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Thread from years ago, MNer as trans to flummox employer

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RhymesWithOrange · 04/05/2020 19:30

A few years ago a mumsnetter decided to tell her employer she id'd as trans, without changing her name, clothes etc. There was some consternation and bemusement from HR and then I lost the thread. Does anyone know what I'm talking about and what happened to the thread?

TIA Smile

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RhymesWithOrange · 07/05/2020 11:18

Cross post @Somerville.

Sorry about the harassment and doxxing. Great news about your new job, why feel guilty?

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RhymesWithOrange · 07/05/2020 11:15

Hi @Somerville hope you are well.

Did you win the award? Are you genderfree in your new job?

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Somerville · 07/05/2020 11:14

I didn't get the opportunity, no. They made up a bullshit and potentially discriminatory excuse - based on me being part time and the other applicants being full time. (They are childfree males and I have 4 children including a toddler... funny that I "choose" to only work part time huh?) And whilst my line manager was supportive initially, he didn't take action when I was bullied about my application. (Certain people at my work believed that I was "copying some t*rf on twitter". Wink)

I got legal advice, and believe I could have pursued a discrimination claim, but by this time bastards on twitter were constantly trying to hack and dox me so my husband was stressed, and then other family stuff came up which I needed to concentrate on, so I just got a better job and quit (which I still feel a bit guilty about).

Empress my dear, hope you're well?

ahumanfemale · 07/05/2020 10:45

Did your leaving relate to your gender identity? Were they not so inclusive an employee after all?

ShiveringCoyote · 07/05/2020 10:32

I was only thinking of you last week Somerville and wondered what came of the award. Did you get it in the end?

EmpressLangClegInChair · 07/05/2020 10:21

Somerville, how lovely to see you!

HorseRadishFemish · 07/05/2020 10:18

Excellent what you did somerville

Somerville · 07/05/2020 10:01

I agree that it feels like a lot longer than a year ago... yikes.

Thanks for tagging me Errol.

I've let that company now so I can say a bit more than I did at the time, if anyone has any questions.

JacobReesMogadishu Getting on inclusion committee - brilliant!

RabidChinchilla · 07/05/2020 00:23

I remember that thread. It wasn't that long ago.

Lordfrontpaw · 07/05/2020 00:03

Jacob - did you get your own loo and special headed paper?

SonEtLumiere · 04/05/2020 21:15

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RhymesWithOrange · 04/05/2020 20:44

So did she win the prize at work?

Can't believe that was just a year ago. I feel like we've been fighting this madness for decades (I know some people have).

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WrathofFaeKIopp · 04/05/2020 20:28

Oops cross posted.

JacobReesMogadishu · 04/05/2020 20:28

I’ve also done this at work. We have to fill out an annual 7 page form on gender choices and what we think about the gender inclusion policies, etc. I scribbled Copious notes all over mine rather than just tick boxes and handed it back in....was only a few weeks after I joined. They weren’t sure what to say.

Anyway I’m now on the inclusion committee. Grin

WrathofFaeKIopp · 04/05/2020 20:27

Here's one that should work
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3549710-Update-identifying-as-non-binary-for-work-award

ScapaFlo · 04/05/2020 20:26

Update: identifying as non-binary for work award www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3549710-Update-identifying-as-non-binary-for-work-award

Is this it? Not sure I can link from my phone...

vaginafetishist · 04/05/2020 20:24

I'm thinking...2019.?

vaginafetishist · 04/05/2020 20:23

C'mon that wasn't years ago.....was it?

WrathofFaeKIopp · 04/05/2020 20:21

I can't get it to link but searching Genderfree brings up the thread.

gassylady · 04/05/2020 20:21

Yes I remember that too Somerville identified as gender free (but possible kept pronouns as she/her) was a wonderful idea to highlight the madness it was for a works award I think.

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RhymesWithOrange · 04/05/2020 20:19

That was it, gender free. Somerville was ace. If anyone knows zir? Zie? Zem? I would love an update.

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OhHolyJesus · 04/05/2020 20:17

#Genderfree on twitter went wild, I think it was to do with either an application for something at work or an award that was specific to trans people, so she self ID's as genderfree as that comes under the Stonewall umbrella.

Good old Somerville's

noavailablename · 04/05/2020 20:01

Ah! Yes, it might have been gender free.

StrangeLookingParasite · 04/05/2020 19:56

I thought it was gender-free?

noavailablename · 04/05/2020 19:53

It was agender. As in not having a gender identity.

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