My Mum, dad and sister are all smack heads ( dad is dead, mother I think is alive)

[Funclesmuck]

Ask away. There is nothing you could ask that could upset me.

How old was your dad when he died and was it because of his addiction

Funcle, because i've seen addicts and how they typically live their lives and what their households are like and how all consuming obtaining a hit is to them, I admire you for being able to stay away from it when it would have almost been inevitable that you too become an addict.

Given the circumstances, it would have been better odds that you became an addict. And the thought of you born as an addicted baby upsets me.

Funcklesmuck snap I also did a thread like this
Nice to see someone from a similar background open up too .hello

do you think your parents may have any undiagnosed learning difficulties or similar that made them vulnerable to abusing drugs, or do you think it was more circumstances or abusive background, or maybe getting in with the wrong crowd?

What do you think made them make the jump from experimenting, to addiction, and do you think there is any underlying reason that they never got off them

Do you/have you have any contact with extended family (aunts,?uncles, grandparents, cousins) and if so, what were their lives like?

Dear OP, you sound awesome x

Do you know why your parents became addicts?

Thanks for the reply’s, I’ve been working and just caught up with this. I spoke to my DH tonight about this thread. He finds it difficult to talk about, even though I’m very open with my kids about drugs, he finds the whole situation difficult. And I can totally understand this. His liberal Mum and dad both tried “pot” yet went on to have brilliant careers. My mum and dad tried pot and ended up in dirty bathrooms with needles hanging out of their arms

Funclesmuck Do you feel anger towards your parents? Have you had counselling?. You sound so together wrt your own rship and children and I wondered if you had a moment when you had your own kids where you wondered how small children could be so neglected in favour of smack? I know the science but on an emotional level a level of “how the f8ck could you do that to us?”?

My sister's sister in law was brought up the same. Her mum use to rent her and her six siblings out to local paedophiles from a very young age for bags of smack. The whole things horrendous. She is an amazing intelligent woman who looked after her siblings and from a young age would offer herself instead of the younger ones to people who came in. She brought them all up whilst her mum was lying comatose with needles hanging out her arms. She went to uni and passed her course with a 1.1 then met my brother in laws brother through her mum who was also a junkie. He's a lovely guy and she's managed to get him on the straight and narrow but I'm dubious. He's still very much on and off heroin from what I can see from his appearance. They have a kid together and her mum overdoses and she found her dead in her kitchen a month ago. She only knows one sibling now. The second eldest as the rest were removed by social services and adopted all over the country. She still acts like a mother to her sister who is very damaged and she carries on putting her husband and sister before herself caring for them first in only a way a person who has grown up doing that can. It's very very sad. The reason she didn't do it I believe is because some people learn from their parents mistakes and want to be nothing like them and some people just follow in their footsteps.

I'm sorry for what you have been through op and hope you have peace in your life now.

@ShesABelter what a horrific story, I hope your SILs sister has peace in her life now