Feeling frustrated and sad about my daughter’s three-day suspension.

What a load of bollocks. Proud her daughter is filming in a school toilet? Shining by filming in a toilet? I can see why you’re having trouble understanding things.

Do you know you can be sacked from your job for doing the same thing?

If student was not in lesson there is always online recourses available.

Suspension is a serious matter but the child's learning should not be interrupted.

Filming in a toilet is completely inappropriate, you don't seem to understand that. You're more focused on the punishment than on helping your DD understand why this behaviour was understandably something that school will take seriously.

Phones are treated as prohibited items in our local schools, so instant suspension if seen. Add in filming and then filming in the toilet area, 3 days could be seen as light punishment.

Students will know the repercussions, OP’s DD would have known what the risk was.

If she had filmed someone in the toilet, even accidentally she could have been in the shit (excuse the pun)

Toilets and phones are not a good mix in schools, there is a reason governments/schools are bringing in rules about phone use in schools

Schools are mandated to not allow phone use in schools now. So harsh punishments all round

It per the school’s behaviour policy, which both the DD and OP will have agreed to when signing up to the school

You will look back on this and realise it didn't matter that much really.
There are so many other awful things she could have done that really did justify the punishment given.
She probably won't do anything like this again, if she were mine I'd back the school up but secretly be thinking that they were a bit over the top with a 3 day suspension.

They were caught though.

I didn't know that - but 'work' need not be classwork.

I took 'classwork' to mean work the class would be doing in her absence, but that might not be correct.

The work suspended pupils get could be something generic which would not need to be set individually by the class teachers. That would be a reasonable request.

As to the pupils staying at home, I would expect so but am not able to comment.

Why was punishment OTT? Also it accords with the school’s behaviour policy, which both DD and OP should know

I certainly taught mine to challenge authority if it was wrong
i think the punishment was OTT
I certainly wouldn’t punish her at home

Sorry, but i think the school have gone quite easy on her.

She has not only breached school rules about phones, she has breached her teachers trust by abusing the lesrning break they were given. And then she has also broken safeguarding ones by firstly filming in the toilets and secondly intending to post it.

You seem to be massive minimising what she has done here. Why is that?

But many students wouldn’t, that is why phones can’t be in the toilets

Wonder how many posters saying it isn’t a big deal would have an issue if their child was filmed whilst on the toilet. This is why phones are banned from school toilet areas and all students will know that

They could have stopped filming at that point…..?

If she shares with anyone there is a chance, quite a big one, that it becomes public.

You need to know that and so does she.

I completely agree. What a mountain out of a molehill!!

She is a teenager doing a tiktok dance with her friends for only her friends to see.

Calm down.

This. But the reason we have such tricky youngsters now is because whenever rules are enforced the parents whine - OP says she “accepts” but she isn’t setting out consequences at home.

This is a clear example of false equivalence - equating murderers with girls having fun is ridiculous.

the disproportionality of the punishment is shocking, as is the number of people living in a parallel universe who agree with this level of discipline being imposed for what is a harmless act.

If children are ingenious enough to have their phones in school without being caught and have some fun amongst the learning, why shouldn’t they do so?

I’m confused as to why you’re frustrated with the school. She was caught using a phone she shouldn’t be creating a TikTok in the toilets. You are disappointed in her and rightly so. What did the school
do wrong?

Watch Carrie (you can stream it now). Yes, it's obviously fiction. But there have been so many things that have really happened, and too much of teachers' time is take up dealing with things that just wouldn't have been part of their job 20 years ago, meaning they're struggling to do the things they should be able to do. Most schools have phone bans now round where I live, because parents were giving smartphones to kids and there was a lot of bullying and one serious consequence-and that girl's parents had only given her a dumbphone, but she was recorded by someone else whose parents gave her a smartphone and didn't prevent her posting stuff online, when she wasn't even a teenager.

Why should murderers and rapists not do what they want?
Why does society need any rules?
Kids are at school to learn, not to be dancing in some fucking grim toilets. The phone shouldn't have even been turned on.

In England schools have to provide work for suspended pupils. Pupils also shouldn’t be out and about during school hours

@localnotail wrote Make sure you request classwork for the three days, schools sometimes not very good with this.

Do non-teachers realise how much extra work this will probably give them? It’s not just a matter of saying, “Do exercise 5 p231 questions 1-10,” partly because if the student was not in the lesson they may not know how to do the new work.