Four children by age 26. AMA?

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It was fairly obviously a goady thread TBF

Some of you need to take a chill pill and suck it 🤘

very goady!

My question is ... why would you want four children at this age?

Goady?! Jeez. I didn't have four DC so I could write a thread on Mumsnet tbf.

I've never really had an adult life (first one two months after I turned 19) so I'm not missing anything. Well, not that I know of! I hate going out clubbing etc so love staying at home

Genuine question, but how is this thread goady?

I fell pregnant at 17. I also don't like clubbing and drinking etc. I still couldn't have had more (not three more anyway😂). Plenty of time for that.

I hope this doesn't sound rude but do you have children as you feel it's the only thing your good at? I find this with a lot of young non-working mums.

Ok.

Well, having four children isn’t remarkable. It’s more than average but not out of the ordinary.

Being 26 isn’t remarkable either.

So it was clearly not about the number of children or the age of the OP but the two together that was supposed to be worthy of questioning. In other words the - are they all from the same father, do you claim benefits, don’t you care about a career, were the questions the OP wanted, and got.

I know some people can conceive while breastfeeding, but I never did.

Two were planned, two were not
Two different fathers but I'm not with either
I'm happy to have more as my fiancé is very keen to have his own
No regrets because I don't regret anything in life. I used to and got depressed

Age gaps are almost three years, 19 months and just over three years. Youngest is now 2.

scolotti yes I always felt that being a mum was my only worth. Plus my abusive ex husband would lay off me a bit when I had a newborn and I felt like a queen.

I am happy to stay at four but would like at least one with fiancé

trytrytry I don't really care what people think, but it's taken me a long time to feel this way! Negative people are usually jealous people... I know I can be a twat when I'm jealous

Goady 😂

Good for you, OP. I’ve also committed the sins of not having a career and having 4 with 2 men (though only 1 with my ex).

Let’s scuttle off to a corner together to scorn ourselves.

How dare you Melanie. Women were not put on this earth to have children!

I also had one with ex, then three with ex husband. Do you think you'll have any more?

Do you work?

No I don't. I have a child with additional needs and receive Carers Allowance. If I had the energy to work, we'd be worse off financially!

Likewise, Birthday I have 2 with ASD and don’t work as someone has to care for them and we’d be worse off if I did! I tried working last year - it was awful

Not sure if we will, maybe, but the gap is growing every day (youngest is nearly 5) and we don’t want to be ‘older’ parents. May as well enjoy our 40s/50s in lieu of 20s!

Wow, two with ASD! One is enough to leave me reaching for the hopefully we'll have amazing 40s

How many kids would you have in an ideal world?
I also have four, and love it. I would have 6 if my heart ruled my head!

I think about 7 or 8 if I had the £££!

so 4 kids within 5 years, and time for a marriage and divorce in it all..how do you manage your time?

I would have 3 or 4 if I could afford to. Do you feel it is hard to afford everything you need?
Do any of the mums at school judge you?

I'm actually VERY good at managing time!

Tip: have a clock in every room

We've only just moved to a new area, and apparently one of the children at school asked one of my children "is your mum 15? Cos she looks it" which she'd obviously heard her parent saying 😂 but I can't complain about apparently looking younger than I am...

We get by ok financially, although we're a bit skint at the minute as our new house needed renovating and we're getting married in three weeks

Also I had four kids in 7.5 years, not 5 years, if that makes a difference! I get terrible hyperemesis gravidarum so can't have too small of a gap between them sadly

Ewww... Just seen this on Reddit, what the hell?! Apparently I'm not interesting yet there I am