Feeling miserable. Be gentle please 🙏
My partner of 6 years doesn't initiate or want sex.
Passionate kisses stopped a while ago and even then only happened when he was drunk. Doesn't seem to want blow jobs. Gone down on me once (first night) never since then. Have given up asking for him to be more attentive. Problems with ED from start apparently but didn't tell me at first. Tried counselling , was meant to be couples but only did one session and he went to do his own as that's what therapist suggested. Spent months with her, no change.
Feeling old before my time and I'm a few years older than him he's just gone 40). I shower every day, he doesn't bother. Have to basically beg for a massage.
Ended up paying for one regular as that's the only way I get touched. Not as fussed about sex and he knows this but just want intimacy. But now it's awkward and resentment has set in. Don't know whether it's just the ED, asexual, autism or just can't be bothered. Asked him if he was gay years ago, got really mad at me and walked off. But can't tell as he doesn't get hard anyway if naked men are on tv or anyone for that matter.