/listener. Not rich though, although yes now. Only in the last 18 months has he been what anyone could describe as comfortable financially and probably 6 months ago he started earning a lot more. When we were married we were basically poor, as he put most of his earnings back into his work (buying equipment, travelling, etc) to build his career (music industry).

It’s probably more than 11 in all likelihood.

sisternotcisterf - you're probably right.

Is he embarrassed to have had so many kids with so many women.

I hope no that he has a bit more money that he will do the right thing and support at least some of the kids.

Also, does he see it as a sigh of manliness to get so many women pregnant? After so many it must be deliberate, surely?
Do other family members of his have large families?

Sorry, I do realize that I'm asking about him rather than your DC having lots of siblings but while I think having lists of siblings is interesting I suppose it seems more normal than a guy having so many from lots of different women.

Is he embarrassed?
I don't think so. I've never actually asked him that.

Does he see it as a sign of manliness?
I've never asked him that either, or considered it - but potentially. I know that he is an only child and it's something his parents were mocked/shamed for within his family/community (that's how he described it to me).

Do other family members have a large family?
Yes. But by large I mean 4-8, not 11.