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AMA

I have OCD- specifically with cleaning/order/routine-AMA

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Zoflorabore · 12/07/2018 21:39

I'm a 40 year old woman, have suffered with OCD for as long as I can remember but was only diagnosed in November 2016.

So many people say to each other " you're so OCD " etc without realising just how bloody debilitating it is and how exhausting it is.

Any questions? I will be brutally honest Smile

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Icecreamandpineapple · 13/07/2018 06:48

I have family members with OCD tendencies, and it is very disabilitatiing. OP, what kind of rituals are involved in your daily life?

Are you under going treatment for your OCD?

Zoflorabore · 13/07/2018 07:34

Hi, I am taking medication which has definitely helped me. I used to be much worse!

Treatment? Not so much. There's talking therapy which I attended once and was then cancelled. MH provision is woefully inadequate and OCD is not always recognised as being serious.

I do use my own techniques which are mostly mindfulness and listening to calming music on YouTube aswell as rain and thunder sounds which are surprisingly helpful.

My rituals are very annoying to me.
Everything has to have its place and I check constantly. Light switches and door handles are a bugbear of mine, I clean them constantly.
Anything glass or mirrored annoys me if not spotless and my oven top is glass and gets cleaned 20/30 times a day, as does my kitchen table. I'm looking at replying both of these to different materials.

I do not have an issue with germs and this is one of the great misconceptions of OCD, especially when watching the obsessive compulsive cleaners programmes where they bleach bleach bleach.

I don't actually use bleach apart from the toilet and have a slight addiction to Zoflora ( hence the username ) and germs per se do not bother me.
I'm definitely more of a visual person, everything has to look right, order and symmetry are very important to me.

I hardly sit down. Cannot relax. Have stopped watching television as just cannot focus on it.

Mornings are so hard.
Once ds (15) has left for school I get dd (7) up and it's horrendous trying to leave the house on time. She is late almost every dayBlush school are aware of my OCD and I'm trying new techniques over the summer for when she returns in September.

I cannot leave the house unless the beds are made and the dishes are done.
Nothing left on the floor that doesn't belong there. It's so stupid.

I also have fibromyalgia which is a condition that causes extreme fatigue and widespread pain so often it's a case of my mind is telling me to do something and my body is telling me to rest. I'm so torn sometimes.

Thank you for responding.

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Iputthescrewinthetuna · 13/07/2018 07:48

My partner has OCD, same areas you do!
As a partner it is frustrating as hell, I am constantly questioning if it is up to patners standards - usually he doesn't say anything but redoes it or moves things back.
I understand no matter how much it frustrates me, I know it frustrates him more as he hates having to do certain things but just can't stop!

What advice would you give for me to make his life easier?

We have 3 children 2 under 5. I even try to tidy up the toys before he gets home. He doesn't tidy up when they are playing - he used to but I had to tell him it is not fair on the kids. I see in his eyes though it is incredibly hard not to.

Icecreamandpineapple · 13/07/2018 09:26

Zoflorabore
I agree with you that OCD is sometimes not taken seriously, and it annoys me when I hear people say something like "ooh I'm very OCD about making sure my hair/make up is just right" as they Preen and pout in front of a mirror. That's just an example.
What I'm trying to say is some people 'label' themselves too easily that they have OCD, when there is people like yourself genuinely suffering from true OCD which seriously impacts on their lives.
I really feel for you Zoflorabore, thankyou for starting this thread and I believe that you will eventually be able to overcome OCD with help and support.

sophielm · 05/04/2020 23:34

Hi. Hope you see this as I know this was a while back. I'm currently struggling with ocd and have 2 very young children. You sound so similar to me, takes me ages to get out of the house as constantly checking every room and have my routines I have to do. Just wondered if you had done anything that helped as I'm just at the stage where I'm coming to terms with accepting I have it. Hope to hear from you soon Smile

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