I’m a MIL who gets on with her DIL...AMA

[Ilove]

As it says...

I like her and we get on with her parents too.

Tongue biting and knowing when to keep quiet is the key!

Gransnet needs you.

I'm a DIL who gets on wonderfully with my MIL.
I don't think there's any real secret to it, she's a fantastic woman.

Granset? I’m (sadly) not a grandma yet!

Do you occasionally not pass judgement on your dil's parenting then?

Seriously though, that's lovely. My mil is ok too.

Ahhhhh! Not a grandparent yet you say? Things may well change a bit if you do become one.

You know that tongue biting? Lots and lots more will be required. You could even try throwing in a compliment on how your dil is as a mum.

Do you think it mostly a result of acting reasonably or a case of you gelling well with you DIL? I have had a truly horrible experience a D really don't want my DIL to feel the way that I have. Do you think it's Li k of the draw or can I manage to get along with any DIL of I try hard enough?

AsTheMiles

Too true. I got on famously with my MIL... until the birth of DD!

I think it’s more the fact that I’ve had two MIL’s, one was utterly horrendous and the other is fab, as a general rule. But my late FIL knew well his wife’s foibles and would often say to me how brilliant I was at being relaxed about the way she behaved sometimes.

I love my DIL, she makes my son happy, and we were determined to get on with her and her parents. Don’t get me wrong, there are things she does that drive me insane, but it’s nothing to do with me - it is their life.

So I think if you can accept the fact that they have made their choice of partner, and they make your child happy, it is THEIR life, you can have a good relationship. Usually...

I work as a nanny too so I often bite my tongue about other peoples parentling!!!

Same here, I got on well with my MIL for 10 years until DD was born. I think it was the sudden extra interest in our lives; I can’t stand it.

What drives you insane about DiL? Spill the beans!

I'm a DIL with a wonderful MIL and I have 2 children. She's just ace. I love her so much. She's very ill at the moment and I'm so worried about her.

I get on with my DIL too and I have DGC - it's entirely possible for that to happen if you want it to. The key is wanting it to work

(sorry to hijack your AMA)

I get on with my MIL too, she's more like a friend. Maybe because she's not precious about her son and knows he's not perfect, and we're fairly similar in our views/morals etc.

There will be no beans spilt - I love them both very much and it is their lives, I don’t gossip.

As far as we are concerned, we now have 5 children and she is my DD2.

We have 3 sons and 1 daughter by birth. I’ve seen how badly the relationship with a mother in law can be, and we were determined to treat her as equally as we treat the rest of our children.

She’s chosen to stay with us over her own parents when my son has been away, which to me, says it all...