Today I discovered that Hinge can delete your account if as a straight male you complain about males appearing in your dating queue…

@Lovelyview🫠

You think users joining an app heavily marketed as female-only didn’t really want it to be female only? Is this like people looking for romantic or sexual partners don’t really care what sex they are?

Thought so.

Transactivists have nothing but contempt for trans people.

You all expect them to lie about their sex, their sexual orientation, the lot. What for?

To persuade people outside of their sexual orientation to have sex.

And then you come down like a ton of bricks on the apps if they don't allow you to do it.

It's so fucking creepy it's difficult to believe.

No bloody wonder the dating pool for trans identified men is minuscule.

Yes, yes I’m 12 🙄

Yes, I guess maybe apps have decided it’s unworkable, as any such filter would have to rely on transpeople being honest when recording their sex.

How?! Yet another delusion?

The thing is, I can't really find users of the app publicly supporting the owner. So it seems like the owner was kind of on their own in wanting to exclude trans women from their app.

In my search about the app, I came across this old thread here. I read the 1st few posts.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/3982978-Giggle-app-for-girls-only

Of course, we're all here to 'own' other people on the thread. What are you,12?

@AimsAndObjectivesBack at ya love 😘

You may have addressed this @Lexibletheflexible but, having familiarised yourself with the Giggle case, is it still your contention that there is only a fuss about an app’s position on say transgender people if a “majority of their users” are against it.

That's irrelevant though if the app, like most apps, doesn't require users to record and prove their biological sex. So what he has to do is look through his matches and see what one's are actually compatible with him.

The reason a lot of men don't want to do this is because they'd prefer to just swipe right on every woman and hope some of them (any of them) swipe back. https://www.swipestats.io/blog/dating-app-statistics-gender

Oh for the love of God, why don't you get this??

It's HIS sexual orientation that is pivotal. I have no idea if he wants to date a bisexual woman. The point is he doesn't want to date any men. Because he's not gay.

Everyone on the planet has a sexual orientation. It's completely bonkers to have an app designed for people to hook up which doesn't accommodate it.

What possible reason would a trans identified man have for trying to hook up with a straight man?

edited to add, sorry, I missed quite a few subsequent posts. Mine might be out of date now

Er...are we reading the same thread?

<Cringe>

But it also doesn't let you say "nothing outside this" does it? And the whole thing is called "dating preferences". That is how they get around using your filters as algorithm toggles vs exclusion criteria. No app (these days) 100% uses it to exclude every user of that type until you interact with the algorithm.

@LexibletheflexibleYou are owning the OP 😂

That is why i said it is site specific.

The people you are seeing and don't want to see are checking the "woman" box, though, aren't they? So that is why they show up when you want to see women. So again, that is because the site have decided to do what their membership are most happy with.

Find a dating site that is more aligned with what you want or create one since you know so much.

No, I'm not wrong. The exact mechanism of the filters is site specific but work as prefereces that adjust an algorithm vs total exclusion criteria. The user then personalises their algorithm by interacting with the site.

This is particularly the case on sites where subscription promises to somehow "boost" your profile. It means that you slip through the preferences to appear in more algorithms.

I know, I was quite tempted to try and make more of a ho har about it,but I’ve just started a business and just didn’t have the mental capacity to take it forward, I did threaten them with solicitors etc.

Your first post isn’t clear. Is it men appearing on the list or men that say they are women?

The app HER has been banning women for years if they specify female sex only.

😂😂🙄