Something old, something new, something BlueStocking

I'm in Los Angeles, Detroit, in the Basin (West LA). A good location here too as we can walk to the shops, and DH gets the bus into work, so we actually use the car very little.

Don't worry. It'll be fine. If you can afford a taxi or a Lyft, I'd say it's probably a good idea. Then you'll be done after one trip, all your stuff around you, and you can start to relax, have a (non-alcoholic) beer to celebrate.

But if not, take it easy, so as to make sure you don't lose anything en route or leave anything behind (keys, phone, head...). Good luck!

You mentioned the Valley, are you in California, Apparalaxia? That all sounds like quite good fun! I haven't lived in a home of my own for many years, camped out for a long time, and spent 10 months in this shelter in a very bad part of town. The good side of it is that I really can just walk things over. Your cars sound cute. I miss my old truck. I am very urban, so walking is fine, if sometimes stressful. I might try and see if I can get a taxi to take my suitcases.
I am sitting here totally panicked that the powers that be wont give me the keys, or wont let me in, or that something will go wrong! My own front door. It is crazy! Still kinda miss my bears and bird though...

Mothers are humans too. We might not get it all right, but there are not many moms who don't try their best. I am so sorry your daughter made you feel this way.
Thanks, Weevils..I am so nervous. Just got to get through tonight in the shelter, get the keys tomorrow, and shift my stuff a few blocks away. I am not sure Im coping very well with the pressure. Ill be ok once I am in there!

When DH and I moved (back) to the States we stayed in a rented flat while looking for somewhere to buy. Although the flat was sort-of furnished, we hadn't even a teaspoon to call our name, as all our household possessions were in a container on the high seas, so we had to make numerous trips to Ikea in the Valley to buy everything from teaspoons to towels to tea-towels because we forgot them the first time to a teapot to tongs to trivets to an electric toothbrush; + sheets, duvet, pillows.

Plus a TV, VCR (this was 20 years ago), DVD player.

Oh, and a car. We kept Titania until last month, she was a much loved companion and I miss her very much. We're terrified of our new car (Carla) because she has so many high-tech things we don't know how to use, and I miss the cassette deck in Titania. And before anyone gets on my case for having female names only: (a) my first car was male but I am far too embarrassed to reveal his name; (b) Carla in the Smiley novels is a man and we wanted something dark and mysterious as she looks so glamorous; and (c) Carla self-identifies as female, but still has all her working parts.

...and thank you for your kindness , I meant to say. One always feels one could have done better, I understand, even parents with nothing to reproach themselves with. I am not among their number.

More flowers needed and for sustenance. Tiring business, moving. xxx

All good luck attend you, Detroit. for your settling in.

Yes, Feck! I got a blow up mattress, a pump and I have a few blankets. The rest can wait! Nice pizza? I cant ever get along with comforters or duvets, though!

When I moved over to the states I got off the plane and went straight to the house we had rented. I never bothered staying in a hotel, just got a cab to Walmart, picked up an inflatable mattress, sheets, pillows, a duvet, then a cab back. And ordered a pizza. It was home, so I wanted to sleep there.

Hah! Yeah, if I have to drag the suitcases up there, and do a few trips I swear I will happily walk. Truly hope nothing goes wrong and they give me the keys! I haven't had a home in so many years.
It's so nice everyone remembers me and is wishing me well!
...Just looking at used sofas. I don't think I can bring myself to get anything preordered until I am safely in there with the keys on my brand new crow keychain.
I keep looking at end tables and thinking "man that would be heavy to carry around!" I really have to get over this, otherwise I will be camping out in there...

Monday afternoon! I can get my keys at 4.30pm. No one can help me move, and the moving van isn't available to me, but it is only a few blocks. Ill manage,

So is it still Tuesday you're moving Detroit?

I thought you just had a stroppy teen/20s

Children are much harder work for longer than people make out….I thought I would be less worried about adult children

Don't blame yourself weevils. People make their own life choices when they are adults, some people just struggle with stability. I am so sorry she is causing you pain and upsetting your mother. Your mothering is not at fault, darling, it is just a mean old world out there, and life is tough xxx HUGS xx

Ah, it's a long story. Clearly I wasn't cut out for this mothering malarkey... She does have MH issues, but also has lurched from crisis to crisis for the past two decades and more. I was seriously pissed off that my aged and unwell mother was upset and worrying. Apparently they spoke today.

My heart does sink that it is a new bloke that has been the distraction but hey. She's 37.

theThreeofWeevils Excellent news!

On another note, DH brought me breakfast in bed this morning, as he does every Sunday. He usually makes a nice artistic arrangement of the comestibles. Here is today's effort (that's half a fig at the bottom).

Stay strong, Weevils! Perhaps you might actually get somewhere now she recognizes what she has done to clearly hurt you. (Puts big bottle of grey goose on the table).

Drinks are on me, I think ;- )

I'm grand, thanks, Detroit, just exceedingly surprised. I did leave a slightly snitty voicemail t'other day saying that while I didn't greatly care where or how she was, her grandmother does, so answering the phone some time this month to one of us might be nice...

Many congrats 🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉🎉

Jeez, Weevils, what brought that on?

My excuse is that I'm building up my strength. Term begins on Wednesday. I'll need all the strength I can muster, if the last academic year was anything to go by.

What do you want to drink, weavils? I'm glad they apologized. You ok?

Need a stiff drink. Just had a message from the offsprog, apologising for being a twat. My jaw dropped so far I fear it might have dislocated.

I'll only feel safe once the keys are in my hand and my door locked! I'm freaking out.

Gluten free magic brownies anyone?

How good to see Detroit here - and congratulations on your move tomorrow. What good news that is.
And a Thigh as well! Altho like Rufus I was often quite bamboozled by their varied contributions.
Settles in for the evening with a glass of and hands round the bottle.