Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Feminism: chat

Original poster

Mumsnet vibrator: for "mothers, women and people with wombs"

142 replies

NewBootsAndRanty · 01/02/2023 17:16

Amongst otherthings that stand out from the article:

"We knew from previous activations with our community that sex and motherhood is a deeply-rooted taboo. The lack of conversation and resources on the topic is leaving women and people with wombs feeling side-lined as sexual beings. At Smile Makers, we have been tackling taboos around female sexuality for over 10 years and that was obviously an important one to remove"

www.mumsnet.com/articles/the-whisperer

Where to start with the language mangling? Confused

OP posts:
FemaleAndLearning · 01/02/2023 19:17

DontAskIDontKnow · 01/02/2023 17:27

If it’s a vibrator, WTF has a womb got to do with it?

I was wondering this. You really shouldn't be poking a vibrator through your cervix into your womb.

Wolfiefan · 01/02/2023 18:38

I’m wondering if it is aimed at people who own a womb which they carry round in a bag like some kind of fashion statement. But what sort of tote would one need I wonder?

Original poster
NewBootsAndRanty · 01/02/2023 18:33

Love how they're simultaneously tackling taboos and using coy euphemisms like "down there"

OP posts:
abcdeg · 01/02/2023 18:33

Also three different ways to describe women and you still won't appease people who believe in gender ideology by adding the womb bit

abcdeg · 01/02/2023 18:31

How is sex after motherhood taboo😂

Advert is just saying anything at this point. Yeah, it is taboo to talk openly about sex, nobody needs to be enlightened on what goes on in your private life, like??

BettyFilous · 01/02/2023 18:28

EmpressaurusOfWitchesBackFromTheDead · 01/02/2023 17:26

How about women who no longer have wombs?

You are clearly denied a manufactured orgasm!

beastlyslumber · 01/02/2023 18:24

If they'd said "people with clitorises" at least it would be relevant to the product. Very low effort MN.

BellaAmorosa · 01/02/2023 18:23

It's appeasing the males who claim to be women. The deconstruction of woman. Wombs are another one of those random body parts that some "people" have and which are completely unconnected to their sex which we have no idea about anyway because we haven't checked their chromosomes....or something.

IcakethereforeIam · 01/02/2023 18:22

Don't remind me, Amazon have been sending me some very strange emails just for looking at them. If IW actually bought some, it might be the follow up marketing that aggravated the strangeness.

Boiledbeetle · 01/02/2023 18:18

IcakethereforeIam · 01/02/2023 17:35

Yuck! Mental picture of some weirdo with an extensive anatomy collection. I'm assuming they're trying to be inclusive (I'm starting to feel that can get in the sea along with 'be kind'). Don't many TM have a hysterectomy, either electively, 'cos dysphoria, or because of the baleful affect of excessive testosterone on women's bodies.

Well i know of someone who bought a cervix!

BrutusMcDogface · 01/02/2023 18:17

Last time I checked, my womb was not a sexual organ. Ffs, @MNHQ.

Tinysoxxx · 01/02/2023 18:16

Tinysoxxx · 01/02/2023 18:15

Girls

Show quote history

Which is why this language gets awkward

BellaAmorosa · 01/02/2023 18:16

@HiccupHorrendousHaddock Another embarrassing visit to A&E....

Tinysoxxx · 01/02/2023 18:15

Happylittlechicken · 01/02/2023 17:19

What other people with wombs other than women are there? I mean they obviously know these people are female as they talk about female sexuality, but I’m curious as to who else but women would a) have a womb b) be a mother? Why are mothers singled out what about aunts, sisters, grandmothers….

Girls

BellaAmorosa · 01/02/2023 18:13

HiccupHorrendousHaddock · 01/02/2023 17:33

It your vibrator's in your womb, you've gone very wrong somewhere.

😂😂😂

Boiledbeetle · 01/02/2023 18:07

Happylittlechicken · 01/02/2023 17:19

What other people with wombs other than women are there? I mean they obviously know these people are female as they talk about female sexuality, but I’m curious as to who else but women would a) have a womb b) be a mother? Why are mothers singled out what about aunts, sisters, grandmothers….

erm...... Errrr. weeeellllllllll....

Nope, getting nothing!

IcakethereforeIam · 01/02/2023 18:04

I've just clicked the link. I'd kinda noticed the picture, but absent mindedly identified it as a green concealer for redness. Is that still a thing? I rarely buy makeup.

JarByTheDoor · 01/02/2023 17:58

Aside from all that, I'm creeped out by "The Whisperer". Yes, I know it's supposed to suggest that you can get off without the chainsaw-like cacophony of an inferior vibrator motor waking all under-fives within a ten mile radius, causing them to sleepily barge into your bedroom and destroy the mood with their questions. But it makes me think of unpleasant, sleazy men leaning in to make quiet but unwanted comments, or feathery-stroker types who think they're being arousing when it's quite the opposite.

ResisterRex · 01/02/2023 17:58

"The idea of anything entering down there after giving birth is enough to make you cringe."

Cringe?

"motherhood is a deeply-rooted taboo"

No it isn't.

"sex and motherhood is a deeply-rooted taboo"

The two together make a taboo? These days?

"people with wombs feeling side-lined as sexual beings"

Well the advert has certainly dehumanised these "people". "With wombs".

And apart from anything else, the first thing I thought when I saw the picture was that it looks like that slanty nozzle you use on the vacuum cleaner that makes a very loud sound and sucks very hard but seems to be for the skirting board?

SirChenjins · 01/02/2023 17:53

Is motherhood and sex a deeply rooted taboo? Confused God knows which community they’ve been engaging with to come up with this guff but it’s a community for whom the clitoris has passed them by. Probably trans women…

borntobequiet · 01/02/2023 17:50

Ugh.

pattihews · 01/02/2023 17:48

Does anyone else wince at the idea of a brand called Smile Makers? So twee.

Itisbetter · 01/02/2023 17:44

“Activations”????

GrumpyPanda · 01/02/2023 17:44

Logically, surely this means "women" don't have wombs since they're listed as separate entities?

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 01/02/2023 17:43

An earlier version spoke of 'vulva owners' but they seem to have edited that out after feedback on the AIBU thread.