TTC after pregnancy loss- thread 23 🐧🐧

@YellowDaffodils86 I suddenly realised I have totally OUTED myself now haven’t I 😂😂😂

@MisBit1 - I forgot, congratulations!! Thats a positive! Fx for a sticky bean for you. Xx

@littleemma1 congratulations, you looked lovely. Also find it strange to see the actual person behind the screen name, strange in a good way.
I have celebrated our 1st wedding anniversary this weekend, time flies by!

@Boboelephant hey, ohh your an aussie, oddly that doesn't surprise me!
I have been working with an aussie vet for a while now, love hearing about things from home from her. She has currently gone back for a family event, and is going to bring me some tim tams back!
I am approaching FW i think, thats going by app. Im still waiting for my bbt thermometer to arrive, bit late in the day now though.
Iv had sore bbs since af this cycle and abundant creamy cm. its driving me crazy that i seem to lack consistency in this area!

@Cakelaur nice to see you👋🏻
Hows bean? How fr along are you?
Thank you for your blog piece, it definitely sounded familiar.

It seems most men don't really get it, my dh is the same.

@RedRobin7 how are things, hopefully all
Is ok, like others have said, brown is common. Xx

@sweetpea0318 glad you liked the link. I enjoy reading her blogs, although its a different issue, alot of feelings are similar.

Things im grateful for:
That i CAN have children and as far as i know have no real challenges in ttc.
My family- mine and in laws, not all perfect but then what is.
My career
Definitely the nhs
Friends- real and virtual 😜

@MisBit1 I'd say that's one big fat positive!!! But defo grab an frer or a digital to double check. 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@fnej01 aww you have similar to me. Mine came with a wonderful 12yr old stepson. Who (lucky us) is hitting teenage years early!! Hahaha!!

@MisBit1 can you get a high street test today? They all look positive to me but with partial lines it probably best to pick up a different type for confirmation. Tentative congratulations!

Loving all the positivity on here ladies. Sending extra positive thoughts your way and hoping for more sticky beans this month. xxx

I couldn’t wait for a response and I didn’t chicken out. The top two are a different batch to the bottom one which I did first perhaps less sensitive? Omg I can’t stop shaking.

@sunshineSparklesSmiles so sorry AF has got you. All the hugs to you Mother Nature is a bitch.

@cakelaur that blog post had me in tears but what a man singing Disney songs!

I’m forever grateful for my amazing DH and my gorgeous DS they both make me smile and laugh everyday.

I’m on CD32 my cycle pre miscarriage were 29 days so my app had me due on on Friday. It’s only today I’ve reached 14DPO so I’ve not considered myself late yet. My big question this morning (and it’s quite a pressing one cos I’m desperate to pee!) is to test now or not to test?

Ideally I’d like to leave it a bit later. I don’t feel pregnant but I don’t feel like af is coming either. However there is slap cheek going around at school so I want to know before Wednesday when I’m next in...I might just chicken out and wait until tomorrow.

Well my AF arrived overnight. I'm so disappointed as I really wanted to believe those positive tests. I didn't think AF would arrive if I still had HCG in my system so I guess there's a small chance this was a chemical. I can't bear to think of it like that so will try and do my best to regroup ready for next time. All the best to everyone waiting on their BFPs x

Am loving the gratitude posts so here goes.

I have an amazing OH who no matter how much cr@p I sling at him, I know I am the centre of his universe and him mine. I am so grateful to find my soulmate. With OH comes a 12 year old stepson, whom I love to bits and am very fortunate has accepted me as a second mum. I have an annoying (but loveable) black and white cat that has been a great cuddle through the last few weeks. I have a successful career, and we have a lovely home, with enough money to enjoy a good life. I have some amazing friends who have been around for nearly 30 years now and who continue to support me through thick and thin. All in all I have a very blessed life.
Thank you all for the ongoing perspective and support. Wishing you all well. X

If anyone wants to join my positive thread you're welcome to:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3277012-Staying-Sane-Positivity-during-TTC-journey

It's there to read through for anyone struggling to feel positive but wanting to read some positive posts too, you don't have to post yourself if you're not feeling up to it. It's really helped me refocus to more positive things after MC and recent CP.

@Cakelaur haha gotta love Disney!

@Boboelephant I've only been twice but mine and DHs birthday are both in April so I think we're going to go next April (if I'm not heavily pregnant by then) and make it a yearly thing. Do you go back often?

Just come downstairs to find my OH singing at the top of his voice to Disney songs! 😂🤣 I love this man so much!! He MAY have had a bottle of wine!

@Boboelephant my mum is from Christchurch, my dad from wellington, most of my cousins are in Auckland, I was born in Tauranga. I go every 5 years or so. Hoping to go with new bub in feb and take hubby. My mum and dad go back at least once a year. My god parents are in Melbourne.

Guys! Tearing up at your gratitude posts - we WILL all have healthy babies!
Is anyone else testing tomorrow? I’m 9dpo today and my boobs are like rocks, getting hot flashes too (was the same with both previous pregnancies) BUT I am a serial symptom spotter so it could go either way 😂

@Boboelephant where in oz are you from? My dad lives in Brisbane! It's a beautiful place!

He did live in Auckland, NZ for 10 years prior to that too

I love that everyone is jumping on the positive thinking vibe.

@Boboelephant I didn't know you were and Aussie. I'm technically a kiwi (born but not raised) both my parents are kiwis but luckily I have them here with me now.
I just missed you guys and wanted to come spread some love to you all. Plus re-reading what I wrote at the beginning of the year really brought it all back and reminded me of the pain that all of you lovely ladies are still going through.

It's also nice to see so many supportive amazing partners in our lives. You here so many stories about douche bag guys and looks like we can all say we've got good 'uns.

@Boboelephant thanks hun. I know I shouldn't get my self all up set about TTC but its difficult. But @Cakelaur is right and I'm adopting that mantra and I'm gonna say it to myself every time I'm winding myself up

@cakelaur your blog post brought a tear to my eye but was a heartfelt piece that I can relate to at times.

@redrobin7 fingers crossed for you that this is just a normal pregnancy symptom. Totally understand the anxiety.

I am grateful for my amazing DH who is a pillar of strength but also a good listener and even if he doesn't always understand me instinctively he is willing to hear me out to help him understand. And I am grateful for my gorgeous, chatty, car, train and plane mad nearly 2 year old DS - the cutest thing in the world that keeps me smiling every day. I am grateful for this group who I know are here for me and who have helped me understand and learn so much about this difficult, complex and painful process.

I second what @Cakelaur just said

And also I'd like to add to my grateful list you guys. Every single one of you!! And also having free health care! Sounds silly but when I went through the mmc... we couldn't have had better service.

Yes ladies!! I'm loving the positivity!! Positive attitude = positive womb = positive test!!!
This makes me so happy!

@redrobin7 keeping fingers crossed that all is ok. Completely get how scary it must be.

@cakelaur what lovely words and a great idea. I was welling up reading your post and @knitkitty's.

My gratitude list:
I'm so grateful to have a lovely home life - I have a fantastic husband who is really supportive and listens to me talking about the same things over and over! He makes me laugh and he's definitely the positive one who keeps me going through all these ups and downs. I have a gorgeous funny little daughter who makes me so proud every day and makes me laugh so much. I have great friends and family who I can talk to and lean on when I need it, and who I can call to have fun when I need a change of tempo!

I have tried to keep a gratitude journal before and this is inspiring me to start it up again.