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Have you read Emotional Agility by Susan David? Post your feedback by 13 June for chance to win £100 Love2Shop Voucher!

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SorchaMumsnet · 25/04/2016 12:58

As part of our ongoing campaign with Penguin Life to bring you books to inspire healthy living, this month we present Emotional Agility- psychologist Susan David’s guide to a new way of living and relating to yourself and the world around you.

Susan David has found that emotionally agile people experience the same stresses and setbacks as anyone else. The difference is that the emotionally agile know how to unhook themselves from unhelpful patterns, and how to create values-based success with better habits and behaviours. With Emotional Agility, you can find out how to become one of those people: learn to face your emotions with acceptance and generosity, act according to your deepest values, and flourish.

We've got 50 copies of Emotional Agility to give away to Mumsnetters who want to read and share their thoughts about it on this discussion. Go to the giveaway page to find out more about the book and apply for a free copy.

You don't have to win a free copy to take part in the discussion. Anyone who has read Emotional Agility can post their feedback here. If you miss out on a free copy, you can always buy a paperback. All who post feedback before 13 June will be entered into a prize draw to win a £100 Love2shop voucher.

This giveaway is sponsored by Penguin Life

Have you read Emotional Agility by Susan David? Post your feedback by 13 June for chance to win £100 Love2Shop Voucher!
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oneortwoorthree · 11/07/2016 19:38

I LOVE this book, it is well thought out and very interesting, I read the whole thing and then read it again straight away! As other posters have said, the complicated bit is integrating it into your own life, but I think you have to try one thing at a time. In fact, she talks about adopting new habits in the book, making them part of your daily life so that they become as natural as brushing your teeth every morning.
Thanks so much Mumsnet, I am so pleased I won this book! It was meant to be!

annr · 28/06/2016 10:39

I received a copy of this from the book giveaway. I haven't read a lot of self help books and haven't yet finished this one! What I do like about this book is that it gives practical ways of changing the way you respond to events that you could actually manage to implement. I'm planning to try some of these out over the coming weeks and hope that it will help m to be more resilient.

SammyF1976 · 09/06/2016 13:50

I've received my copy - thank you! Just started reading it - only on chapter 2 so far but already I'm finding it really interesting. I am hoping that it is going to help me cope with the awful 'work life balance' situation that my family are currently in with my husband's job.

serendipity1980 · 08/06/2016 21:21

In about two thirds of the way through my free copy - thanks Mumsnet! It is really interesting, haven't read a self help book for years but I really enjoyed this and am trying to put some of the strategies into practice. I am a worrier, over things I should just let go, hopefully this book will help me do this. Thanks again for a valuable read.

thriftymrs · 07/06/2016 11:54

As I don't usually read self-help books, I wasn't quite sure what to expect but I am finding this book accessible and easy to read without it being "preachy". I think the general idea of making 'small tweaks' to one's behaviour and habits is an achievable approach. The sections which relate to children and teenagers are well written and I'm sure will be useful to many readers. It's a book I will share with friends and which will be useful to dip back into in the future. Thanks, Mumsnet, for giving me the opportunity to read something that's a bit different for me.

Kelloges0811 · 02/06/2016 20:34

Recently recieved my free Emotional Agility Book thank you Mumsnet. I am about to start chapter two. I was expecting to be gripped straight away but finding it a bit hard to get into. I know I have only just really started, and not having read many self help books maybe a few more chapters before I can give more feedback. I have just come out of a very stressful six months at work, gaining a promotion but not being given a position. Eventually I have successfully gained a post on promotion and due to start a new role in a new office in a new area, so I am hoping a gain greatly from this book and that I am able to put it into practice in my work and home life too. Thanks again Mumsnet

JoGregory · 02/06/2016 09:27

Not made it very far through so far, but de something i want to pursue. Written in plain english rather than psycho-babble I can see this being enlightening and practical the deeper in to it I get.

henchard · 31/05/2016 19:52

Thank you for my copy which has taken me a little while to read. Unfortunately I found a lot of the content was not really that relevant to me personally. On the surface the book appears to be full of practical advice and tips but I suspect it may not be so easy putting it all into practice in reality. Not my usual choice of book.

ninnytendo · 31/05/2016 15:32

I don’t usually read non-fiction and self-help books because I tend to find them dry, boring and too factual. This is a very different type of non-fiction book. It is very interesting, relatable to your every-day life and very engaging. Susan David uses a very human and down-to-earth approach and she uses very sympathetic and relatable situations you can learn from and examples to make you reflect about your own behaviour.

Emotional agility comprises many aspects of life and behaviour and Susan David breaks it down in very simple and easy to understand areas. Each chapter deals with a different aspect of emotional agility and it contains examples of her study and experience to demonstrate how to change your perception and behaviour in order to deal with the situation and become more mentally agile. You will find yourself thinking about your personal behaviour and how you would react to the situations that Dr David relates. You will follow the steps towards mental agility: ‘Show up’ (be aware of the emotions), ‘Step Out’ (approach them with courage) and ‘Walk Your Why’ (understand what your personal values and aims are and act accordingly). You will become aware of techniques to understand and appreciate emotion and deal with it to live a fulfilled and efficient life.

FoxInABox · 31/05/2016 14:35

Thank you for my copy, I really found this interesting. Hoping I can put it into practice.

lazurda · 31/05/2016 14:23

I had high hopes for this book as I would say I am one of those people who, even in middle age with plenty of life experience behind me, cannot seem to roll with the punches, and have a tendency to catastrophise. The title appealed to me as I feel it's something I lack.
I'm part way through the book and have to agree with the poster above that it is rather unfocused.
I've found myself sighing a bit, thinking "give me some new ideas, tell me something I've not heard before..."
I'm past the small children and teenagers stages now but I think I would have found plenty of useful pointers when my two were younger as it certainly wasn't all plain sailing.
Like most self-help books - and I have read more than my fair share - a lot of its content is really only common sense and the hard part is putting into practice, on a daily basis, what you read.
I'm thinking as I'm a bit older now, I must now have read too many and that's why I'm finding not a lot that's new or innovative in this book.
On the plus side, if you haven't read many books of this type, there are plenty of good ideas and it is written in a very approachable style, easy to digest.
The idea of "small tweaks" is really good and I can easily relate to that - slightly less impressed by the "see-saw principle".
I did find the sections on hooks and trying to unhook quite helpful but was less convinced by "showing up" and "stepping out".
Even though I've read plenty of American self-help books and ought to be used to the jargon by now, I was very irritated by the phrase "Walking Your Why" and on page 173, the phrase "the trick is to remain whelmed" and "Staying Whelmed".
I'm about two thirds through now, so will report back when I've finished the whole book, before 13 June.

jammy388 · 29/05/2016 20:52

Readable and realistic, with some interesting exercises drawn from seemingly robust research. Unlike many other self-help books this one advocates small tweaks as the way to make positive and lasting changes. It was a relief to read the author's opinion that striving to think positive at all times and actively pursuing happiness can be counter - productive. I also warmed to the author as she described her own struggles at times to be emotionally agile. I am now reading through the book a second time and having a go at some of the suggested exercises. I feel this is a good book to keep by me to revisit when challenging situations come up, a kind of handbook for life.

Reasontobelieve · 29/05/2016 14:54

Thank you for sending me a copy of this book. I am not sure what to make of it, as it has got lots of seemingly useful advice, but I do wonder how easy it would be to put it into practice. It all makes perfect sense, but I feel that it is very difficult to exercise the level of emotional detachment that it required to follow the ideas in this book. I am currently facing a work- based dilemma, that I am finding difficult to resolve - but because the situation is so stressful, I haven't found the book that helpful. On the other hand, I did find the section that covers giving advice to children and teenagers very useful.

Mythbirt · 28/05/2016 08:56

This is a book I will probably take a while to read (and may have to mix it with a bit of fiction) not because it's hard to read - I like the slightly larger font and the spacing - but because I'm recognising the behaviours and reactions which are set out in understandable ways. I'm spending time contemplating which is not my usual style of reading. It's a book I'll hold onto and which I feel I'll come back to again and again to dip into.

LittleBoxes · 27/05/2016 07:37

I'm finding it a pleasant read but a bit unfocused - there is so much in it that I haven't quite yet got my head round which advice is relevant to me and which isn't (probably all of it, in reality!) Still not at the end though (currently on the Work chapter, which is rather helpful), so I imagine that it'll all become a bit more coherent in my brain once I've finished the book. But in general I'm enjoying it and finding it useful.

smilingmum1 · 26/05/2016 22:56

Fabulous book!
I'm delighted to have recieved it. It really has changed my thinking already. I'm not getting so emotionally stuck.
and it is really well written, easy to read and full of annecdotes, research and quotes.
Inspiring!

sjonlegs · 26/05/2016 19:23

Blimey - such an interesting read! I feel like an emotional car crash - but hope that with my newly learned guidance/tools I'll be more emotionally agile in the future. I've harped on about it so much that my husband has already baggsied a read and I have a handful of friends in the wings- grappling for my copy. I've put a brief review on Goodreads bit.ly/1TZ0Wh3 and will most probably mention it in my end of month blog too - as one of the best things I've read this month. www.sjonlegs.com . An impressive read - if you haven't already read it crack on!!

Have you read Emotional Agility by Susan David? Post your feedback by 13 June for chance to win £100 Love2Shop Voucher!
Tirtytreeandaturd · 24/05/2016 13:06

Very interesting book. Has given me many coping strategies which I am hoping to use in my complicated and stressful life.

cambridgemumof4 · 23/05/2016 21:34

Very readable and practical. Well written. Probably will need re-reading and re-reading at different life stages....many thanks.

oneortwoorthree · 20/05/2016 13:22

I am really looking forward to reading this but my mum has nicked it so I'm going to have to wait! Am hoping it will help me and my daughters. Smile

lorka · 19/05/2016 20:36

Thank you for my copy of Emotional Agility. Looks like an interesting read.

salmatt · 19/05/2016 10:33

Just started reading this. Looks interesting.

hanliying · 18/05/2016 22:46

Really interesting bad practical guide book

Mughalswife · 18/05/2016 20:29

I have only read about half of the first chapter, but can already see that this could be a very helpful book. It is making me think about certain thought processes I tend to get stuck in and I am looking forward to reading the rest. And it is very readable. Thanks for my copy!

FernieB · 18/05/2016 16:12

Just finished my copy. Found it very interesting - I don't usually read self-help style books but I do wish I'd read this when my DC were small. It all sounds very plausible and logical but I'm not sure how easy it is to put these ideas into practice in your own life.

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