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Been sent an odd video by friend, unsure what to think

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Letelegraphe · 13/07/2026 20:46

Friends with 2 guys I used to work with who are about 3-4 years younger than me (I'm mid 30s] I worked with them for nearly 2 years but no longer work for that department, there are a few other friends I keep in touch with from that job but they don't know each other.

I see the 2 guys about 3 times a year for a coffee/lunch and i did so last week. I'm married, i think they're both single but never been anything untoward, they've never flirted or anything. We talk about work, property market, travel, cars, usual stuff. Odd whatsapp in between for birthdays, job news etc.

Anyway one of them has just sent me a video out of nowhere of a young woman with very large/pert breasts running in a swimsuit causing them to bob up and down, and a group of techy sort of men are breaking their necks to stare at her.

Not replied and no idea what to do, shall I just ignore? Completely out of the blue, he's quite a serious sort of man too, I've never heard him talk about women or anything. Any thoughts?

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chocoluv · 13/07/2026 21:40

His account may have been hacked.

My friend sent lots of similar videos to random people (including her boss).

I’m glad you checked.

Sherararara · 13/07/2026 21:25

Reply with “ooo I love this so much, send me more!”

Horses7 · 13/07/2026 21:23

Talltreesbythelake · 13/07/2026 20:49

I would reply, 'I'm assuming that wasn't for me," and leave it there.

First post nails it as usual!

AliasGrape · 13/07/2026 21:21

I managed to send my friend a very odd gif of a sexually suggestive bottle of ranch dressing - no head but it had arms (beckoning in what I assume was supposed to be a suggestive manner) and legs (splayed).

For the life of me I cannot tell you how I managed to do that, why it even exists and what combination of buttons my fat thumbs accidentally tapped to do that. Luckily my friend thought it was hilarious.

Glad you’ve checked though @Letelegraphe and he’s said it wasn’t for you, hopefully he’s suitably mortified!

30DegreesHighAndRising · 13/07/2026 21:16

Well the OP was clearly uncomfortable with the video hence posting here. If she chooses to believe that he sent it by accident that's up to her.

Of course she could also decide that this sort of sexist, juvenile video gives her an insight into the sender and she may reevaluate her opinion of him.

Or she might do what women usually do and pretend it didn't happen/doesn't matter and carry on as usual.

Nn9011 · 13/07/2026 21:06

Was it a tiktok video by any chance? Clearly his fyp is questionable but it's a common problem for people to accidentally share videos, I've done it myself a couple of times. Thankfully my fyp is normal so they were not questionable ones haha

Stillso · 13/07/2026 21:04

30DegreesHighAndRising · 13/07/2026 20:57

Phew?
So it's fine that he sends stuff like this to other people?

Of course it’s fine
it was a jokey video about pervy men

Ipsevenenabibas · 13/07/2026 21:03

30DegreesHighAndRising · 13/07/2026 20:57

Phew?
So it's fine that he sends stuff like this to other people?

Of course it is. Other people might like it/appreciate it, whatever. Just cause you don't like it doesn't mean others can't or don't! Get a grip my gosh!

Letelegraphe · 13/07/2026 20:58

30DegreesHighAndRising · 13/07/2026 20:57

Phew?
So it's fine that he sends stuff like this to other people?

I mean not really, but..i don't know what to think. Just as long as it wasn't for me.

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Letelegraphe · 13/07/2026 20:57

I had another male colleague message me saying 'You look gorgeous on your profile pic ;)' then when I pulled him up on it he claimed he had meant to send it to his girlfriend and sent it to me by accident. I'm hoping it was the truth.

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30DegreesHighAndRising · 13/07/2026 20:57

Phew?
So it's fine that he sends stuff like this to other people?

Stillso · 13/07/2026 20:56

Letelegraphe · 13/07/2026 20:53

Just checked and it's not tik tok or a gif, ill see what he replies

Wow that was quick!!

Letelegraphe · 13/07/2026 20:54

He said it was a mistake, phew.

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Letelegraphe · 13/07/2026 20:53

Just checked and it's not tik tok or a gif, ill see what he replies

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Stillso · 13/07/2026 20:52

GingerLeopard · 13/07/2026 20:52

It’s not on TikTok is it? It’s soooo easy to accidentally send people videos on there, I do it about once a week, and receive similar from friends who ave accidentally done it to me.

This is what I’m thinking

sounds like a Gif to me

Letelegraphe · 13/07/2026 20:52

It's just a short video rather than a gif. I'll just send 'was this meant for me?'

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TheBlueKoala · 13/07/2026 20:52

A mistake surely. How embarrassed he will be..

GingerLeopard · 13/07/2026 20:52

It’s not on TikTok is it? It’s soooo easy to accidentally send people videos on there, I do it about once a week, and receive similar from friends who ave accidentally done it to me.

AnonymityAnonymity · 13/07/2026 20:51

I agree anout you replying and asking if he meant to send it to you.
Tbh it would rather put me off meeting these guys again because I"d rather not know their fantasies

meganorks · 13/07/2026 20:51

I'd assume he's sent it to the wrong person. So I'd probably reply with that 'did you mean to send that to me?!'

Pointyleaf · 13/07/2026 20:51

Don't reply unless you can do it on another platform.

Stillso · 13/07/2026 20:51

Is it a gif?

roycroppersshopper · 13/07/2026 20:50

Surely a mistake?

Stillso · 13/07/2026 20:50

I’d just reply with a “?”
and he will no doubt be mortified and it was
sent accidentally

Letelegraphe · 13/07/2026 20:50

I had a sleazy former colleague in his 50s send me instagram memes about boobs and camel toe 🤮(blocked him) so I'm sensitive to this kind of thing now.

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