How to find out if she's want to know...

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..... if her husband is a serial adulterer.
Some would... I think most would but some wouldn't... i don't want to tell her unless she is someone who would ultimately want to know... He is a charming but ultimately over selfish dick and if I could find out if she'd want to know then I would tell him that, so he couldn't continue to justify his dualistic position and find the guts to tell her.... He is someone who makes out that he's more concerned than he actually is... if he didn't want to tell her, and she wants to know, he gets to continue being a dick to everyone involved... my question is not regarding the complicated reasons that people have affairs it's about how to find out if she wants to know. I don't know her, only knew him... I'm ready for flaming misunderstanding but maybe someone here will have useful experience or perspective...

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Ok, ok can you transcend the dots... I quite like them.

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Ok, thank you.. just finding my way around...

I would want to know. I think most people would. Are you able to get in touch with her?

I could write to her - a letter on paper and send it to her work. But was thinking it would really be best to get him to find out if she'd want to know... did consider telling him he needs to because the wheels are in motion for her to find out... maybe I should just leave it but it just feels wrong and somethings pushing me to find the least dramatic/traumatic way to give her the choice of what to do with the truth...