Two children by embryo adoption AMA

[noregretsanynore]

After many many years of ivf I have had two children by embryo adoption. Some people don't agree with my choice but I'm happy

Are your children genetic siblings, from the same donors?

What are you thoughts and feelings about your DC’s full genetic siblings out there? And about they face thagvtheyre our there in the first place?

No they are not genetic siblings.

About the fact that they’re...^

It's funny to think that they have full genetic siblings out there somewhere, but at the end of the day the world is a very big place so the chances of ever meeting are slim.

Thanks for answering. Not all of my D.C. are genetically related to me and I’m a bit fascinated with the whole thing and how other parents feel about it.

Did it feel like a long journey or a big leap to consider DE? Or were you never someone who placed much importance on genes anyway?

I understand the law in the UK allows the identity of donors to be made available to children at 18 as they have the right to know their genetic origin. Do you worry about your children being denied this possibility or how they might feel about that?

We didn't have treatment in the U.K. the country where we had it does not allow he donors to be identified. It's a bit sad that my children will never have the choice but there was nothing we could do about it.

#battleaxe we have close family who where adopted at birth. I saw close hand how much they where lived and wanted and how much they grew to resemble (personality wise) their parents. Genetics are only part of the story, family is what is important. I hope I can raise my children to be strong enough to recognise that. It was a very very long road for us and without embyro donation we would not have a family.

Why did you make the decision to go abroad OP? Was it due to greater availability of donated embryos and/or other factors?

There where quite a few factors. Firstly it was not cheaper, we originally wanted standard ivf and the clinic we went to abroad had cutting edge techniques and is considered one of the best In the world. When we where told that that would not work for us we decided to stay with the same clinic as their results where very very good.

I'm reading this with interest as I have a DC (from IVF) and three frozen embryos. I've ideally like one more DC, but would consider donating any embryos I can't use.

My question is, how many embryos did you receive from the donor(s)? I think I read at the time that my clinic was only interested if you had at least three embryos to donate, due to the costs of donor screening. I've no idea if that's the same everywhere.

Im so pleased it worked for you.

We had six embryos altogether which resulted in two children. Two embryos transferred each time.

To those considering donating, it really is an amazing gift.

Thank you for sharing this. I am having IVF and so far it is not working, and I want to explore this option further.

Feel free to pm me for more detailed info. Good luck.

Thank you for your answer and for starting this thread, noregretsanymore. I don't think this subject is discussed very often.