March bus..let's get this mad March hare going.....

Nordic I just viewed the response to your post on that page and quite frankly I have to say how bloody disgusted I am in what she said to you. How dare she be so mean just because you were blessed with children after such a difficult time. Don't think I've ever been so angry in my life

TTC number 3, AF/ BFP due 4th March.
Having some heartburn and v mild nausea, am 9 dpo. Hoping it's not my imagination.

Also I've never taken out my misery on other people I don't even know

Yes sazzle , I just looked at the first page and thought it might be good for me to also talk to people who have had repeated losses and much medical treatment like I have . I didn't see anything about trying for #1 only so I did ask if I could join and gave my pretty detailed miserable history . Apparently not miserable enough . I've had IVF as well so know what that's like and as a result of fertility treatment have now a debilitating lifelong illness and it did take 5 y to have dd . I just didn't give up and was determined to have a child which ever way I could and believed in the end I would get there . I did with a price I don't think most people would pay specially since I could have gone about it a different way if I'd known the dangers. I had to listen to other peoples happy news for years and have never had any one to talk to in RL who would have gone through anything like me.
I've always been wary of threads like that and have to say that was pretty much the first bit of bitchiness I've encountered on mn . Right ...I'll stay with the positive people .life is hard enough .
Ps I would understand the reaction if I'd had it easy but nobody in their right mind could say I have . Also most likely the time those ladies have been at it for 5 y straight and exhausted every option including IVF, egg/sperm donation, surrogacy or adoption they will also have had their longed for baby. I actually believe where there's a will there's a way . And although life can be absolutely horrible everyone is ultimately responsible for their own happiness . No one else can change your life for you .
Anyway sorry for ranting . I got angry because I so wanted support but wasn't welcome.
I need a nap before getting DS . Continue to feel like throwing up all day long and am really struggling .
Hopefully some one gets good news soon I need to cheer up . Am getting all emotional feel like crying now silly me I think it's all bubbling onto the surface
I hid the thread dont want to read their other responses

Nordic - I only reccomened it to Shelly really for that reason. I think they are happy for ttc no2 or more but from what I've read - i've read not just the pages there but been lurking for months reading up as like I said they are super knowledgable about ivf and the like and for a while i thought it was a road i was going down with no2...however like i said, they like a swear and yes perhaps it is worth always checking what they are like before posting! There are many groups on here that aren't keen on 'bfp' and darling this and that....hun, baby dusting and all that. I know from what i've read some of them have been through the mill to even get a sniff of one kid, so i guess they don't know your full story, but you do have kids and that is always going to hurt those that still don't. I'm not defending rudeness but I understand it is perhaps just their way of protecting their sanity...as we all know ttc sends you bonkers, and that is so for people without problems, so for those with serious fertility issues i can't imagine how mad you become....

Nothing to do with ttc but my lo and I have just been attacked by a wasp, it's only bloody Feb, what's going on, lol...

Sazzle I had a look at the thread u said about and made the grave mistake of posting without reading the 24 p since I was busy . Big mistake ... Didn't know know it was ttc#1 only since it didn't say it in the beginning . They weren't exactly welcoming :(

Hello bus, I been catching up and know it was a few days ago, but stumbled across MrsB's message and thought it was lovely and worth a quote:

The stats help remind me that I'm not the only woman in the world ttc and there is someone out there expecting their bfp before and after me - my weird but wonderful way of thinking

hang in there ladies!

Not read everything, but been reading for your updates Sara.
Glad no full blood, that's great news.
You CAN self refer to the EPU yourself, you do not need the say so of your gp
Tell them you've had an early mc before, have spoken to a mw and they've recommended a scan. They prefer 5 weeks plus but they can scan at anytime and see a sac and yolk.
If it'll put your mind at rest, go!!

Thanks Sazzle - I will try to be firm. I feel like 10months in total of trying warrants at least a blood test, but I know many have been trying a lot longer so understand Im by no means an urgent case! Im planning to go armed with everything I want to say noted down so I dont forget. Hopefully its just a case of being patient but it would be nice to have the reassurance

Hope everything is going well for you so far!

Genni, I think it depends on doctor. Be fairly firm if you think they will just wave you off...I think it always helps if they have kids of their own - they understand then what it must be like to struggle to concieve. Good luck, my gp was good, very matter of fact and we started the inital blood test without any bother.

Shelly - wow what a journey. The ladies on this bus are amazingly supportive and fun so you'll be well looked after. However if you need more specific IVF support this thread is ace. They seem to swear a lot! but they are honest and knowledgeable about ivf and infertility in general. I lurked for a long time while I debated this route before I luckily got upduffed. Have a read and see if they are for you! Good luck!

Morning everyone,

Been doing my opks and I get a faint line, know its not positive for ov until its clear but im taking it as a sign it (an egg!) Is limbering up ready to make a quick getaway soon! Off for a night away with dh today, hopefully lots of dtd and a bfp in march! X

Thanks all. I'm booked in with a male doctor for Tuesday morning so fx. I can always see someone elsebut im sure he'll be fine!

Good luck retro for the doctors call. Hope you can track them down!

fingers crossed Retro - I have heard that with PCOS (which I have) they are not very useful maybe the same for your condition?

We just booked a holiday this week for April so DH thinks if nothing comes up before then we can make a New York baby!

Just called the surgery for the results of my blood test... I've got to call back to speak to the actual doctor who referred me. Who thankfully is in this evening, though the receptionist sounded distinctly cagey about whether she'd even be there. I just want to know!

Cycle is feeling relatively normal this month though, I keep POAS (OPK) and still nothing yet.

Thanks cth1982 All this bloody waiting about it doing strange things to my brain! FFWD to BFP all round please!

Morning Ladies,

mama glad to hear the spotting has stopped! Sara hope everything is well and the BFP stays just that - sending lots of good wishes to you both.

big hugs poly - can I share the chocolate - still waiting for any sign of ovulation - last month it came really late (has some great cramps and everything) so just sitting waiting now...

Think we might need a new bus soon, I'd do it but not got a clue how to on my phone

I like the male doctors at my surgery better than the female, I find they take me a lot more serious and the male specialist who helped me through my complicated pregnancy with ds2 was amazing x

Hi genni.

I'm not sure at the GP level I suppose it would depend on the individual doctor. I did however have a very good male obstetrician who looked after me through my very complicated pg with my DS. I wouldn't have swapped him!

Thanks Ladies. Your support means a lot. i dont have anyone I can talk to in RL so it helps to know you are all here. Tthough I am thinking of telling my mum just so I have someone.

Can I ask - for those of you who have seen your doctor, do you think it matters if you see a male or female doctor? I usually prefer seeing a female doctor but cant get an appointment until the end of March with one. Do you think seeing a male doctor matters? Will they still take me seriously do you think?

Thanks linda, that's good to know. Think different health trusts do things differently don't they. But I can only ask! Hope your ICs turn up pronto

Genni - don't know what to say other than hugs. You are not definitely out yet. Probably worth just going to the doctor - they can check you both out and either put your minds and rest or help where you need it xx

Morning

Welcome Shell....hoping you get your bfp very soon!

Mama good to hear spotting has stopped.

Sara, hope spotting stays away for you, horrible not knowing what's going on.

Good morning Ladies.

Lots of ups and downs this morning. I hope everyone's got some high quality chocolate on hand! I'd preach the "stay positive" cliche but I'm not feeling it this morning either. DS has had me up all night and I'm questioning the reality of actually having another LO to look after. Was this all a bad idea? I hope not! 1dpo today. No looking back now!

Morning ladies, sorry for the bfns but you're not out til the red butch arrives!
Really hope this cycle is the one for you Shell, sounds like you've had a long journey! Good luck!

Mama- no spotting! That's great news! Fingers crossed you have a sneaky BFP hiding in there!! 11dpo is still early