The thread about jay slater

I agree. I don't necessarily want to be part of a site that is no better than all the mawkish and ridiculous Facebook groups. And I've been here about 16 years.

You’ve answered the question yourself. Nearly 1K comments means more posters and more traffic on the site. We all have to remember that MN is a business.

This isn’t some lovely community where we can all get together and support one another. MN is a business and they make money through us. Of course the thread was awful and should have been deleted much earlier but you can see why they didn’t pull it straight away

Mumsnet are happy to let these threads run. They've suggested I can hide threads I don't want to see. It's not about me. It's very distasteful.

There’s yet another thread this morning for the ghouls to assemble. I don’t think MN should allow these threads full of batshit speculation about missing people. Let the grief tourists and ghouls go elsewhere if they’re desperate to discuss it.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5102475-anyone-else-think-there-might-be-something-strange-about-the-19yr-old-disappearance-in-tenerife?reply=136205576

I hope he is found soon if only to give his Mum some closure. He is unlikely to be still alive after all this time and my thoughts go out to his family that are going through agony. I do understand why some people have posted in anger towards him given his history. Seems he is not the lovely and popular boy his Mum is portraying him as, nevertheless he is someone's son and he needs to be found.

@vacay the other poster doesn't understand anything. They are the author of the post below you've copied z

I've reported and agree the other thread needs to go too. Vile @LilyMumsnet

There is something called freedom of speech. Just because you don't like something said by another person that means you should call for banning them.

I haven't read the thread but I don't like the concept of thought police.

firstly i agree , people can be omg, that said on the flip side of the coin and part of democracy, how can we justify all the news papers covering it and the speculation in the papers ?

There's another thread.
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5100159-19-year-old-missing

It's human nature to gossip and speculate. Always has been.

I don’t think it’s normal to treat situations like this as entertainment.

They'll be back to get their rocks off next time there's a missing person story in the news.

Glad it's gone. The mirth and glee really took over by the end of it. Some people could stand to take a look at their own lack of humanity.

I'm galloping in on my high horse now but I hate all the 'you don't have to open the thread' bollocks that is so often used as a defence on here. My opinion might be wrong after all but I am allowed to go against the grain.

It isn't my nature to speculate, gossip and get great entertainment from a missing person's fate.
As my Grandmother used to say, only vultures pick the bones of a corpse, or in this case a son who is missing

No, not human nature. And that thread was far more than gossip and speculation.

Some of what was written about someone's 19 year old son was beyond shameful.

No it's not. Not any decent human anyway. Until we know what really happened and it may well be a scam or whatever. Taking the piss out of someones missing son and making up shit for entertainment is never okay.

I didn't say its right I'm just pointing out that it's human nature

So, we just stand by and let utter idiots say what ever they want? That's not going to happen. I suggest you find another forum where only people that agree with you comment. Try Tattle.

We're talking about someone's child who has very likely died.

It's human nature to gossip and speculate. Always has been.
You don't have to read it, although you obviously have because you know what was in it