(Trigger warning) A serious one, I'm a bereaved parent ask me anything.

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Name changed for this.

My son died three years ago at a day old. I've come to peace with it and I talk about him a lot, in RL and online. I got loads of support from Mumsnet at the time.

I know it's not a nice or exciting topic but I have seen a lot of posts over the years asking how to deal with friends and family going through similar. I also noticed on the funeral director and crematorium thread a few questions specifically related to children.

I know it's also most parents (including mine) worst nightmare. I think it's natural to be scared and have questions about it.

I know bereavement topics attract trolls, I can verify what I'm saying (I have birth and death certificates and ID) with MNHQ if needed.

Obviously I do not speak for all bereaved parents.

I am so sorry for your loss. How do you manage to keep going? I have watched a few friends go through this and their pain takes my breath away.

I’m sorry this happened to you.

I guess I’d ask where you draw your strength from? How do you get out of bed in the morning?

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your little boy.
What is the best thing to say to a bereaved parent?
How do you answer if someone asks how many children you have?
You're very brave to talk about this heartbreaking subject.

I’m so sorry for your loss you have such amazing strength to talk about it.

How do you cope from one day to the next?
Do you have other children?

So sorry for your loss.

Were you surprised in a bad or good way by how other people were with you around the time of your loss?

And do you have any thoughts about how people can really help or at least, not do harm when this happens to a friend?

I am so sorry for your loss. Similar to the previous post, what were the most/least helpful things people said or did in response to your loss?

Also, do you get the absolute rage when people say things like ',everything happens for a reason' and 'what doesn't kill you makes you stronger'? (I do!)

I'm so sorry for your loss.

What is the best thing to say to someone recently bereaved? I always struggle to think of something, and I usually end up saying something weird.

I'm so sorry to hear that your lovely boy died.

I can’t ask anything
But I do
Send you my very best and wish that your good days start to outweigh the bad ones ?

Do you believe in any sort of afterlife?