I'm a Black British single mum...AMA

[ohsoamazing]

Would love to answer any questions? I sometimes feel people are too shy or scared to ask certain questions to black or other women of colour. I can only speak on my own experience but it may help you understand other black women from the UK like me.

@screepy I speak words of encouragement to them all the time and ensure that they know that they are valuable and beautiful as anyone else. I also ensure my children know about our family history and black history, so that they know black people as a whole have contributed to the world/country and they can also do the same.

@NKFell i think it's important to stay on top of the curriculum and to have a rough idea of what a school is teaching your child and what is expected of them. At home ensure thay you have high expectations for them as well and at parents' evenings let the teachers know that you expect those standards to be upheld. If you have a major issue with the school pushing sports then I would speak with the teacher directly about how you feel. It's a difficult one because by doing this you can come across as being too involved or I have even seen some parents being accused of being aggressive! It can make you disliked by teachers but at least they'll know not to talk rubbish over your child as they will be aware that you'd be coming in to see them again. It's a really hard one and I don't know if that's the best advice - I don't have a perfect answer.

@HaroldsSocalledBluetits I've seen this happen as well sadly

Hi OP,
Was it easy to get donor sperm from the same ethnic background?

@CurlyWurlyTwirly my donor was someone I knew so somewhat easy yeah, although I don't take it for granted that the process was fairly easy for me and I'm completely happy with my decision

,OP, does your dc know who their donor / father is?
Does he have a relationship with your dc?

Did you feel any internal conflicts using a donor? What is your religions take on it?

Re the black boy stereotypes, I mentor young people and I see how badly black and Asian boys are treated in putt educational system. It's depressing. That's why I'm passionate about using the privilege I was born with to do whatever I can to work hard towards levelling the playing field. I think as a race white people need to use their privilege to bring change and equality.

@Powergower great to hear about the work you do. I'm inclined to agree with your comment about white people using their privilege to bring change or equality, but I feel that to do so would not benefit them so why would they. It's a system that has seen them at the top of the chain for ages so why change now. Very depressing.

@Powergower forgot to answer your question.

No internal conflicts as I felt that as I was getting a bit older having children was the most important thing to me really and I didn't want to wait years for a man who may never come along and then struggle to conceive. In terms of my religion, I believe all children are blessings from God regardless of how they got here

@CurlyWurlyTwirly they know they are donor conceived, but have no relationship with him and neither do I. However should I need to contact him I can.

@ohsoamazing I was hoping for some magic but thank you. I think they already think I'm aggressive tbh, I'm not though!

Not here to ask any questions but as a black woman, this thread has made me truly happy. Just reading the comments from those of you who have witnessed the ill treatment of black boys and are trying to help change it gives me hope. Thank you @Powergower and @ohsoamazing