The Telegraph has a couple of articles from wives who've been through this. This one is good: www.telegraph.co.uk/women/life/like-phillip-schofield-my-husband-came-out-gay-wont-recover/
When I heard the news that Phillip Schofield had come out as gay, after 27 years of marriage, my reaction was not to feel happy for him, or to admire his bravery and honesty, as so many others seem to have done. Instead, I felt physically, violently sick.
His confession took me back to the moment, a decade ago, that my entire world came crashing down when the husband who had supposedly loved, honoured and cherished me for 30 years, told me that he was homosexual and had been living a lie throughout our relationship.
It was the ultimate betrayal and humiliation. It made me feel that I had lived half of my adult life in someone else's closet, as his ‘beard’. Those are years that I can never get back.
When gay men marry straight women, hoping they can repress their sexuality, they’re not only fooling themselves, but ensuring future heartbreak for those they claim to love. It ruins families.
Schofield states that his wife and daughters are being supportive, and he’s clearly getting plenty of support from the public, but I suspect his overriding emotion is one of relief. It’s his wife and daughters who really need the support. In fact, the praise my ex-husband got for his lies only added to my own pain.