Dildos & Vibrators

Sorry I asked him to go to counselling ten yrs ago before the affair and he refused. I didnt make that too clear in my last post.

When i had my affair and he first found out he muttered the word bitch under his breath.
My own DM said i was acting like a whore.
I can cope most of the time but the past few months have been hard. I asked him to go to counselling and he refused. I asked him whether we were ever going to be intimate again and he just said "i dont know"

My sexual feelings towards him now are dead because its been 17 yrs. We are more like friends.
He has now been partially disabled for the last seven yrs. Hes almost 63 and im 40 this year.
Everything just seems completely insurmountable.

Yes you do that Darkesteyes.

My ex would always promise to make an effort. I waited and waited. Makes you feel like a predator in the end.

Thanks Curious. X Its just finding someone i can trust. Thats the hard part. Im sorry to hear you have been through the same thing.
I never fail to be shocked and appalled by the number of women who are being put (or who have been) put through this.

On a lighter note i may go into our little local adult shop and treat myself during the week. A Valentines Day treat for myself perhaps.

love a rabbit, bullet not enough. What about those god awful corn on the cob ones

I don't like the rabbit at all. I got the super duper deluxe one years ago, hated it.

I think a lot of orgasmic feelings start in the mind anyway. Women can get turned on visually too, it used to be thought that only men did.

I wonder who invented the Rabbit. That seems like a woman might have made it!

Himalaya I have always thought the same. They are unnecessary.

I've always thought those vibrators that look like big veiny plastic cocks are a bit over literal.

They seem like the idea of a vibrator that a bloke would design, rather than something a woman would design to get the job done

Freya, a "general" kind of feeling, so I guess erm, I dunno

Does it matter ?

People who are having orgasms from nipple stimulation or all over body massage, where do you feel the orgasm? Is it an internal pelvic muscle contraction?

I wasn't trying to make out that all orgasms are clitoral by the way; I was just pointing out that as clitoral material surrounds the bottom part of the vagina, the clitoris is stimulated by penetration of the vagina.

Darkesteyes my exdh was like your dh. Nice guy but not into sex. I'm much happier now with dp but I know leaving isn't for everyone. I hope you find some joy in your sex life though as it's so very lonely.

Lovehoney are very discreet. But still I was at the postman when he handed me the large box the other day. He didn't know what was in it, but I did

Oh and I feel it inside too.

Given that I've occassionally woken up from a rude dream to find myself in the middle of an orgasm (untouched by human hand, so to speak), I think the lecturer was talking out of their arse.

Personally, orgasm purely from clitoral stimulation is just nice. Only ever orgasming this way would be a bit 'meh'!
It's always good, but PIV orgasms for me are earth shattering, multipled and almost overwhelming.
I think your lecturer has a lot to learn!

Erm, yes

< shuts up >

There are also other erogenous zones that can induce orgasm as well.

It's always an interesting experience for me if I have a facial or full body massage (an entirely 'above board' one!)

No touching of genitals at all, or nipples.

I can orgasm from nipple stim. Just wanted to put that out there. It is not a fallacy.

That's a brilliant riposte!

Yes i sat there and thought exactly the same. I wish id thought of it.

that made me genuinely lol, I never think of things like that when I need them

HH someone else tweeted back that those men will be extinct soon anyway as they dont seem to mind dating serial killers.

The straight mans biggest fear is that their date will be fat.

Charming

Yes. Its just getting up the guts to do it. I saw a tweet yesterday which said that when online dating the straight womans biggest fear is that they will meet a serial killer. The straight mans biggest fear is that their date will be fat. When i see things like that and the article about that reality stars fiance it makes me wonder if im not better off where i am. I do know not all men are shallow arseholes though.