@FlybirdFly
Re the hijab though I know that Muslim women aren’t required to cover up until after puberty so what are your thoughts on small children wearing hijab. I think this is more a cultural thing within certain communities but I have to admit it does make me feel uncomfortable. Do you think that the culture around this should be changed or again that it is their choice how to dress their children?
Good question, thanks for asking :) I think every parent should have the freedom to bring up their child how they want to, as long as of course they are not harming them in any way. There are parents who choose veganism for their children (nothing wrong with that - its up to them), and others who may choose to teach children about God, and others who may teach their children that God does not exist. These are all choices that parents that make and have the right to do so.
Similarly, if parents want their children to wear a religious symbol or attire, then they have every right to let them wear it. What would help though I think is if people understood the context a little. Let me give you an example about my daughter. When she was 2 she insisted she would not go to the play group unless she was able to wear a headscarf (one she took out from my cupboard). I said NO. Many times. But she is stubborn, and like me, she will find a way to get her way. So when her nanny came to look after her, she insisted that she would not go out until she let her wear it. And she got her way. I was not keen mainly because I knew other parents would judge me and judge Islam. Anyhow, she repeated these demands every few months, and many times I just didn't have the energy to keep arguing with her (terrible two's are hard to deal with as it is!).
When she started school, it started again, she adamantly refused to wear a hat even when it was snowing, but then one day decided she wanted to wear the headscarf. It was freezing that day, and I had to rush off to work, so I gave in. I think she wore it for half a day and then decided to take it off. I do feel bad telling her she shouldn't wear it when she wants to (as I let her wear anything else she wants to). I wore the headscarf from a very young age (probably around 6/7) completely of my own choice, and this meant that when it became obligatory on me to wear a headscarf around the age of 12, it was the most natural and easy thing to do. Therefore, I do believe, that if my daughter wants to wear it some days when she is younger (even as young as 6), I should allow her to, because it will make it easier for her to transition into the hijab when she reaches the age of 12 or so (if she then chooses to wear it). Because it isn't easy to start wearing hijab in public when you haven't been used to wearing it (people give you looks and you get stares).
I would like her to wear it at 12 (because I believe in my faith), and I want to do everything in my power to make that transition easy for her, but at the same time, I also believe there is no compulsion in religion - so if she chooses not to wear it, that will be her choice. Does that help you understand a bit why some parents allow their young children to wear hijab? And if there are some parents who may be encouraging their young girls to wear hijab every now and then or more regularly, it is done out of kindness, just to make life easier for them when they reach 12 and choose then to wear it permanently.
I have a question about headscarves and also agree that they shouldn’t be banned for adult women. I’m not decided on face coverings as I think that a lot of human interaction relies on facial expressions etc and it’s quite hard to communicate with someone when you can’t see their face.
We all communicate daily without our face. For example, on social media, by text message, emails, using our phones (in fact we non-stop email). We at work have national meetings over the phone - and conduct them perfectly! Many in my team at work prefer phone call meetings, as people actually listen to what you say, rather than judging you based on your age/dress/make-up etc. (this has happened in face to face meetings). Anyhow, just something to think about.