I'm a lesbian, a stripper and have worked as a honey trap. AMA.

[ThomasinaMouse]

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Good for you!

What’s a honey trap?

Why did you decide to become a stripper?

tinselA honey trap is a woman hired to check if a client's partner will cheat, usually through a honey trap agency.

ari I wanted to see what it was like. My curiosity was peaked after I worked in a pub as a student and we'd go for a drink in the lap dancing bar nearby after work, as it was the only place still open.

That’s nice dear. Are your parents very proud?

& now you’re posting on a parenting site on a Saturday night.
That’s some journey.

lana they wouldn't be great parents if they approved,I guess? They are generally proud of me though, for other things I've done/achieved some of which I wouldn't have been able to do without it. So they understand.

I'm not sure I understand that surfer. Why would any job stop someone posting on a forum? At any time?

What's more fun, honey trap or stripper?

How did it go with the honey trap?

Stripping definitely robo. Honey trapping is quite difficult, can involve a lot of waiting around (sometimes for nothing)!Can be dangerous. I've had a lot of fun stripping, sometimes come home with aching cheeks from laughing,met some incredible people (including my DP) my days are numbered now, and I am not looking forward to it coming to an end.

hollow do you mean how did it work? I am still signed to a trapping agency but I haven't had any work for a while, it isn't a facility many people use or very often.

If someone thinks their partner will cheat, they can call a honey trap agency, explain what their partner is like, what kind of woman he (or she) would be most attracted to, and then the agency ask where said partner frequents/lives/works and will pick a 'honey' and set the assignment.

The suspicious partner pays and the agency take a cut and pay the 'honey'. Sometimes It's finding out if he'll take the honey's number, sometimes It's if he'll kiss her, sometimes if he'll ask her to go further.

The agency will ask the suspicious party that, hercules. Sometimes It's first not interested, sometimes we'd be asked to push it further.

I'd say sadly at least 60-70% BUT, the suspicious partner had a reason to be suspicious in the first place, and also I would sometimes have the concience thing going, taking someones number for example-how do they know he wasn't just going to chuck it, just took it to be polite?
I was always secretly glad to have my advances refused.

Did you always identify as a lesbian? How do you feel about men generally? I'd imagine it would be hard to have much respect for them after doing that kind of work.

I realised late on in life psychadelic. Looking back it was always so obvious. I'd had perfectly reasonable relationships with men, for a friendship! I never liked sex, there was always something missing. I would have casual relationships wit women and daft as it sounds, I never realised I was gay despite how much better that felt. Society was so geared toward straight when I was young especially within my growing up sphere of it. My parents and other family expressed homophobic views. I never ever even entertained the idea I might be gay until I was in my mid twenties, slept with a woman after a break up of a 'limping along' relationship with a man and it blew my mind. Something went click the following day and I began to unpick my past and with hindsight it was obvious from a very early age.

On how I feel about men, oh god It's so hard. If I didn't keep an eye on myself I would turn into a huge misandrist. You definitely see the worst of them in the work I do. I have to keep reminding myself that I have some great men in my family and my friendship circle (I also have a small business and my business partner is a man who is one of the best people I've ever met). But I cannot get away from an underpinning theory that they're all selfish egotists who will cheat on someone they love if they think they'll get away with it. I know this isn't true for some of them, and I know there are plenty women like that. I hate how society favours men and their interests so in short yes, your imagination is correct , but I try to not let it take over my thinking on men in general.

Hi, do you still work as honey trapper? How much do you charge ?

Old thread but I am happy to answer!

No I don't any longer.

The agency I was with, used to offer me an amount based on what the client (the person who suspected their partner was cheating) wanted.

So if I was expected to see a guy at a bar in a hotel, get chatting and try to get them to come up to my (non existent) hotel room or see if he'd invite me to his, that would be more than if I was just to ask someone for directions in the street and see if he took my phone number if I offered it. I can't remember what the price list was so to speak, but some things cost more than others depending on how invasive and how long they're expected to take roughly.

You said your days as a stripper or honey trapped were nearly over - how come? Did you mean you were getting too old for it?

I am not sure there is a 'too old' really, as there are a lot of older couples where one party will hire a honey trap. I moved area, and began working longer hours in other jobs. I would happily do it again but my partner isn't too keen, and it was always an 'on the side' thing so I just haven't pursued starting again.

As for stripping, there are women (much) older than me doing it, but I feel too old in myself really, plus the club I worked in the most often closed down and I was very 'at home' there, loved the owners, staff and regular dancers. Had so much fun and I just don't think I could find that anywhere else.

Having said that, I really, really miss it and I still dip my toe in now and again. I last worked in a club a couple of months ago and absolutely loved it.

Did you work in London by any chance? Looking for info on London clubs as want to get back into it and can't find any info.

@ThomasinaMouse
As I understand, honey trap is also used in espionage, but more long term cover, depending on the value of the intelligence etc ?

Bit like the film with the sparrows

I am updating my thread to say that I have recently returned to stripping, have done two nights recently. Things have changed a little but I am not regretting it.

Great career choices, will pass these ideas onto my DDs for their consideration once they’ve finished their university studies. Thanks OP!

I wouldn't, as the industry is dying out (as is all entertainment) and will probably worsen in future if adult entertainment doesn't end up being banned altogether (obviously I dont know how old your DDs currently are).

I did support myself through my diploma while doing it, although I was supported through my two degrees by my parents so I am very lucky in that way.

It is a lot of fun for the right people but can also be perilous to mental health for others and working nights at the weekend isn't fun when you're young and would rather be out with friends or going away with partners or playing sports or whatever.

You're welcome 🙂

Edit, typo.