There's something sersiously wrong with my mother in her early 70s

Agreed. You never address the important questions, and you be back here next week with another similar thread.

@ByBlueMooseYes, your final two paragraphs sum it up for me.

Not sure what we can do though.

I suspect the OP isn’t going to reply on this thread again.

It really reminds me of a repeated poster years ago who was called daisy something I think.

Repeated threads about her neighbours and family doing strange things and how nobody listened to her about it in RL.

She seemed quite mentally unwell but as the posts were in isolation, she'd have well-meaning posters offering advice and agreeing with her that it did seem strange.

Which fuelled the paranoid/delusional ideas.

Another I remember was a repeated name-changer clearly very mentally unwell who posted thread after thread about finding out her DC may have been exposed to a virus, a common childhood one.

Because she'd start threads asking if she was unreasonable to be worried they'd catch it? people would say no but as the threads went further she'd talk about planning what to bury her DC in as they were going to die.

But as is common on MN, most people didn't read the OPs posts beyond the 1st one so she'd have people joining saying 'do they seem unwell? Have a temp? A rash? or whatever, which fanned the flames of her mental illness. People offering reassurance were just ignored.

Some posters would clock it all and plead with her to get help with her mental health but she'd leave the thread and come back with a new one a few days later under a different name.

Which led to some bunfights as posters who recognised her would say 'you keep posting about this, you've been advised on many occasions you need help with your mental health' and other posters would dive in saying 'the OP is just worried, why are you being so mean? She just wants reassurance, weren't you ever worried as a Mum?'

Repeated threads under name changes, always with the same/similar content and never taking any advice can be red flags that the OP is unwell in my opinion.

And that's leaving out this OP saying she had to put a lock on her bedroom door because her Mum was going through her things and has an 'obsession' with OPs underwear...

I’m not sure. But something is definitely not right.

Yes, it’s all very strange and I suspect it’s never going to be resolved.

The OP receives good advice but never acts on it.

When questioned in the situation and why she’s living with her mother as a grown adult, she seems to clam up and then start another thread months later, repeating the same issues.

It looks like the time the plumber came and the mum gave him a dirty look, and when she ran into her room when the chimney sweep was there, were years ago now. Yet the OP is still talking about it.

OP, if what you are saying is true, that you live with your mother but have a lock on your door as she snoops, and she runs down the hall to her room in case you go in….that doesn’t sound healthy.

Could you move out? Why are you there? Is one of you caring for the other? And if so, which way round is it?

And never explains why she doesn’t just say, to her Mother who she lives with, 'why are you doing that?'

Coming up with all sorts of strange ideas instead.

I hate to be suspicious or sceptical but maybe the mother is the OP herself?

The oil tank lady came to my mind as well.

if I recall, the OP didn’t specify until quite late on that she was actually living with the mother and then she didn’t explain why she was living with the mother, or why she couldn’t just arrange for the repair of the oil tank.

OP, kindly you have posted so many times about this situation under different usernames but your posting style is very distinctive and you have received much good advice which you seem determined to ignore. If you don't like the advice or you can't act upon it for some good reason, then that's fine but coming back and asking the same questions over and over again if you can't or won't do anything About it is useless.

@ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself It certainly seems like the same issues and the same poster. It is the same complaints and lack of action. The poster has had plenty of advice over many, many months and threads.

Is this the oil tank lady?

Op, you have posted about your mother more than once. Always similar issues and you always get similar responses that you then ignore. Move. Out.

Time to move out.

Why haven't you asked her?

@BlueBrickRoad Hard as it is you have now seized the initiative and taken refuge in a friend's house, please consider that your next step should be making moving out of your dm's house permanent. Your relationship with your mother from reading your posts over a period of time is fractious and each having your own space must be your priority regardless of dm's health. Nothing is going to change while you continue to live together apart from a deterioration in your relationship.

When my MIL started losing the plot, I spoke to her GP. That was a complete waste of time, he just wasn’t interested.

Things rumbled on and as she lived alone I got more and more concerned for her safety. Unfortunately, there’s very little you can do unless the person reaches out for help.

Eventually things came to a head, when the district nurse attended to give MIL an injection. The nurse realised what the situation was and had my MIL admitted to hospital for an assessment. She didn’t come home after that.

I was relieved. I kept saying to my DH that we’d all feel terrible if she’d come to harm in some way.

I spoke to Age UK. They can give you information and advice.

The thing about UTIs in women of that age the UTIs can stick around a long time, months and even years. It might be something else, but it’s worth checking.

You say that she’s been like this few years now and I’m wondering if the lockdowns are anything to do with this, we are only a couple of years out of lockdowns, has she recovered mentally from all the covid stuff? Whatever it is I hope she agrees to see a dr soon.

OP - this is another thread about an ongoing situation. You have had plenty of advice from posters in the past. You post every few weeks about your issues with your mother. I'm not troll hunting or stalking, your posting style is distinctive and you always post about the same issues.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/elderly_parents/5328757-ignoring-house-problems-and-easily-angered

Please move out. The issue is with you not your mother.

She needs doctors as a starting point full bloods urine test and some cognitive tests - can you ask the doctor to arrange an appointment as a well woman type of check up so she thinks it’s just a routine thing and not something you have arranged.

Having some similar issues with mine at the moment and turns out her B12 was ridiculously low and she starts treatment today - she had convinced herself she had dementia starting

Does your mother ever leave the house? Does she have friends?