TTC September/October 26

I’ve had an increase in mucus and .3s today, fingers crossed for you!!
do you have to start the digitals a certain time in your cycle? I was thinking of picking up clear blues as Amazon had them on sale and I quite like the idea of just plugging it in and waiting for a smile 😅

@Vimto1991 yes you start them I believe CD10! I have the touchscreen monitor (got it a few years ago when TTC #1) but I think I prefer the flashing / static smiley ones! I think the monitor is good for long term TTC (although you never really know how long you’ll be TTC for!). Although that flashing smiley looks smug when it’s on its 5th day of flashing 😂

I remember when i was TTC #1, they were like £11-15 😂 and that was only 2 years ago!

@Springcloud26 hope you get your static! Keep us updated!

I think today is the day for me - .78 on the opk with FMU. CB monitor says high but it didn’t go peak for me last pregnancy so not sure what I was hoping.

i think I would have got the flashing smiley ones if I didn’t have any sticks left for this thing from last TTC!

@Vimto1991 @GreenPickle CD 19 and ran out of CB so did strip FMU and 0.45 which is higher than my previous days of 0.1/0.2, so I’ll test again this evening to see if it is higher! 🤞

Negative test this morning which I kind of expected but hoped I was wrong. I thought I was 12 DPO today but maybe I’m 11. Either way I’m out this month. Hope everyone that’s waiting to ovulate doesn’t have to wait much longer

yay! it's crazy that you can't just buy the sticks - have to buy the whole little monitor thing again! fb marketplace might have them cheap nearby.

I did a test with SMU and now im up to 0.84. I'm just going to keep testing every few hours to catch it - mainly just so i know it's deffo THE peak for my own satisfaction. especially since my last successful cycle it went peak for about 5 seconds 😂

sorry to hear - there's always a bit of hope no matter what at the end of the cycle. i hope next month is successful for you! do you use any OPKs?

It’s just awful. I hate ttc. No I don’t use OPKs. I had really bad cramps 11-12th so I am predicting that is when I ovulated. I usually go by EWCM and cramps but I didn’t have any of the former this month. My friend gave me some OPKs last month but it’s just something else for me to obsess about

totally understandable about the obsession as it does take over your life for a bit! i think for me it's about the control of knowing what's going on but i do go a bit OTT with them

Could you try one month with OPKs and see how you get on? I find that my body produces EWCM days before I actually peak/ovulate and my apps are nearly always way off - the digital clearblue ones are good because you only need to that once a day!

are you TTC your first?

I have used them previously but wasn’t a fan. I might try them again but will see how I get on without first.

I usually get EWCM and then ovulate a day later. No my second. Are you trying for your first? With my DS it took 4 years of not preventing but not actively trying. Hoping it takes less time for baby 2. I don’t want a nearly 6 year age gap

I'm sorry, hopefully you have better luck next month ❤

ah ok! they deffo add pressure and can sometimes take the fun out of it all (deffo doesnt help stress levels constantly tracking!). we have just been dtd everyday since my period ended 2 weeks ago 😂 if it doesnt happen this month, dtd much later in october!

this is my second, first is 17 months! we got pregnant first time previously but ended up in a loss and took a cycle or two to fall again so not sure if i have the same naive expectations! this is only my first cycle trying for number 2 as well - it's so all encompassing and i havent even really started

How do you have the energy to dtd every day? We only managed once this time during my fertile window so I wasn’t expecting a positive.

My first is also 17 months! Are you a member of the April 2025 babies WhatsApp group?

Honestly, I don't know! I think it helps he is desperate for another little one so doing all that we can and covering all bases!

no, i think i stayed away from them because i was so worried it would end in another loss!

do you think you could be missing your best fertile days at all? i know o-1 and o day is meant to be the best!

Fingers crossed it happens this month for you.

Ahh I get why, I was apprehensive to join too. They’re such a lovely group and we’ve been speaking now for over two years.

I don’t think I’m missing it. I’ve attached a photo, what do you think?

ooo! I love seeing other people's calendars!

it's hard to say without knowing exactly when you ovulate but if we base it off the calendar above, i have normally heard the day before ovulation (so 10th September) is normally the day with the highest chance. Not sure if you have heard of sperm meets egg method? but it's basicially having the sperm there ready for when the egg is released (11th September)

Here's something i remember from my first pregnancy which massively helped me!

@Selyak not sure why that didn’t upload in my previous message!

Definitely helps to know it’s the one, 0.84 is pretty good though! 🤞

This month was just a write off really and we didn’t have the time to dtd. I had no signs of ovulation until I started cramping so I thought I would have longer but clearly not. I may have possibly ovulated on the Saturday but I’m sure it wasn’t on the Sunday.

Yeah I’ve heard of it and was considering trying it next month. Is that how you conceived your first?

Thank you. Didn’t realise on the day was so low, thought it would be a lot higher than that

@Vimto1991 @GreenPickle I think I have my peak! I dtd this morning and will go again tomorrow and next day) will also test again later to see if it rises any further.

My Premom app has changed predicted ovulation to today, I thought it was more likely be 24-36 hours after peak, so tomorrow or Friday?

Wow! That was a quick rise. I think ovulation is tomorrow and Friday would be 1dpo! I normally test so early just for fun 😂

it might change it once it registers tests that shows a fall in LH?

I find it easier to plan dtd with the CB tests with flashing smileys because you can do it every other day from then and then everyday once it hits peak!

yes! We did SMEP, I think that comes naturally anyway as we dtd so often anyway! I think most people do every other day in their fertile window and that seems to work!

we normally stop 1dpo. I think the whole thing is just timing and luck really!

Hello! Sorry, I often need a break from here at the end of the TWW/ beginning of my cycle. But back now!

So sorry this wasn’t your cycle either! TTC is really hard. I actually found the first few months the hardest to deal with! Now that it’s been 10 months I’m almost numb to the whole thing. Don’t really expect to see a line. I only tested once this cycle, 11 dpo! Which is great for saving money but definitely reflects how flat I’m feeling about it. I’ve been hitting the days perfectly! So much sex! But it’s just not working so I really think there is a problem.

Hope ovulation comes quicker for you too. I’m sure you’ve mentioned before, sorry, but how long did it take you the first time?

Sorry about the BFN. I hate TTC too. The endless emotional rollercoaster and the enviable crash every cycle when it hasn’t worked again. Take care of yourself ❤️

@HelloDarknessmyoldfrenemy the first time was 22 months. Crucially that wasn't 22 cycles, my pcos was really bad then so it was only actually I want to say 10 cycles or so. I got pregnant twice in that time, but the first was ectopic, the second was my now 2 year old.

Writing this I realise two pregnancies out of ten ish cycles is actually pretty good. It's just it didn't feel good at the time because I could be waiting months between cycles so it just took forever.

Have you contacted the GP to start some fertility testing?

I aim for every other day but so far it’s not worked out that way. Sometimes one of us just isn’t in the mood or we are unwell with the inevitable nursery germs that come with having a toddler. I’m still impressed you manage every day.

Think it’s a mixture of both