TTC after miscarriage Thread 21. JKS

Hi ladies, going to take a jump headfirst into the middle of the huddle. Bleeding today which I think is not really AF as I prob didn’t ovulate but feels like it- if you see what I mean. This was expected so not too disappointed-although of course there’s always that hope... the bummer is I think this puts me out for next cycle too as fw is now likely to coincide with me being away with work for 5 days. Everything is clearly still a bit unsettled after mc though do I’ll just have to wait and see.

BUT @laney79 SO bloody pleased things have finally settled for you. Enjoy the rest of your hols and being back on the ttc mission.

Congrats on your scan @cakelaur. I always find seeing scan pics difficult but so so pleased for you.

@weasledee mine may have a middle name as marathon but @Boboelephant with have to give the first name Marathon!! Haha!! Nailed it with 12 days straight!! Hero!! 😂

@maxiflump1 here you go babe...

More cake for more babies... BFP after MCwww.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3270588-more-cake-for-more-babies-bfp-after-mc

Wonderful news cake so pleased! You'll have to give baby the middle name "marathon" in recognition of your efforts!!

@Cakelaur can you post a link to the more cake for more babies thread as I can't find it!

Sometimes have trouble keeping up with this thread it moves so fast!
@cakelaur congratulations on a fab scan hope you are feeling a bit better soon too.

@laney79 so glad to hear the bleeding has stopped and got can hopefully enjoy your holiday jks!

@l1zz13 sorry you are having a tough time as others have said maybe some counselling together would help. Take care x

Hope everyone else is doing ok.

Thank you for all your continued support ladies. You really are the most amazing bunch of women. I have everything crossed that you can all join me in the more cake for more babies thread!!!

@HidCat I'm glad you are looking forward to the new cycle. Hope it's the one for you.
@Lilimum4 try and keep yourself busy for the next week and then you should know a bit more with the scan too.
@Mistymeow hmm that's tough. Are you taking your temps at the same time each day after at least 3 hours uninterrupted sleep? It could be a similar issue that your body has geared up for ovulation but hasn't completed the process. I'd keep the dtd and temping. It's probably still coming. MC can definitely affect cycles! Sending hugs also. We've also been ttc for 18 months with EP and MMC and it's just horrendous.
@hayleyfx woohoo. Fx for tomorrow!
@sweetpea0318 thanks! We're cycle twins. Fx for both of us!
@Cakelaur so glad your scan went well! I think DH defi deserves some celebration sex tonight!! ❤👍Hope to be joining you on the other side soon!
@DaisyMay25 so sorry you're having pains. How awful. Hope they find the cause soon.
@Lovemysparkle hello! Ooh your wedding is so close! So exciting!!
@KnitKitty thanks so much hun!!
@littleemma1 enjoy the pouncing! I hope you're not ttc for long enough for the obsessing to start!
@strawberrye thanks hun. Sending hugs! I know how tough it is- hope you've got some good support IRL.
@Laney79 woohoo!!!! So glad it's stopped and you got some loving finally!!! I'm so happy for you! You've just had a shit time. Enjoy your holiday and jks!!!
@RedRobin7 haha MN medal! He'll love that. 😂 Glad DH has been a little on board, hopefully he's up for a bit more. The opk is hard as it depends how quickly your surge happens. It's not positive so probably will be more than a day but it is fertile time so dtd can't hurt! Especially as you are most fertile 2 days before ovulation.
@TedLife i wouldn't stress hun. Most people have some level of LH all the time so some people will get faint lines all through their cycle. That's why on IC the line has to be as dark or darker than test line. I usually start opks on day 8 and always have a faint line. It gets darker and sometimes lighter and then steadily darker a few days before ov. This month I had a faint line at day 8 and a positive on day 17. Keep testing but I reckon you're still a while away.
@L1zz13 I'm so sorry. That sounds very hard. Maybe you and DH need to seek some counselling together to process the MC.

@L1zz13 At least he's talking about it, I don't think any of us want to go through it again, but it's a risk we take. I hope you're ok.

@Cakelaur how lovely!! Not salt in the wound for me, I asked for it! Haha. You gonna find out the sex? At least you don't need to buy OH a Christmas present this year though!

@L1zz13 I'm sorry he feels like that. Is he wanting to put TTC on hold for a bit?

@L1zz13 I'm sorry to hear this. Maybe he just needs a break. Big hug to you

Sorry you're not having a good day littleemma1. It's still early days, just ride the waves. You'll feel better again. Did you stay at work in the end? It makes such a difference when you have supportive colleagues!

Hugs strawberrye. Let yourself have a wallow for a day, sometimes you just need to feel it; you'll get back to feeling positive again. xxx

Laney79 That's FANTASTIC news!!! Enjoy the JKS now you can get back to it! Looks like you're having a lovely holiday, it should do you the world of good, and who knows, maybe being relaxed will do the trick! Fingers crossed for you TTC again (at last!).

RedRobin7 I'm glad the sunshine has come out for the rest of your holiday. Try to just relax and enjoy it and JKS!

Cakelaur so glad everything is going well! You can see a proper little person in there! It's amazing!!! I keep going back to have another look at the scan. Using it for my visualisation of it happening for me too, so thank you. Congratulations again. I'm so, so happy for you!

Thanks for the tip off MrsGS76. White knickers for all! haha

So I know a few of you have mentioned your periods being very different since MC... Mine is acting very oddly for me. I'm having my second AF since MMC. The first one seemed pretty normal to be honest. It started off slowly, got heavier in the middle and then petered out again, lasted 8-9 days (this is normal for me, think the fewest days I've ever bled was 6) and was a pretty constant flow from start to finish.
This one however, I had one gush of bleeding on Saturday, practically nothing on Sunday bar some brown spotting, then heavy bleeding on Monday and Tuesday followed by today where I had a small amount in the morning and been dry as a bone ever since. Wondering if the bleeding is so different because of CP, but I'm wondering if it's just my body doing strange things after MC like others have experienced.
I'm going to test again once I'm sure the bleeding has completely stopped to make sure it's a BFN. I need to see it with my own eyes. I've not actually seen a BFN since starting TTC; I had an abundance of faint positives after MC. It was hospital who finally confirmed negative a week before my first AF, but I never saw that test.

@Cakelaur congratulations :) it brought a tear to my eye, but a happy tear of hope! ❤️

@Laney79 so jealous but I’ll be sure to send pics from my honeymoon in 5 weeks time 😜

@Cakelaur wow I'm so happy for you. Hope the rest of us will be joining you soon

@Cakelaur congratulations! Not rubbing salt into wounds at all- it's so nice to hear that there are success stories after such heartache, and it gives me hope that it will be me one day.

@TedLife I understand the nerves as I'm doing everything this month too. I have shorter cycles (24/25 days) so I was also getting a faint line on cd7 and got a strong positive cd10 and cd11. I would keep testing every day :)

@MrsGS76 thanks for the tip, I need new knickers!

@Cakelaur I'm so pleased for you! You must be bouncing off the walls! Congratulations!

@TedLife when in doubt Just Keep Shagging!

@Cakelaur wow super congested, fx for you all the way! Bet you are Looking forward to a fabulous Christmas with one more place setting...,
@TedLife I would personally recommend doing the test more than once a day to see if you get more faith t lines, if so JKS!!

And FYI ladies discussing white knickers (for looking out for CM and implantation bleeding ) M&S have 100% white cotton knickers, in a 4 pack for £5! All different styles, Bargain!! And there is a definite need for 100% cotton with this hot weather... x

@RedRobin7 they were always super predictable, 29 days exactly. Flo was always completely accurate with when my period was due (why I knew something was up when i was late last time!). I've never tracked ovulation before but we dtd a few days after Flo predicted ovulation last time which I thought was strange so maybe i ovulate later than the average 14 day time. That's why having a faint line on an OPK today felt a bit weird at cd6. Maybe I just need to keep testing?

@Cakelaur Congratulations!! So pleased for you that everything went well at the scan.

It's not rubbing salt in the wound for me. Although I found out about my MMC at my 12 week scan, your post brings me hope that some day I might just have a successful one!

@TedLife What were your cycles like before? I've had a random 23 day cycle before and that's caught me out. So I always start tracking as soon as my period has finished.

Hey ladies,

New to this as last time i was pregnant it just 'happened'! Did a cheapie OPK today and got a very faint line but i'm only on CD6 - this feels very early to start seeing anything on them - anyone have any advice? Feeling very nervous about TTC this month and want to get it right!

All safe and sound. With a little persuasion bub moved for us. It was genuinely the most amazing sight!! Best day of my life. Official due date is 17th December.

I hope this post only brings hope to others. If this feels like I'm rubbing salt in sore wounds I'm so so sorry.

I've attached a pic of my IC - what do you reckon, ovulate tomorrow maybe? Or possibly still more than a day away?

@Pancakes7 It's good to book things to look forward to. We booked this holiday we're on on the day of my surgery. We have one more thing booked to look forward to and that's a stay in a London hotel with a nice view in August. DH doesn't know about it yet - it's his bday present. In my head I've already worked out that I could be 12 weeks by then if we manage to conceive this week. Really not healthy to play that game but then I could also be 8 or 4 weeks if we try again in July or August... again still not healthy to overthink it all! 🙈

@littleemma1 I was relaxed before too. I did use app Flo to track but I only had 1 af. Only stopped pill start of Feb and conceived early March. I just hope its as easy this time round! Also same here. I won't tell dh when I ovulate I'll just go for it.

Feeling positive today. Finally feeling a bit more myself. @Boboelephant dh had a few drinks which convinced him! Lol I was so sleepy but thought strike while I can! I am hoping we get lucky and conceive without an af but I know realistically this probably won't happen. Just booked a theatre and dinner voucher we had for July. Good to have things to look forward to, keep us occupied. @Cakelaur Good luck for scan today.