Fab Forty-Plus! Where are the BFPs...

Hello!!! Sorry for being such a rubbish cheerleader of late - I have droopy pompoms and a too tight uniform but I am still firmly cheering you all on
Sorry to hear about the sad news on the thread with your dad gum and green's little lost bean . At the same time it is good to read of bfps and all the support that continues to make this such an inspirational thread.
I had a totally knackering 'holiday' though the change of scene was nice. Ds1 (age 5) had several tantrums every day which was odd and certainly added a certain something to the 2 weeks...In hindsight the 2 consecutive weeks going from one place to the other was too much. Remind me if this next year when I book!
Ds 3 will be 1 on he 11th October! He is such a cutie - very vocal but also a mummy's boy who loves his cuddles. This past 12 months has been harder than I would have imagined; the broken sleep and night feeds horrendous, though thankfully short lived. He's passed that baton onto ds2 now .
Off to Cardiff for a few days for work and REALLY looking forward to the hotel and sleep. Oh yes, will miss the LOs terribly .
Love to all xxx

Sorry Calibee, I meant it of course in my own personal context - i felt a bit this way,still do. it does not mean for me that other grandmothers should not! but for me it is an important fadtor which hopefully will give me a push to move on:-) I want to be over the ttc, badly so, just I can not be. No idea whether my rational mind will win over my emotional mind and I manage to doit,b ut I do not want to continue for much longer. I just lack the courage to say "enough".

Hello lovely ladies. still reading...still ttc, despite being a Granny to 2. Wow, have to say I was a little surprised at the comment from Jass re granny shouldn't be ttc, even a little offended. However I also remember how I felt when dd1 announced her pregnancy...she was 20, I was 39. It took some time to come to terms with, not least as I wasn't sure my child bearing days were over.
On a lighter note, this Granny (although I prefer Nana) is off to fertility clinic to receive my medication for stimulated IUI. . Love and luck to all.

AF turned up this morning. That gives me a LP of 12 days. Another nail in the coffin of ttc. It's nearly burial time I think....

Well, thank goodness for that Gum! Good to hear from you. I was starting to get paranoid.

I hope you are wrong about that damned AF... I feel like I should be cheering you on when you are being so positive about my symptoms. The timings for implantation pains were about right, but I have had so many shitty PMS symptoms these past few days I am just counting down to when the painters put in another appearance.

I shouldn't have asked re the tests. I have a FR in the bathroom. I am not testing until day 25!!

Of course you haven't killed the thread FF ! I don't have any good news. My boob tenderness has disappeared completely so I fully expect AF to arrive soon. I use First Response tests. I got positives at 9 & 10 dpo with my pregnancies over the last six years.

Your twinges could very well mean something FF as implantation can feel like AF twinges . It is not over yet .

Deige are you back from your holiday yet?

I've killed the thread again, haven't I?

Evening All

Cloud and NewErahow are you doing now? I hope you are feeling more positive even though AF has put in another unwelcome visit.

Matts I love that you conceived just as you were thinking it wouldn’t happen. I think a lot of use are hoping the same will happen.

Green how are you doing now? So sorry to hear you lost a twin and that the medics weren’t sympathetic. Why is it so difficult for women to be treated decently over these matters?

Grizzer hope DD enjoys her first full week at school. I used to nag my Mum for a little sister, but I was definitely the last of three as it had been pretty traumatic for them to have us.

Rainy congrats on the safe arrival of your little one. Wishing you and your family all the best.

Gum so sorry this cycle isn’t looking good. You’re a day ahead of me, post ovulation. What are the tests you are using? How are you so sure they’re accurate at this stage? Can you get better ones in the Southern Hemisphere??!!

So sorry to hear about your Dad. I hope that it is a mild form and hasn’t spread. Such a shame they’re not keeping you completely in the picture. There isn’t much you can do at the moment for your Dad though until you know the full picture, so save your energies for when they really need you, difficult though that might be. I know it can be very uncomfortable when you don’t know the full story.

Jass Oh my goodness! Well, congratulations on becoming a Grandmother soon!! It’s funny, I was looking at a women in the supermarket the other day. She had her daughter with her, who looked early 20s and was pushing a pram with her newborn in. I had to have a good look at the Granny and try and work out if people would class me in the same age group. I am certain we were the same age.

So my plan of emailing DH a timeframe of my possible fertile window didn’t seem to work. sigh. He has been saying that he isn’t aware of when that is… so I give him the information….and nothing….This is along with gentle daily hints about what the fertility monitors reading are. He doesn’t like it when I’m upfront… he doesn’t like it when I’m subtle…. I’d better get those Yes/No pillows printed up… You’d think he wasn’t keen for DC2 wouldn’t you??!! I think he’s just too damn lazy to get down to business without being nagged, which is not great, really! I told him to put in some more effort now and maybe he will get then next 40 weeks off from DTD. Maybe the rest of our married lives even!! Am 8DPO and although I have been getting some very exciting twinges which has led to some momentary fantasising about them being implantation pains, I am pretty sure it’s plain old AF gearing up for Friday.. I have been experiencing fairly severe web stalking today which points fairly conclusively to AF being on the way.

Well, off to bed for me. Bitey boy is starting his nursery school induction tomorrow. I hope he won’t be attacking his classmates like he does kids in the playground, Mummy, Daddy and his friends… I don’t think I can take the shame.

Night all. FF xx

Sorry Gum tour parents think in a negative way. Being positive should be such a big part of fighting this disease, but you can not change people especially at their old age. Hope the news on spreads will come back good.

My daughter lives in Estonia, and I have 20 months left of my stay in Luxembourg, so i will miss out the baby year, but of course we can visit more often than we fly over noe,an d work takes me back there for couple of days rather often. But from spring 2016 we will be all in the same country and same town. Her pregnancy dated close to my lost one does not bother me at all. I have lost so many that have due dates spread over the year and have forgotten most of them anyway. Being used to mc is a sad thing, but in fact I am. I badly need only to lose my gained 4kg, but any thought of diet sends me into overeating spiral, so maybe I just have to forget about it. Plenty of stuff inm y wardrobe still fits, so not hurry. But I am now hovering around 25BMI, which is uncomfortable. I have never been medically onerweight and am scared of stepping into that territory. Still 24,7, but uncomfortably close.....

Hi ladies.

My sister phoned last night with some news, but not much. Which is understandable at this stage. Dad has had an mri and blood tests to see if there are secondaries. When they have this information they will know what to do next. I am not sure if the urologist spoke to them about options. My sister said they are sounding very negative and my dad thinks he has had a death sentence. Honestly, I wish they were glass half full types, but they most certainly aren't. Perhaps it makes no difference to outcomes, but I have always thought that positive thinking is powerful (though it still hasn't helped me get my PLB). It also sounded like they don't want to talk to anyone, so I am not going to call them yet.

Jass - that is wonderful news about your daughter. You must be very happy about that, but I would understand if you also felt a little upset for yourself as you are only just getting over a miscarriage.

Despite the feeling that I have no chance at a pregnancy, after having particularly sore breasts with very dark nipples, I did a test this morning at 9 dpo. It was negative, but I am not at all surprised. I am a bit surprised that I bothered testing. It's habitual I think.

I spent a lovely couple of hours on the beach with DH and DS yesterday.The sun was out and it was perfect down there. We had a lovely time, and I think,more and more, it make sense to move on from ttc, to make other plans. I know I've been saying it for a long time, but perhaps it is coming more naturally now. I only have a couple of cycles before my 48th birthday. Then I think I must make an effort to give up all things ttc, including mumsnet. It just seems to spur me on.

But not yet

Glad to hear you're physically over your miscarriage jass, though it can be more difficult and slower to recover emotionally as we know, so do look after yourself x
It is wonderful to hear the news about your daughter, how exciting! Does she live near you?
Being a grandmother may make you feel differently about ttc, but I had thrown away my ov tests and stopped temping when our little miracle happened..... and I'm older than you.......just saying!
Hope you've heard by now how your Dad got on in the hospital gum, how frustrating not knowing and not being able to contact your parents!
Congrats on your baby girl Rainy , hope you're managing to get some sleep!
Sorry AF arrived NewEra.
Great your DD was happy to start school Grizzer, hope the novelty doesn't wear off after the first few days! My DD2 is in her last year of primary school so feels very grown up and important. The little reception children looked so small and cute in their school uniforms!

Gum, sorry about your worries! I hope you have the news by now.
i feel like packing it in for good as well. Have finally tested neg even on sensitive test, so I am physically over my mc. i have urges to throw my ov tests into bin, but know I would regret it as soona s ewcm shows.
I have heard the news that I will be grandmother next year in April. ir has taken the edge off of all this ttc business for moment. Grandmothers do not ttc. If it happens it happens, but I now try to live on and forget about it all. My life is too good to spoil it by wrong results on pee sticks when there is a younger generation in the family who can come off the pill and be pg in few weeks:-)))

Hello Rainyafternoon. Congratulations on your baby girl. Wonderful news! Yes I was hopefulgum, but I changed back to Gumblossom after I got pregnant, but lost another.

Newera, sorry to hear af turned up. Try not to be gutted, just get back on that horse and try again.

Thanks for your kind thoughts about my dad.

He would have seen the specialist on Thursday (it is now Saturday here) and my mum hasn't called to tell me what is going on. I struggle to understand why she wouldn't just call one of us (four kids) and let us know what the Dr said. They may not be back home, and they refuse to get a mobile phone (very frustrating), but they would have stayed in a hotel which would have a telephone. It makes me as I would be more considerate in her shoes. All she has to do is call one of us and we'd let the others know.

Anyway, I guess I will hear eventually. I'll keep trying to call them at home, but if they're still in the city there's not much I can do.

I'm now 8 dpo, but not feeling very hopeful. Getting very close to packing it in for good.

Hello, I've not been on this thread, but was on the previous one where I received lots of support and advice esp from hopeful gum (is that you Gum blossom?) as I was just about to give up in my quest for another baby after two miscarriages.

So I just wanted to pop back and say thank you, and let you know my beautiful six week old girl is here with me sitting on my lap. All is well - pregnancy was uneventful (from a medical POV - our life - with redundancies and new jobs in France - well thats a whole different story!) Birth was quick and good and all's well. My midwife is trying to convince me to go for another, but with three healthy kids and at 43 I think I'll be calling it quits now!

Good luck to you all, I wish all you strength and blessings in your journey.

Sorry to hear about your dad, Gum. Hope you get some good news soon.
Congrats bfps! We're on a bit of a roll at the moment. I'm just finishing AF so back to it soon!
Dd started school today. She was so happy & excited. Her first words this morning were: will I be a big sister now I'm starting school? Ouch!

Argh, not pregnant this cycle, gutted

gum so sorry to hear about your Dad, it must be a very difficult time for you x
Congrats mama! My DD3 was conceived just as we were coming to terms with giving up ttc too. Hope you do have a boring and uneventful pregnancy!
Sorry AF got you cloud x
How are you green? It's a time of such mixed emotions, naturally you'll grieve for the little one you lost but there's every chance you'll go on to have a normal pregnancy with the remaining baby x
I've been thinking about you Jass ,hope you're ok x
Sorry not to namecheck more people, wishing everyone ttc well

gumblossom - thanks for the congrats but sorry to hear your news about your dad. Yes, you definitely are due some good news so will keep everything crossed for your bfp.

No, we didn't do anything different, I was using the clearblue predictor and often we were only having sex about once a month round fertile time It took about 22 cycles (DS 2 took about 13 cycles). However, for us it was very much an added bonus baby, would have been very different if it was first or even second. My periods had become more irregular over the last year at least though so I was starting to think it wouldn't happen. Just as we were coming to terms with this... so, yes, hopefully completely boring pregnancy.

gum So sorry to hear about your DF - it's the news that no one ever wants to have. Wishing you and your family lots of strength. Please try and take some comfort in the fact that PC these days is very treatable, with very good outcomes. Fingers crossed for your dad.

Congrats mama! Here's to a boring and uneventful pregnancy!

AF has arrived today Re-set the OV monitor, started a new chart on FF. Back on working my way up to ovulation and the next 2ww. I can't say how fed up I am with this at the moment!

Hi everyone. I've just had the news that my dad has prostate cancer. I've started a thread here rather than type it all out again.

What with FIL so ill too, I hope a bfp will be at the end of this cycle to cheer me (and the family)up!

mamalatts, congratulations! May it all go smoothly for you.

It is nice to see so many bfp's. It gives us hope. Did you do anything different this time?

Lia, I meant to ask you the same thing - were you doing anything in particular which would have helped your fertility? Apart from having sex...

Woohoo!! Another one!! Congrats *mamaslatts!

Hello! Thank you. Bit shell shocked at the minute. x

Bravo!!!

Just got a BFP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Haven't been on the 40+ threads for months and only came on sporadically anyway. I'd been trying for nearly 2 years so not quite believing it still...

Just wanted to tell someone (other than DH)