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I took my sexual abusers to court AMA

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Crazycakelady17 · 20/07/2018 01:47

I was sexually abused from the ages of 3-7 by our biological father and by our step father from 11-17 (he preyed on our mum) knew she had abused kids)
I’m now 9 months from the trial of step father
Anyone who’s has questions or if I could help anyone, I had so many questions when I was going through the process

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Rebecca36 · 20/07/2018 01:55

I've no questions but GOOD FOR YOU taking him to court. I hope the court locks him up and throws away the key.

hayli · 20/07/2018 02:02

Oh what an awful awful thing to go through as a child Thanksif you dont mind can i ask a few Qs..
Do you have any siblings? And if yes were they also abused? Did you tell your mum what was happenning at the time?
What were your coping mechanisms during the court process? it must have been a harrowing ordeal to go through

A friend was in a similar situation as a child (abused by a relative) and feels she can't heave herself through getting justice and has closed down on the subject. I still remember the change in her at 14 years of age -the loss of confidence the withdrawl from everything & even now no trust in any man . She told me 8 years later what had happenned.

WingsofNylon · 24/07/2018 15:17

I have a million questions and don't know where to start so I am just going to give you these. Flowers

I am about to report to the police and so it is really helpful to hear from people who are further along and not regretting it.

frasier · 24/07/2018 15:20


Has your biological father been to court already?
What is your mother saying about the situation?

StylishMummy · 24/07/2018 15:22

Nothing to ask but bloody good on you OP Thanks

Crazycakelady17 · 24/07/2018 15:46

It’s taken it’s toll my mental health is not great have been sectioned twice since the trial but I’m glad I did what I did and he was held accountable 9 charges he had, my relationship with my mum was bad for years but since the trial we have been a lot closer she came on holiday with me myDh and kids a few weeks ago,
Thanks for all the support it was difficult but something I had to do to move forward

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Crazycakelady17 · 24/07/2018 16:15

Didn’t see the question above I have 3 siblings all younger me and my little sister were abused by our biological dad she’s 3 years younger than me out brother was physically abused we were all younger than 8 our mum divorced him when my youngest sister was 6 weeks (we had another sister later from stepdad)

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Snowwhitequeen · 24/07/2018 21:48

I've recently reported too (grandfather). Half my family are supportive and half not. The half that are not think I'm a crazy liar / witch / mentally ill etc etc.

How did your family take it? How were the police in terms if process? How long did it take you to get from reporting to the CPS agreeing to prosecute?

In my case the perpetrator who is now very elderly has been interviewed and has denied it. Three people have been interviewed, two with eye witness evidence of what happened to me.

Thank you for coming on AMA, I've been hoping somebody would offer some answers. And of course huge well done, I know how bloody hard it is and how it messes with your mind. I'm full of doubt myself.

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