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"We" can always tell

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PollyNomial · 14/10/2026 20:07

Except when "we" can't:
https://x.com/CountDeadWomen/status/2110284296388739454

Note the weasel words of the thread don't actually apologise for allowing terrible people to decide the victim wasn't female because she wasn't sufficiently meeting a stereotypical view of how women should look in their bigoted opinions. The fault for behaving in a bigoted fashion is only that of the bigots and no-one else.

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BackToLurk · 15/10/2026 14:43

murasaki · 15/10/2026 14:36

Quite. We don't see the 'wanting to live a quiet authentic life' brigade calling out the violent TRAs.

Still waiting for the condemnation of the OP for starting this thread, presumably intended to direct abuse and harassment at Karen Ingala Smith and the Counting Dead Women account.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 15/10/2026 14:41

alcovecupboards · 15/10/2026 14:32

They don't care. She wasn't feminine enough to pass their bizarre standards so she was fair game. It's utterly disgusting. Unless I've missed it but not a single GC person here has condemned the GC people who harassed the woman who posts the list because they had decided this woman was trans. It speaks volumes about their true motives.

You've missed it. FWR, for example, at least twice in this very thread.

BackToLurk · 15/10/2026 14:41

alcovecupboards · 15/10/2026 14:32

They don't care. She wasn't feminine enough to pass their bizarre standards so she was fair game. It's utterly disgusting. Unless I've missed it but not a single GC person here has condemned the GC people who harassed the woman who posts the list because they had decided this woman was trans. It speaks volumes about their true motives.

As usual, you have indeed missed it.

BackToLurk · 15/10/2026 14:40

Differentforgirls · 15/10/2026 14:29

SHE WAS A WOMAN.

You questioned why the sex of the person would matter, why anyone would have a view on it. In the case of a list of women, the answer to that is blindingly obvious to most people.

Are you now acknowledging that the sex of the people on the list does matter?

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 15/10/2026 14:39

akkakk · 15/10/2026 14:01

do you really think that evidence comes into the equation? 😂

if evidence were needed on both sides of the discussion here, there would only be one side - that of truth and reality... those against such an approach don't like to have to use evidence - they like to change the meanings of words / they like to pretend / claim injustice and harassment - evidence is an obstruction to their arguments!

Well, exactly!

Any such evidence would typically require stalking levels of investigation, given the anonymity of MN and other platforms, such as X. But the plausibility of an accusation is often not important, the accusation does its work just by being out there, and many people won't consider whether it has any truth behind it.

murasaki · 15/10/2026 14:36

Shortshriftandlethal · 15/10/2026 14:34

I'm not responsible for something a total stranger to me posts. Are you personally responsible for some of the disgusting behaviour/attitude of trans activists, including some that have posted here?

Edited

Quite. We don't see the 'wanting to live a quiet authentic life' brigade calling out the violent TRAs.

Shortshriftandlethal · 15/10/2026 14:34

alcovecupboards · 15/10/2026 14:32

They don't care. She wasn't feminine enough to pass their bizarre standards so she was fair game. It's utterly disgusting. Unless I've missed it but not a single GC person here has condemned the GC people who harassed the woman who posts the list because they had decided this woman was trans. It speaks volumes about their true motives.

I'm not responsible for something a total stranger to me posts. Are you personally responsible for some of the disgusting behaviour/attitude of trans activists, including some that have posted here?

Shortshriftandlethal · 15/10/2026 14:33

Differentforgirls · 15/10/2026 14:29

SHE WAS A WOMAN.

We've established that.

This thread seems to be just an excuse to berate people for backing women's sex based protections and for understanding the reality of sex and why it sometimes matters.

alcovecupboards · 15/10/2026 14:32

Differentforgirls · 15/10/2026 14:29

SHE WAS A WOMAN.

They don't care. She wasn't feminine enough to pass their bizarre standards so she was fair game. It's utterly disgusting. Unless I've missed it but not a single GC person here has condemned the GC people who harassed the woman who posts the list because they had decided this woman was trans. It speaks volumes about their true motives.

murasaki · 15/10/2026 14:31

Differentforgirls · 15/10/2026 14:29

SHE WAS A WOMAN.

Yes, and the list has been amended and apologies given.

But we are in a place where because so many men pretend to be women, that we question things. And especially those where data is important. We all know who put us in that place, and it wasn't women.

Differentforgirls · 15/10/2026 14:29

BackToLurk · 15/10/2026 14:28

It. Is. A List. Of. Dead. Women.

Do you have an objection to a list of women killed by men existing?

SHE WAS A WOMAN.

BackToLurk · 15/10/2026 14:28

Differentforgirls · 15/10/2026 14:27

Whose interests are served by people having a very unhealthy view on the sex of a dead person? They are dead! They have a mother. Imagine being that mother whose daughter has died and is being called a man on social media?

You can all say, "we didn't engage", "we reported it" , sounds nice, then you continue to double down ranting about statistics, media and blaming everyone but the people who caused this, plus insulting women who disagree with you.

GCs caused it. And continue to perpetuate it.

It. Is. A List. Of. Dead. Women.

Do you have an objection to a list of women killed by men existing?

Differentforgirls · 15/10/2026 14:27

FlirtsWithRhinos · 15/10/2026 13:54

Also diverted attention from my actual questions:

Different believes no one should be "questioning the sex of a dead petlrson"

I totally agree in front of greiving relatives, or in a nasty way, of course not.

But Never? Why not?

And for how long is that prohibition in place?

Whose interests are served by making sex unsayable?

Any other meaningful questions one can no longer ask?

(Someone needs to tell the archaeologists for a start!)

Whose interests are served by people having a very unhealthy view on the sex of a dead person? They are dead! They have a mother. Imagine being that mother whose daughter has died and is being called a man on social media?

You can all say, "we didn't engage", "we reported it" , sounds nice, then you continue to double down ranting about statistics, media and blaming everyone but the people who caused this, plus insulting women who disagree with you.

GCs caused it. And continue to perpetuate it.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 15/10/2026 14:22

Differentforgirls · 15/10/2026 12:46

The point is that no one should be questioning the sex of a dead person.

No-one should be questioning the sex of any trans person either, but lots of people do. They are of course the sex they have always been, the sex observed at birth except in a small number of people with ambiguous genitalia because of a handful of specific DSDs.

GreyskySexRealistsky · 15/10/2026 14:20

murasaki · 15/10/2026 14:18

Because words are literal violence. Or something.

Because they heard it from someone...or read something that someone else said about it...or didn't check the original source...or believed a rumour...or repeated it without thinking...and got it wrong....

The irony

murasaki · 15/10/2026 14:18

GreyskySexRealistsky · 15/10/2026 14:17

I assumed the poster was referring to this, below.

For "beaten up" read "shouted, approached and touched on shoulder".
None of which should have happened, of course.
But I wonder why the poster wrote "beaten up"?

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/aug/12/ive-been-spat-on-gender-non-conforming-women-tell-of-toilet-abuse-in-aftermath-of-supreme-court-ruling

Because words are literal violence. Or something.

GreyskySexRealistsky · 15/10/2026 14:17

StealthTroublemaker · 15/10/2026 14:07

Was that the fox killers wife or another one?

I assumed the poster was referring to this, below.

For "beaten up" read "shouted, approached and touched on shoulder".
None of which should have happened, of course.
But I wonder why the poster wrote "beaten up"?

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/aug/12/ive-been-spat-on-gender-non-conforming-women-tell-of-toilet-abuse-in-aftermath-of-supreme-court-ruling

StealthTroublemaker · 15/10/2026 14:07

chirrupybird · 15/10/2026 13:17

And there was the woman beaten up standing in the queue for the ladies because some bloke though she wasn't feminine enough to be a woman and he was 'protecting' his wife who was also in the queue.

Was that the fox killers wife or another one?

akkakk · 15/10/2026 14:01

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 15/10/2026 13:58

You have evidence that people on MN went off site to harass someone?

do you really think that evidence comes into the equation? 😂

if evidence were needed on both sides of the discussion here, there would only be one side - that of truth and reality... those against such an approach don't like to have to use evidence - they like to change the meanings of words / they like to pretend / claim injustice and harassment - evidence is an obstruction to their arguments!

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 15/10/2026 13:58

Lexibletheflexible · 15/10/2026 07:54

That MN rethink whether they want to be a hub for behaviour that includes going off site to harass the family of a murder victim and write awful posts about the victim herself because they think she is trans.

You have evidence that people on MN went off site to harass someone?

FlirtsWithRhinos · 15/10/2026 13:54

murasaki · 15/10/2026 13:34

Like an anti Occam's razor.

Also diverted attention from my actual questions:

Different believes no one should be "questioning the sex of a dead petlrson"

I totally agree in front of greiving relatives, or in a nasty way, of course not.

But Never? Why not?

And for how long is that prohibition in place?

Whose interests are served by making sex unsayable?

Any other meaningful questions one can no longer ask?

(Someone needs to tell the archaeologists for a start!)

EasternStandard · 15/10/2026 13:52

Grammarnut · 15/10/2026 13:48

GC women don't threaten rape and murder towards transpeople. The violence and vileness is entirely one sided.

Exactly. Women say no. And the abuse, threats and violence is in return.

Grammarnut · 15/10/2026 13:48

alcovecupboards · 14/10/2026 20:34

So appalling GC behaviour but you resort to whatabouterry. How exactly does this make you better than the other side exactly?

GC women don't threaten rape and murder towards transpeople. The violence and vileness is entirely one sided.

BackToLurk · 15/10/2026 13:48

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murasaki · 15/10/2026 13:47

Differentforgirls · 15/10/2026 13:44

So you looked 😆

Well of course, i wasn't going to accuse you of lying if you hadn't. It was merely a misrepresentation of the interaction on your part. But yes, I did check as I had forgotten it, given it was a trivial if polite question and answer.