I had two babies a year apart. AMA

[Twounder13]

Less than thirteen months between my two. Currently six months in. Ask me anything

Was it planned or unplanned?
What Pram are you using?
Do you have any help or is it you on your Tod?

I had two babies in the same year (not twins)

Sorry to be personal but how is your pelivic floor? Xxx

me too - 11.5 mths between ds2 and dd.

It does get easier, but my PF is shot

Planned but didn't expect to fall so quickly.
I had a stroll air duo but it broke (second hand). Then used a carrier with a single and have just this week got a joie twin.

I don't really have any help apart from DH but he's just finished refurbishing the house so I've been mostly alone.

Pelvic.floor was shocking during my second pregnancy but has since recovered

Phew! Good to hear xx

What do you do when both are crying hysterically at the same time?

Was/is your eldest jealous of the youngest?

I have two 12 months apart. They are now 2 and 3 ask me anything OP

Are they in the same school year?
(I taught two little ones that were)

What do you do when both are crying hysterically at the same time?
Good question! Luckily it doesn't happen very often and as of yet it's mostly governed by food/sleep needs. My 18m old will often play on his own for ten minutes while I put the six month old for a nap in the pram. It is beginning to be more challenging now the eldest is 18m though. I pretty much just deal with the easy fix first. Or throw food at the 18m old

Don't seem to have any jealousy issues although the 18m old doesn't like the 6m old to have any toys!

@Brendatheblender it's getting harder in some ways. Is a one year old and a two year old as hideous as I feel it will be? And are you jealous of your friends who have lovely quality time with their toddler?

They'll be in separate school years

My DD1 is 12 months and I'm due DD2 in a couple of weeks. What advice can you give me?

1 and 2 was way easier than 2 and 3!

Yep, I get really jealous of my friends who can spend so much time with their DCs 1 on 1.

My eldest has been in nursery two mornings a week since November last year which has made things easier and my SIL takes my youngest for a few hours a week so I get a bit of 1 on 1 time with each of them individually.

They do entertain each other so much though which really helps so I can get stuff done around the house.

I have made friends with a neighbour who has 3 under 3 and it makes my life look a doddle!

Are you a SAHM or are you planning on going back to work after your mat leave?

Under 11 months between my two (should have been just over a year but I don't carry pregnancies to full term)... you just cope.

Mine are both in school now (different years - just the time of year they were born in means they fall like that). They are incredibly close - plus neither gets away with getting into much trouble at school or extra-curricular stuff as the other one grasses them up.

Pelvic floor just fine thank you - pelvis itself and hip knackered but that's because I was that 1% who never recover from PGP in pregnancy.

I had 3 babies in 3 years!

Essentially a sahm. I work evenings but have the boys during the day so no childcare needed. When eldest hits two I'm going to put him into preschool two mornings a week.

@AlwaysFuckingTired don't be hard on yourself. Aim to do one thing a day - mine is always to empty the dishwasher. Sometimes it doesn't happen and that's ok. Keep meals for 12mo simple - microwave a sweet jacket potato. Do it at any point during the day. Eg during breakfast I might fry off some chicken for dinner that evening and if I get chance boil some frozen veg. At lunch I'll microwave some new potatoes. Then everything is ready for dinner. Scrambled egg, humous and ham, cucumber. All easy prep foods. Try to train newborn to go in a bouncy in the kitchen for as.long as he'll tolerate. Easy days it was about thirty seconds for my newborn. Tidy kitchen while 12mo is in highchair. And turn the washing machine on every morning. I just mix colours and lights. Outings - keep them simple and short. Just to the library or something and don't be scared to ditch. Get as many friends as possible to come to you - my friends still do 6m in. Accept that the newborn will keep you up all hours and don't fret. If you can bf, definitely do. When my second was a newborn, I learnt to feed him laying down and would doze while I fed overnight. You can even feed one handed if you use a nipple shield in the early days and play with eldest with the other hand.

@bluetrampolines we had a discussion about planning our third today!

Weighted Me too

Go for it!!!

I actually had 4 pregnancies in 3 years but mmc the first.

I think we're going to have a bigger gap this time as DH will be even less available as he starts uni in September on top of working full time. Maybe TTC when the youngest is two if we can wait that long!

NC fail!!

9.5m between my youngest two

I have a dd (13mo) and due dc2 in a few weeks.
How do you bath both? Especially early days is it easier to do it separately?